We have talked repeatedly about the idea that your level of success with women is primarily determined by your looks, with money and status also having an impact. Of course, this is a bit of an oversimplification as there is another big L, namely location. You will do a lot better if you live in… Continue reading The Relative Importance of Looks, Money, and Status, and a Strangely Fitting Analogy
I remember that even years ago we had discussions on my forum about the accelerating decline of clubs. There were many more clubs closing than opening. Largely, this development was driven by online dating. Before the mass adoption of smart phones and the subsequent rise of dating apps, women needed to dress up and go… Continue reading Do Clubs Have a Future?
If you’ve been with your fair share of women, you have probably encountered the phenomenon that some girls put on quite an act before you get to bone them. They pretend that they are good girls and need to be extensively wined and dined. They are pretend to be prudes so you may get a… Continue reading Fake Shy Girls
n one of the recent Open Threads, GoodLookingAndSleazy left a comment that questioned the validity of game: Former porn star Jenna Jameson told Howard Stern how she made out with Bruce Willis at an LA club one night. He just came up to her, grabbed her and kissed her. Then he took off. She loved… Continue reading The “Who are you?” Effect
Martin left a great comment on the fate of a friend of his. Surely, many of you have heard variations of it or know of men in your wider social circle who went through something similar. However, as too many men have had their life ruined at the hand’s of scheming women, you can’t share… Continue reading Open Post: The Female Long Game
A common phenomenon is that when guys want to rack up lays and manage to do so, they go through a phase in which their standards may be a bit lower. This does not necessarily apply to a woman’s physical appearance, however. Instead, you could notice several red flags and still want to bang her.… Continue reading You Can’t Afford to Uncritically Pursue Women
Recently, one of my clients asked me what the one thing is that he work on to get better at pulling women. For context, this guy is maxed out: great job, swanky apartment in a great location, in excellent physical shape, and he still has plenty of good years left. He does get laid a… Continue reading Once You’ve Maxed Out Your Foundations, Time is Your Limiting Factor
One of the most evergreen topics when discussing seduction is the question of how you can know that she is into you. As we all know, unlike in Hollywood movies, women rarely make the first move, or at least nothing any guy would easily interpret as such. It is even rarer that she would bluntly… Continue reading You Need to Make a Move
Sometimes, guys pursue a woman not because they are sexually interested in her, but for various other reasons. A big one is validation. If you haven’t gotten laid in months, then the attention as well as the prospect of having sex with a woman you don’t find particularly attractive may be preferable to consuming online… Continue reading Quickly Decide if You Want to Have Sex With Her
(No, I’m not talking about killing her. Guys, seriously!) One of my clients recently shared a very interesting story from his dating life with me. In short, he showed up on a date. The woman’s behavior could be described as disinterested to hostile, and after a while, he got up, wished her a good day,… Continue reading The Power of Ending a Bad Date
A few concepts old-school PUAs introduced are valid, such as “one-itis”, i.e. obsessing about a particular girl. In this particular scene, though, this meant PUAs obsessing about more or less any girl who gave them any kind of attention at all. You had guys report about “catching one-itis” basically every time they went out. In… Continue reading Getting Prematurely Attached to That One Girl
We have talked about the 80/20 split in male attractiveness on online dating platforms according to which women deem only 20% of men to be attractive, and 80% as unattractive. In contrast, when men rate women, the result is a bell curve with most women rated as around average, with outliers on both ends of… Continue reading If One Girl Has Had Sex With You, Many More Will
A recent discussion in The Open Thread #54 centered around the question of how to deal with rejection. Basically every guy who has ever approached a woman knows that getting turned down can really sting. In the worst case, a high number of rejections may even demotivate guys from approaching women altogether in the future.… Continue reading Dealing With Rejection Effectively
When browsing the black pill wiki incels.wiki, I came across an entry for the term “chadstruck“, which is their version of the term “lovestruck”. Of course, this is not a perfect equivalence as intense physical attraction has little to do with love and much more with lust. Yet, it may very well be the only… Continue reading Chadstruck: The Paramount Importance of Physical Attraction in Dating
Today I witnessed an interaction between a young man and a woman that perfectly illustrates anti-game. I was at the library to return some books. As I did so, a guy and a girl just got up from their table. It seems they just wrapped up working on an assignment. This being Sweden, they of… Continue reading A Great Example of Anti-Game
One of the most persistent half-truths in the seduction and red pill communities is that confidence gets you laid. “Just be confident, bro!,” you were told. However, just like it was with the ever-elusive quality of having a sense of humor, unattractive men didn’t seem to be able to develop enough confidence to bang top… Continue reading Anti-Game and The Problem of Lack of Confidence
A question that is on the mind of many men who are trying to bang more women is how they can know that she is interested in you. This is easy: you will (almost) never know until you approach her. While in movies, and porn, it is commonly the woman who does all the work,… Continue reading Do not Wait for Strong Signals!
