I just came across two screenshots I have taken some time ago, one from Reddit, and the other from my old blog. They were taken at different times, but they make a wonderful juxtaposition as they illuminate the difference of the delusions undesirable men and women harbor when it comes to long-term relationships. We have covered male and female delusions about short-term relationships rather extensively. Deluded men think that with a bit of “game” they can make up for their physical shortcomings, while fat women think that they have “beautiful personalities”, covered by layers upon layers of fat.
Once we move to long-term relationships, other factors become more important. A woman who wants to settle down with a quality man has to be young, pleasant, and attractive. It’s a given that she can’t be a slut. For a short-term relationship, the baseline criterion is simply whether she’s hot enough. Chad couldn’t care less about whether he’s ramming his cock down the throat of the biggest slut on earth. Yet, he’d have to be singularly stupid to put a ring on her. In order to put a ring on a desirable woman, though, Chad needs to have his act together. This is quite obvious, if you only observed how people act.
No matter how you turn it, an aged woman is screwed. It doesn’t matter what else she brings to the table — once she hits the wall it is game over for her. That’s a bitter pill to swallow, though, so let’s look what involuntary one cat lady (incal?) on Reddit had to say to that:
There are plenty of men in her age bracket who are single, but those are most certainly not the ones she’d consider worthy of dating. She wants an accomplished man. Yet, those men are highly attractive to younger women as well. So, what’s the obvious conclusion? Of course, it is easier on the female ego to accuse men for being shallow, or younger women for being “more easily impressed”. I’d say that the opposite is the case because an older guy has to have achieved quite a bit to be able to impress a young girl. If a young girl wanted to date a broke loser, she could easily pick a younger guy, so the older guy has to offer something guys ten years younger are not able to offer.
Now, onto the delusion of guys! Sadly, for all those sad losers, there is no “one special trick” that gets you girls easily, and neither are there any over-engineered ones. Many of you surely remember the PUA heydays when people, with a straight face, claimed that you needed to approach women from a 45 degree angle, and other utterly harebrained nonsense. That market seems to have collapsed, but maybe there is an opportunity for snake oil salesmen to tell guys how to get girls to commit for the long term even though they amount to nothing. That’s certainly what a commenter on my old blog would be interested in:
Even after writing on dating dynamics for about ten years, I am still baffled at the inability of so many men to look reality straight in the face. They see that only guys who are able to establish themselves do well with women, once the degeneracy of your typical Western university is behind them. What should Joe Average thus do if he ever wanted to get married? How about buckling down and trying to get ahead! The rules are clear, and if, for whatever reason, “resource-based methods” don’t work out for them, due to a lack of resources, then they shouldn’t waste any time thinking of how to get a girl to commit as it’s impossible that any desirable girl would marry a loser. There are no short cuts.
For guys, the game plan is simple. It just takes effort to execute. If you want to get laid, then get in shape, get some decent clothes, and hit on chicks. The PUA method of learning “game” and not fixing your foundations doesn’t work. If you want to settle down, though, then acquire resources. Hitting the gym probably has diminishing returns at that point, so better hit the books and get a job. Women don’t date losers, nor do they marry them, but Western women certainly fuck a lot of losers.
For women, the only practical solution is to leave sleeping around to the sluts. Ignore the bullshit message feminists tell you. Quality guys may pay for whores, but they don’t marry them. Get a guy while you are young. If you are 24 and single, I suggest you panic. Oh, and don’t tell yourself bullcrap such as that you have “only had five or six guys” by the time you were 18. Dudes who are looking for an easy lay don’t care, but quality guys most certainly will. Then again, at that point it’s already game over. The conclusion is that without a conservative upbringing, girls have close to a zero chance of finding a quality guy, which is quite sobering. But, hey, we’ve been mass-importing guys from North Africa and the Middle East, so not everything is lost. Guys can also very easily end up in a position in which they are completely screwed. Let’s say Chad picks the wrong major at a US university, graduates with a B.S. in b.s. and is unable to “launch a career” because he has no marketable skills but is a quarter million dollars in debt. He’s screwed even worse than some slut whose diet at college consisted of cum and cigarettes.