While we have grown very skeptical of the idea of keeping a woman around for a long-term relationship, with the exception of the truly exceptional ones, the average Joe still wants to have a girlfriend or a wife at all costs. Thus, it is interesting to look at what those costs include. I find them to be quite significant.
The most obvious expense, the upkeep of a girlfriend or wife, may be seen as the largest cost, but there is a twist, which we’ll get to shortly. Some time ago, when men started to increasingly drop out of the dating market, feminists started to claim that having a live-in woman helps you save money. More than a few times have I read the absurd claim that “two can live as cheaply as one.” This most certainly is only true with the most frugal and agreeable of women. As a single guy, you can comfortably live in a small studio apartment. Heck, you may even decide to just rent a room. With a live-in girl, though, you won’t get away so cheaply. She will want to have more space. Even if she paid 50% of the rent, the fact remains that your 50% share of the rent is likely a lot higher than the rent of your dingy studio apartment was. A compounding factor is that your typical spoilt Western woman can’t just live anywhere. It has to be a nice apartment, in a convenient location, and preferably of luxury standard. On the other hand, as a guy you may be perfectly fine with a conveniently located place, as long as it is of acceptable standard.
Your typical girlfriend will also want to upgrade the interior of your place. If it’s not that, then she’ll nag you that your car isn’t the latest model or that your clothes need an overhaul. Her list of desires will know no bounds. This will particularly become obvious when it comes to traveling. As a single guy, you’re fine crashing on a friend’s couch. Travel with a girl, and suddenly you have to stay in a hotel, which you get to pay. Even if she pays 50%, which is not at all common, your costs absolutely skyrocket. The difference is orders of magnitude.
Those were the obvious costs of having a girlfriend or wife. You can probably see that once kids are in the picture, you won’t ever get to put your wallet back into your pockets. There are many other issues. Let’s have a look at those.
You may think that it’s nice to have a girl around. Even if that is the case, you are entering a clear trade-off. You spend time with her, which you can’t spend on yourself. If you only dick around in your spare time and have no particular interests, you probably don’t miss out on much. Most guys, though, end up dramatically changing their life once a girl enters the picture. Many of you are probably familiar with the phenomenon that some of your friends literally disappear once they get a girlfriend. Suddenly they have no time anymore, and if they do, they drag their overbearing girlfriend along as some kind of chaperone. Such evenings aren’t a lot of fun, so you may no longer feel particularly inclined to reach out to your friend in the future.
Her claiming a chunk of your spare time is only the beginning. In the end, she will also want you to make decisions regarding your career based on her whims. She wants safety and stability, yet you get a job offer from a competitor in a different city. Chances are that she won’t be too thrilled about that. This scenario is surprisingly common. I have heard from guys who had girlfriends who threw a fit because they didn’t want to move. In the most absurd case, he had an offer that came with a $50k salary increase, which was twice as much — the increase alone — than what his chick made. Admittedly, the offer was from an employer in a more expensive city. Yet, she could have found a job as a barista anywhere, but he had to do what she told him. I guess had she realized that by insisting on staying she would also lose out on money, she would probably also have been upset about him making so much more than her.
Sometimes, normies see the light and realize that their girlfriend or wife is nothing but a leech: they demand time, money, attention, and on top make you miss out on opportunities. The awakened normie thinks she has to go. But the fun starts when the divorce proceedings start. Lawyers cost money. Alimony isn’t cheap. Child support is nothing to scoff at either. Plenty of guys get completely wrecked in the process. I had the first encounter with this problem when I was sharing an apartment with some people in Berlin. We had a decently large place with five bedrooms and there was a bit of turnover. When someone moved out, you of course wanted a new flatmate as soon as possible to take care of part of the monthly rent. In this context, we got the occasional call or email from guys who had just gotten divorced or were about to get divorced. This included guys in their late 40s or early 50s. Now imagine that: you’re so fucked that you consider renting a room for three hundred Euros. Meanwhile, your soon-to-be-ex-wife sits in your house or apartment, which you likely paid off yourself, planning with her lawyers, probably paid for with money left in your shared bank account, on how to screw you over in court. This is pretty scary stuff.
I’d say that most of you are better off dramatically limiting the number of serious relationships you want to enter. If you have any doubts about her, then kick her to the curb. Ideally, you thoroughly vet her before making her your girlfriend, which will save you a lot of headaches. The safe choice, by all means, is to stay single.
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