Imagine you ask your boss if you could get a certain qualification, of course sponsored by the company. At first he is a bit skeptical yet mildly supportive, telling you that you should hit some milestones first or maybe just put in a few more years. You diligently do that. Later, you revisit this topic.… Continue reading Admitting That It Is Not Going to Happen
As has become obvious even to those who used to fully buy into the promises of the pick-up industry, “game” does not exist. If she is not attracted to you, then approaching her from a 45-degree angle from behind or asking her if she flosses before or after brushing is not going to get her… Continue reading Do you have Anti-Game?
Recently, a concern-trolling reader posted some rather insulting comment on here, which can be found in The Open Thread #48. Said reader, whom I suspect to be female, posted the following video. As you can see, it exploits people with disabilities. The viewer is supposed to feel sympathy for their plight. Despite their deformities and… Continue reading Your Personality is Irrelevant
Some time ago a Chinese music video went viral in which a girl group sang that in order to date a guy, he has to have a house and a car. This was good for a chuckle. Here is the video: As I remembered this, I did a bit of research on dating customs in… Continue reading Honest Chinese vs Dishonest Western Dating
Blog reader Yarara left an interesting comment on my post “How Women Turn Chads into Misogynists” that sparked some discussion. He wrote: I am not calling you wrong, but have you considered the possibility that you have some selection bias due to the female pool you predominantly tapped into (figuratively and literally). While my lay… Continue reading Are Women in Clubs of a Lower Quality?
The YouTube channel IncelTV hosts the following clip, which was shared with us by blog reader Lisbon. It contains scenes from a dating show called “Take me Out” that seems to be designed to boost the ego of women and shatter the ego of unattractive men. Have a look: As cruel as this TV show… Continue reading This TV Show Demonstrates how much Looks matters
In the comments section, we have been talking about the monetization of online dating and the perceived need to, for instance, “boost” your profile on Tinder to get more matches. A few years ago, Tinder was quite a gold mine for many. However, over time, even guys who used to do exceptionally well have noticed… Continue reading Tinder does not care whether you get laid
Recently one of my readers mentioned a resource I was not familiar with, incels.wiki. While I view the incel community with some skepticism due to its often evident defeatism, that does not mean that a lot of the knowledge gathered over there is without value. Quite the contrary, in fact. In particular, I would like… Continue reading Scientific Realism in Dating
Recently I was asked a rather peculiar question. The guy’s issue was that he seemed to only ever meet women who are in a relationship. Consequently, he was wondering what he should do and where he could find single women. Questions like this reveal that (honest) men are at a serious disadvantage in the dating… Continue reading You’ll rarely meet single women
I listened to Turd Flinging Monkey’s latest video earlier today. In it, he jokes that a model who is used to getting clothes, flights, and meals paid for might think that this is how people treat each other. He is certainly right that a young, attractive woman may easily form a warped view of the… Continue reading Young Women Aren’t Used to Paying for Anything
This is a guest post written by my wife. As a preamble, I’ll state that Asian women are generally viewed as desirable and the fatter and more toxic Western women become, the more white guys will lust after Asians. Yet, language and culture can be a problem. You probably have no interest in dating a… Continue reading Guest Post: Singaporean Women
I used to not pursue women until I was in my late 20s, which was by choice. I simply viewed them as an unpleasant distraction as well as a time and money sink. Instead, I was much happier going my own way and pursuing other interests. In the long run, this all worked out splendidly… Continue reading You are not Missing Out if you’re a Late Bloomer
On a recent coaching call, a client told me that he sometimes meets women via online dating who seem fundamentally pissed off. He could not quite explain why that is because the preceding exchange online did not raise any red flags. However, there is a big reason why you encounter such women, and it has… Continue reading Why Women Often Get Bitter in their 20s
A commenter on this blog recently asked if women can sense how much money you have. For the most part, they cannot. They rely on information you provide. This has some interesting implications because deception is not the sole domain of the woman. Yet, faking wealth is a lot more difficult than faking good looks… Continue reading “So, how Much Money do you Make?”
