When editing Sleazy Stories IV, I thought of some of my club pickups. As some of you may know, I chose a very physical and aggressive approach, which worked very well for me. Quite often, my outfit was a bit risqué as well. Think of wearing a dress jacket with nothing underneath — yes, nothing! — or dancing half-naked with a light scarf wrapped around my neck. In hindsight, it struck me that my approach was almost a necessity. I am very tall with my regal 6’3″/190cm, and I am quite lean. However, when fully clothed you could not quite tell that I am a lean, mean, muscular machine. In order to score points with my physique, I basically had to walk around half-naked in clubs. Okay, that is a bit of an exaggeration.
When I briefly revisited pickup, in the wake of my first marriage dissolving, my options were a bit more limited. Not only had clubs gotten a lot less popular in the meantime
I think the big reason why I did do well with my revamped club game was simply that I had turned into a physically more imposing looking guy. It is not the case that I am overly buff, but when I am fully dressed I nowadays have a more commanding presence than before. I no longer have proper six-pack abs, but I had about ten kilos more to carry around, which were a mixture of fat and muscles. I went from around 75 kg/165 lbs. to 85 kg/187 lbs., which made a dramatic difference. (I’m currently somewhere in-between the two points described, but I want to gain a bit more weight again.)
Some guys are obsessed with their body-fat percentage. However, I consider this largely misguided. Sure, if you pick up women on the beach where you compete against other guys with chiseled abs, you will do better if you are at the same level. Otherwise, you’re better off hitting the gym and eating jumbo-sized meals. A six-pack is a pain to maintain in comparison. Assessing how well I did in my late twenties versus my late thirties, I am tempted to think that I could have done comparatively well back in the days if I had dropped the somewhat eccentric and sexually provocative Sleazy style and went for something less polarizing. I probably would have met different kinds of women, though, i.e. fewer of the very outgoing ones and more who want to at least know your name before they bend over for you. My buddy Byte, whom I mention in my Sleazy Stories books, is a good case in point. He is even taller than me at 6’5″/196cm, but I don’t think he ever had anything remotely resembling six-pack abs. He got a few crazies, but more of his pick ups were along more traditional lines. Well, in the end it’s more about what kinds of women you want to attract. In terms of success versus effort, trying to get and maintain six-pack abs is, however, arguably counter-productive.
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