Blog reader Alvin quite recently left a comment on sex and its appeal for inexperienced men on the latest Open Thread. I quote the main part: For me personally, I think when I didn’t have sex there was a kind of “mystique” about it. Once I had it however, that mystique faded; I found that… Continue reading You need to stop viewing sex as oh-so special
While we have grown very skeptical of the idea of keeping a woman around for a long-term relationship, with the exception of the truly exceptional ones, the average Joe still wants to have a girlfriend or a wife at all costs. Thus, it is interesting to look at what those costs include. I find them… Continue reading The true cost of a woman
Some time ago one of my clients asked me how to avoid drama in your life. Let’s say you bang a lot of women. Sooner or later, you’ll come across someone crazy. She could be a stalker, she could be a crazy feminist who is pissed at the world and is looking for a man… Continue reading Seducer survival tip: Don’t give her your name
In my last article, Your sex drive vs. your desire of picking up women, I mentioned that one motivation behind my wild seducer days was that I was pretty obsessed with sex for a while. It’s doubtful whether I could seriously have called myself a sex-addict, but seeing how wishy-washy a discipline psychology is, I… Continue reading Determination and pickup
Some days ago a reader pointed me to Blackdragon’s blog. That is a guy I first encountered on the old mASF forum about a decade ago. I don’t have the impression that he’s stupid, but I always had the impression that his priorities are a bit odd. For one, back then he insisted on solely… Continue reading Your sex drive vs. your desire of picking up women
In my last post, “It is hard to figure out how to do a relationship properly”, I made the argument that “doing” a relationship properly is not difficult in general. It is only difficult for crazy women. As the examples of encounters with crazy women I described was rather extreme, I’d like to elaborate on… Continue reading Why you’ll meet crazier women through one-night stands
In my most recent bashing of Lauren Southern, I mocked her, among others, for making the claim that it is hard to figure out how to do a relationship properly. If you have only ever encountered typical Western women, you are probably inclined to agree with that statement, but let’s dig a little bit deeper.… Continue reading “It is hard to figure out how to do a relationship properly”
Alek Novy just shared a video in which a female matchmaker rants because her female clients had expectations that were completely out of touch with reality. Apparently, they all wanted the buff dominant-but-cucked 22 year-old billionaire who has so little self-respect that he would settle for a run-of-the-mill trashy woman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6ONHDmDD8s Apparently she closed her… Continue reading Female matchmaker has enough of women with unrealistic expectations
Alek Novy just left an excellent comment on my post on the feminist #metoo circle jerk, which deserves wide attention. He systematically dismantles the myth of sexual harassment and male power, until he arrives at the one category of girl a high-quality male, according to feminists, is allowed to get involved with, and only under… Continue reading According to feminism, your only option is to wait for ugly girls to approach you (Guest post by Alek Novy)
I recently came across an article by one Andy Verderosa with the title, One Man’s Quest to Calculate his Lifetime Average Cost-per-Date. The article itself is not very interesting, but there is one obvious consideration the author does not take into account, which I am going to elaborate on. First, here is the key part… Continue reading The true “true cost” of dating
I occasionally listen to Aaron Clarey’s YouTube videos when I need an excuse for playing a few rounds of Tetris. I tend to agree with most of what he says, but on a few rare occasions he makes statements that only make me shake my head. In particular, a lot of what he has to… Continue reading No, Aaron Clarey, picking a fattie and slimming her down is a bad idea
In my last post I, Men who don’t seriously date in their early 20s dodge bullets, I discussed the downfalls of settling down in one’s adolescence. I also elaborated on why it’s a shockingly bad decision to marry a girl your own age, or, even worse, one who is older than you. My appeal to… Continue reading The importance of post-orgasmic clarity in dating
A few weeks ago I visited my parents for a few days. As they don’t need the space, they kept my room the way it was when I moved out. This put me in the convenient position that I never really had to go through my things and decide what I wanted to keep. However,… Continue reading Men who don’t seriously date in their early 20s dodge bullets
While the PUA industry as a whole has gone bust, there are still a few stragglers around who prey on moronic men. One such PUA is “Johnny Berba”. I wasn’t familiar with him, but Alek Novy posted a video of that guy on one of the recent Open Threads. Watch the video first, please: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WyTvar6Qd5c… Continue reading Cringe-worthy PUA is proud of picking up land whale
My view on dating has changed quite radically over the last year or so. While I used to buy into the Western concept of “dating for fun”, where you meet someone, kind of get along, and then just give it a try, and nothing is ever serious, I have come to much more appreciate a… Continue reading The absurdity of splitting up due to personality differences
This is another old and unpublished post of mine, which I originally wrote in early 2010. I recently received an email in which a guy made an interesting observation while reading through some of my earliest public forum posts: “In one of your post, you wrote how you had trouble sleeping next to a new… Continue reading When learning how to pick up girls, every step closer to the goal is valuable
I’m still going through files that I have amassed over the last 5 to 10 years. While doing so, I unearthed anther article, which I completed but never posted anywhere. The context was that back then, some PUAtards wrote about “neediness management”, which I thought was yet another nonsensical concept. The claim was that guy… Continue reading Neediness Management — A Problem that takes care of itself
I just came across two screenshots I have taken some time ago, one from Reddit, and the other from my old blog. They were taken at different times, but they make a wonderful juxtaposition as they illuminate the difference of the delusions undesirable men and women harbor when it comes to long-term relationships. We have… Continue reading Male vs female delusions about SMV for long-term relationships
It’s been a while since I’ve written about yellow fever. What I’ve noticed, certainly much more online than in real life, is that there is quite a bit of resentment against guys who date Asian bombshells with a sky-high IQ and a pleasant personality. The reactions of white men and white women are quite different,… Continue reading “You’re only dating Asian because you can’t get white girls, waaah!!”