One of my readers recently shared a story about a girl who was genuinely throwing herself at him. He chickened out, and as a consequence, the girl felt rejected, which meant that he missed his one and only chance to get her. Normally, women send, at best, ambiguous signals. That one was rather forward, though,… Continue reading The One Who Got Away (Be Glad That She Did)
I had a few clients over the years with body image issues. Influenced by depictions of effeminate men in advertising, they were convinced that they were ugly. One of those guys stands out to me in particular. He’s a bit short of six feet, has a really great jawline and pronounced lips, but also some… Continue reading The Criminally Underrated Thug Look
After I published my article “A Friend’s Bizarre Tinder Date”, Sleazy’s Gal, who happens to know that guy as well, asked me if his love life has gotten more successful after getting his new job. The context is that he made a career transition that took some time to get going. He quit a decent… Continue reading Economic Success and Success with Women
It’s spring in Northern Europe. As temperatures rise, single young women seem to be getting more eager to get dicked down again. Thus, they are trying to get more attention. Now that the winter is gone, this is getting easier. The other day I made two observations in that regard, which I’d like to briefly… Continue reading Are Thots Getting More Desperate?
A friend of mine from Berlin recently told me about an utterly bizarre date. The guy itself is quite interesting. Judging by how he dresses, in his spare time, you’d believe him to be a bit of a leftie, yet he has shifted hard to the right in recent years, after experiencing first-hand what it’s… Continue reading A Friend’s Bizarre Tinder Date
On the weekend or on some evenings, I read at my local university library as I like a change of scenery every once in a while. My favorite reading room has a few rows of tables with dividers in between. If it weren’t for the barrier in the middle, you would face some other person… Continue reading Ambiguous Signals from Women
Alek Novy asked me recently to elaborate a bit on my second time hitting the clubs (see the comments here), i.e. after my first marriage had fallen apart. As my reply got a bit long, I’m posting it below. Compared to my first time, the age of women was skewing a bit higher, mid-to-late twenties… Continue reading My Second Stint in Clubs
When editing Sleazy Stories IV, I thought of some of my club pickups. As some of you may know, I chose a very physical and aggressive approach, which worked very well for me. Quite often, my outfit was a bit risqué as well. Think of wearing a dress jacket with nothing underneath — yes, nothing!… Continue reading Scrawny and Lean versus Buff and Fat
A relatively frequent occurrence among those of my clients who book multiple sessions, with an eye towards long-term improvements, is that they sometimes hit a plateau. Surely, those of you who worked hard to improve your odds fucking random women have made similar experiences. Skillful early physical escalation is a good example. It takes experience… Continue reading Progress is Often Invisible
There was one comment on my last article, Success with Women and the Diminishing Returns of Money: Billionaire Edition, which I thought deserves some further discussion. In short, one reader claimed the following: They may date and marry plain women but I can assure you their side women and whores are top-notch. This statement may… Continue reading Money and Quality of Service of Escorts
After the seduction community collapsed, which I am very happy to have played a major role in (cf. Debunking the Seduction Community), several follow-up communities sprang up. An existing one got an influx of people, too. The existing community that absorbed part of the old seduction community is MGTOW, i.e. Men Going Their Own Way.… Continue reading The Biggest Problem of the Black Pill Community: Defeatism
On Sunday morning I attended a social event in my city. Because people tend to treat you better if you dress reasonably well, I put in a modicum of effort. Right afterwards, I went shopping for groceries. There something unusual happened: After taking some packaged fresh fish and putting it in my basket, a woman… Continue reading Women Harassing me in the Supermarket
The other day I bumped into a guy at a conference. He looked a bit desperate, but certainly seemed intelligent. As I spoke to him, it quickly became obvious that I’m talking to someone very intelligent. As a brief summary, he has earned a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree in mathematics at one of the best… Continue reading Another man who lets a woman wreck his life
In our ongoing debate with the only female reader of my blog who is willing to out herself, she recently dropped the following remarkable statement (source): I have a large friend who found her fiance from that site, and I remember her being bombarded with messages from guys when she first signed on. I’d say… Continue reading Attention from males isn’t always due to attraction
While going through my folder containing all my unpublished sleazy stories, I stumbled upon a note that reminded me of an incident I found quite peculiar. It is one I have mentioned before. Long story short, I ended up at her place. As we were about to get it on, she insisted on me roughing… Continue reading A hunch not to fuck a particular girl?
I used to stress the importance of style. It is of course not unimportant, but a much bigger determinant of your success with women is your physique. Thus, if you walk around in a plain T-shirt and your female acquaintances remark that you surely work out, you’re fine. From that point onward, adding more muscle… Continue reading How to figure out whether you’re buff enough for successfully picking up girls
Alek Novy posted a link to a picture series documenting exchanges of a user with a fake profile on Tinder. Said user uploaded pictures of a male 10, and women would just immediately agree to fuck him. This is quite amusing to read. It is also a good illustration of the fact that given the… Continue reading Fake male 10s cleaning up with the ladies on Tinder