When we discuss women, and dealing with women, and all the stress and trouble they cause, it’s easy to get the impression that we’re a bunch of misogynists. That’s not an impression I’d like to give, though. Admittedly, I have had plenty of negative experiences with women, but they pale in comparison to the many great times I’ve been having with women. This obviously prompts the question why we focus on the negative. That is rather easy to answer. Probably nobody sits down and writes a book about how fucking great his life is. No, instead people discuss challenges, struggles and failures. Pain is at the heart of many great works of literature, and shitty ones, too. It’s the same with blog and forum posts, or with any guy who ever seeks out professional help. Heck, certainly never has anybody booked a consultation session with me to tell me how great everything is going with the women in his life.
Of course we talk about women who take men for a ride, of women who are unfit to be girlfriends and wives, of armies of bitches in clubs. I certainly don’t want to claim that such women don’t exist. They are everywhere. Yet, you can certainly find women whom it is fantastic to spend time with. No, not just to get your dick wet.
I believe in the man-as-a-builder (or provider) archetype, as well as the woman-as-nurturer archetype, which complements it. Most problems we have been experiencing with women are due to society and misguided ideology telling them that they have to be builders and creators too, even though it is not their true nature. I don’t want to come home to a woman who wants to out-earn me, out-geek me, and prove her intellectual superiority in conversations. I don’t want to be with some moron, but apart from that I don’t care all that much about e-duh-cation. I want to relax around a woman who takes care of me and, no, it wouldn’t bother me to “pay her out” so that she only needs to work 25 or so hours a week, when the net result is that I get to enjoy a nicer home, and the cats get to enjoy more company.
But where am I going with this? Well, the issue I see is that there are guys out there who resent women, although they lack experience with them. Aaron Clarey mocks them as “VirginTOWs”, a pun on the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) movement. Going your own way is fine, but I am of the opinion that you should not just follow some leader figure but instead make the decision to go your own way as a consequence of your experiences. Inexperienced guys can easily fall into the trap that they just soak up all the alleged negativity in the MGTOW community and assorted places. This is no different from inexperienced guys wanting to become PUAs, not knowing what kind of bullshit the PUA community really entailed (and what it’s like to actually get girls). We all know how that ended.