When I think of my bros, I get the impression that none of them ever wanted to have children. Those of them who do, however, all accidentally impregnated their girlfriends or fuck buddies, who were then able to upgrade their relationship to marriage. In the underclass, that kind of behavior may be unusual. Their women… Continue reading The male vs female perspective on wanting to have children
Note: I just came across this post, which I wrote four years ago but apparently never posted. The context was, once again, PUA shilling on my old blog, which strangely enough completely stopped after the commercial PUA industry collapsed. Recently [edit: in early 2013!] someone left the following comment on my blog, attempting to justify… Continue reading Mark Manson’s dubious “5 to 10 minute screening” technique
Blog reader Jake left a fabulous comment on my post “Asian women are stealing our white men!”, which deserves to be read by more of you guys. To me, what the typical Western woman offers is akin to a bowl of rotten food, sold at exorbitant prices. Sure, if you think that is what food… Continue reading Reader Comment: “Dating my first Asian woman made me loathe Western women!”
I voiced my disapproval of YouTuber “Blonde in the Belly of the Beast” in my last post already, but in more general terms. As I dug around some more, I noticed that she has a video on YouTube for men, telling them how to “overcome unattractive beta qualities”. It’s a crock of shit, to be… Continue reading Bad dating advice from “Blonde in the Belly of the Beast”
(Note: this is another post that is based on an old draft. The reference to Alek Novy is about a very active discussion on my old blog, where we dissected the “social contract” in dating, i.e. men approach women, which leaves women initially powerless, but spares them from rejection.) We’ve heard the feminist bullshit: men… Continue reading The true power dynamics on the sexual market place
Note: this is an article I wrote several years ago, which I just unearthed on my hard drive. I made some minor edits before publishing it. The final two paragraphs are new, though. I’ve written about the problems of women who think that 30 is the new 20, and the rather uncomfortable position they are… Continue reading Dating in high school, college, and beyond
I previously highlighted some of the utterly horrifying stories that can be found in abundance on the “relationships” board on Reddit. It’s essentially one train wreck after another. There is one aspect of that board that I’ve either missed, or which was recently added: as I just noticed, the logo of that board is —… Continue reading Something bizarre about reddit/relationships
I would like to highlight a comment, which was left by blog reader James some times ago, on the peculiar issue that nasty bitches want us alpha males to lower our standards and instead of joining the MGTOW movement or pairing up with young, attractive women, pick them instead. James succinctly summarized their double standard:… Continue reading According to fat feminists, only men need to lower their standards
The West has gained absolutely nothing from “free love” or its modern manifestations: clubs, bars, and Tinder. What did we gain by undermining the family unit? It certainly was nothing positive. We used to have mom, dad, and 2.5 children per household. Divorce used to be rare. Divorce furthermore used to be heavily discouraged by… Continue reading Hook-up culture and the degeneracy of the West
The other day I was bantering with one of my bros. He told me about one of the girls he is seeing. It was pretty clear that she was only a nice piece of ass to him. Then again, to her he was largely only an alpha cock, with the addition that she somehow deluded… Continue reading Dumb Girl ROI: College or boob job?
Following up on my last post, Horny little sluts make for bad girlfriends or wives, I’d like to elaborate a bit on facials. As much fun as it may be to give a slut a facial, it should be pretty clear that it is a rather demeaning act. The bigger picture is that some PUA… Continue reading Ladies, facials are demeaning!
Here are some notes from Capt. Obvious on slutty women and why you should not seriously date them, inspired by a comment left by Chuck on my post on born-again virgins. He wrote: Oh how true this is! A girl I used to “date” I met during a threesome when she was in her late… Continue reading Horny little sluts make for bad girlfriends or wives
I just came across a recent psychology paper that maps personality disorders and traits. This fits nicely with some of my recent articles, in which I highlighted that traditional women, i.e. non-Western women, make for much better partners. The paper is called Genome-wide analyses for personality traits identify six genomic loci and show correlations with… Continue reading Want a sane girl? Psychology research tells you what to look for!
Blog reader “Manuel S.” asked a question about born-again virgins in response to my post, The kinds of women you should not date: But what about [women who] disavow of their past and “find Jesus”? They in theory become conservative women, right? Can a man afford to buy that conversion? The answer should be obvious,… Continue reading Don’t fall for “born-again virgins”
Following up on my last post, I’d like to add one important aspect: if you are a man with not a lot of options, you are arguably a lot better off not dating instead of taking a pick from the bottom of the barrel. Recall that when it comes to women, the bottom of the… Continue reading The kinds of women you should not date
When I want to have a good laugh, I stop by Reddit and check out the “marriages” and the “relationships” board. You wouldn’t believe what you find on there. Here is one of my favorites: How do I tell my wife that one income isn’t going to work? My wife had been out of work,… Continue reading Reddit/Marriage: husband makes a shit salary, wife doesn’t want to work
The other day I was bantering with a friend of mine. At one point, we were bullshitting each other about the possibility to quantify that great relationships with women are immensely better than poor ones. The implication is simply that a poor relationship drains you and makes you hate your life. On the other hand,… Continue reading Bad versus healthy relationships
A popular claim among “enlightened” Western women is that it is a double standard that men are encouraged to fuck around, but women aren’t. If you are a stud, you are worthy of adoration. Yet, if Jill wants to do what Joe does, she is a slut, and gets looked down upon. More recently, some… Continue reading No, the slut/stud dichotomy is not a double standard
We take the advances of technology as well as the erosion of morality for granted. Yet, a mere twenty years ago access to the Internet was not easy to get by. Ten years ago, you would have been an early adopter with an account on Facebook. Five years ago Tinder was far from being mainstream.… Continue reading Sex is Serious
In light of my recent post on the bullshit claim that married men live longer, I’d like to tear another oft-repeated and related claim to shreds. It is the claim that men live longer when they marry younger spouses. You’ll find plenty of sources on that. It goes back to an allegedly solid academic study.… Continue reading No, you won’t live longer just because you got a young spouse
Alek Novy left a longer comment today, which deserves wider attention. I’m replicating it below with very minimal editing. Today I looked at my Facebook feed, and I noticed the same thing I always notice. My feed is full of feminist status updates about women’s rights. – Not a single one of them is even… Continue reading Guest Post: Thank God for Facebook and ugly chicks (by Alek Novy)
I recently watched Grizzly Man, a documentary on a rather unfortunate fellow named Timothy Treadwell. That guy devoted his life to befriending bears, grizzly bears, to be exact. The documentary is well-made. You have Werner Herzog narrating with a heavy German accent, and see plenty of videos of Timothy interacting with bears. There was just… Continue reading What you can learn from Grizzly Man for dating
On my last post How to ruin relationships in one easy step, blog reader Houdini stated that a lot of men are in denial of the fact that the vast majority of Western women are unfit for a relationship, and wondered why that was the case. So why is that? The answer is simple: if… Continue reading Why Western men put up with crappy Western women
I have done a lot of soul searching the last few months. One of the topics I tried gaining some clarity on was on why relationships fail, and what could be done to prevent it. The sobering conclusion I drew is that there is very little you can do to save a relationship once it… Continue reading How to ruin relationships in one easy step
I had an interesting coaching call at the end of last year, which had a lot to do with cognitive dissonance. As we all know, girls quickly drop that they have a boyfriend when they want to get rid of you. Some girls spout this out almost reflexively. Heck, I once approached a girl by… Continue reading When she clearly likes you but tells you she has a boyfriend
Some days ago I promised writing a post on the dark side of picking up women. I think this is a topic that is hardly addressed. To be completely frank: I don’t think that what I am going to write about is applicable to your garden-variety PUA who is willing to fuck literally anything, and… Continue reading Picking up women causes emotional damage
Here is another great reader comment. Alek Novy has a few words for people who complain about “negativity”. While such people are, in my opinion, concern trolls who do not deserve any attention, Alek’s eloquent comment certainly does. The number one reason guys don’t get as much success with women as they can… is because… Continue reading Featured Reader Comment: For Guys Complaining about “Negativity” (by Alek Novy)
Isidia left a great comment on my article Reminder: Women can be pretty great. I thought it deserved more attention, so I’m replicating it in full below. A guy whose laycount has reached triple digits is arguably the one who is wounded most by his conquests. Along with the emotional rollercoaster he experienced with his… Continue reading Featured Reader Comment: The Player as a Victim of his Success (by Isidia)
When we discuss women, and dealing with women, and all the stress and trouble they cause, it’s easy to get the impression that we’re a bunch of misogynists. That’s not an impression I’d like to give, though. Admittedly, I have had plenty of negative experiences with women, but they pale in comparison to the many… Continue reading Reminder: Women can be pretty great
When you look back at PUA theories of yore, you’ll get the impression that their creators were unable to deal with uncertainty. In order to achieve a certain outcome, they invented a bazillion of steps, like “overcoming last-minute resistance”, which is pretty much a bogus idea to begin with. For some, like Mystery, getting a… Continue reading You can never be certain with girls
Probably every dude who has female friends — no not chicks who “friend-zoned” you but women who groom you as a backup in case things go sour with their current partner — may at some point have heard the claim that they “fall in love with assholes”. Likewise, if you bang a lot of women,… Continue reading Ladies, this is why you fall in love with assholes
