With feminism going strong all over the Western world, I have been wondering what the end game of the modern strong and empowered woman is. Sure, we have been joking about not-so-cool wine aunts and cat ladies but this topic is quite serious. Women in the Western world used to enjoy the fattest gravy train imaginable. Once the oppressive white man had invented diapers, washing machines, microwave ovens, and vacuum cleaners, women had an absolutely pampered life. There surely were exceptions but for a few decades, when there was material abundance in the West and one income was sufficient to fund a family of four, vacations, education, and one or two cars, it is not at all an exaggeration to say that those women lived at worst in a golden cage. Even this metaphor is way off as what was outside of that cage, i.e. mind-numbing work at BigCorp, is nothing people do because they are just so into it.
I have childhood memories of my mother meeting up with other mothers in the area. They spent many afternoons visiting each other, drinking coffee and eating cake. The kids were dumped somewhere in a corner, given a few toys, and told to entertain themselves. It was basically a continuation of high school or college for the women. I do not intend to mock this at all, because those chattering women maintained the social fabric of the village, and there was a palpable community spirit, with people helping each other out or doing favors for each other. A friend of my mother, for instance, did not care about the apple trees that grew in her garden, apart from how they looked, so we got dozens, if not hundreds of pounds of apples for free every year. Normally, there were so many that we had to temporarily store them outside the house. Some apples we ate, others my mother used for baking cakes, turned them into marmalade, or dried them — and she gave away a lot of it to her friends. Looking back, it was a really nice environment that was only possible because of an overabundance of housewives who had too much time on their hands.
It only took a few decades to completely destroy local communities. While my mothers still has close social ties to many other old women in the village, the same is not true for the current generation of women as they almost always work. Back in the days, men whose wives had to work were spoken of with disdain, i.e. they were considered poor providers as their wives “had to” work. It was fine if some woman had a part-time job where it was clear that it was more of a hobby. This did not affect one’s social standing in the community. Today, though, almost all married women seem to have to work to make ends meet. It is almost unheard of for a married woman to stay at home, at least among the indigenous population. The picture is obviously much different in the welfare aristocracy, but those people normally have views of community building that are perhaps not always the most constructive. Also, those people can normally only be found in cities, with some exceptions.
In the past, women had a lot of children, and grandchildren. This led to some rather large family gatherings. My mother recently told me, with some unease, about a burial of an acquaintance where there were only three attendees: the surviving wife, the only son, and his girlfriend. This narrowing of family trees becomes most apparent at such social events. There is simply a big difference between a woman having three or four children, and the same number of grandchildren per child, and family with only one child who may or may not want to continue his or her bloodline, and if they do, they may even think that one kid is enough.
Today’s women are fucked on a level they seem completely oblivious to. We put women in large numbers into professions where they cannot effectively compete with men, yet companies have to employ them anyway in order to get their ESG bucks. The same is true for hiring minorities, but this would lead to a bit of a detour. The problem with taking a job you are unqualified for is that it almost invariably leads to frustration and burnout. You may have come across women talking about “imposter syndrome”, i.e. the feeling that they are not qualified for their job even though they supposedly are qualified for it. I think that this concept is total bullshit. I have found that people have a pretty good idea of how good a job they do, and if you think you suck at something, most likely it is because you really do suck at it.
Jobs come with a certain social status. Historically, society viewed white-collar work as being of a higher status as any kind of physical labor. Bizarrely, this is still a common view, even though there are nowadays countless absolutely brain-dead office jobs that offer neither job security nor any potential for advancement. They are also not even paid particularly well. Still, if Cindy gets her Bachelor’s in b.s. and joins BigCorp as a “social media analyst”, she immediately thinks that she is above any guy who does not work in an office, even if he makes more money than she does. We ignore that her job likely only exists because BlackRock told the CEO of BigCorp that if he does not increase the percentage of women on staff, he will get ousted. It does not matter why she has her job, though.
The number of eligible bachelors for Cindy is small. She cannot quite make heads nor tails of it, but she is not too bothered because she can get dicked down anytime she wants. She only has to got to a club or swipe around in some dating apps. This warps her view on men, thinking that while those guys were all just for fun, any guy she would commit to has to combine the best aspects of any dude who ever put his dick in her. This futile search for her dream husband will continue until she is well into her 30s. Of course, this does not affect all women but the number of childless, never-married women is skyrocketing.
A related issue is that a lot of women have serious problems with managing their personal finances. This means that they basically spend whatever they make and never really manage to reach any level of financial security. Before they know it, those women will be in their mid-30s, not only without any suitor in sight, but also living in a shoebox apartment or, worse, still sharing an apartment with their supposed besties. A bunch of sluts in their early 20s sharing an apartment to reduce their rental expenses may have some appeal but the older women get, the worse their situation becomes. In Berlin, for instance, you find women in their 40s who share an apartment, not because they all love partying together and shaking their tits in clubs but because they need to. This is a really horrible predicament to be in. At that age, there is not much of a social life to look forward to. In a saner society, such women would watch their grandchildren play, not dull their senses with a bottle of wine while binging on some lame TV show.
There is zero upside for women who do not get hitched. While single guys are often really happy being all by themselves, the same is just not the case with women as they value social interactions much more. Yet, social interactions are a means to an end. There is always an element of sexual competition, either because those women want to size themselves up or because they think that having many friends will allow them to meet many potentially suitable men. However, no guy gives a fuck about banging some 40-year old roastie with an alcohol problem. The future that awaits single older women is one where cats, red wine, and SSRIs feature prominently. Probably only the most deluded women do not realize that they are well and truly fucked if they are still single at 35. At that point, they have another fifty (!) years of misery to look forward to. Their former friends who managed to get a guy to commit and have children with will avoid them. In contrast, the women who do not avoid them will be just as miserable, which will likely only make them feel more depressed about their life.
There is no upside for those women. If anything, 35 is probably a pretty good age for them to kill themselves. After decades of utter misery, they will face what they always were so afraid of, i.e. dying alone. Their social circle will shrink more and more. At some point, their sisterly life in a shared apartment will also come to an end as it will just be too intolerable for them. There is not so much left afterwards. All of this could have been avoided by embracing family life. There are currently signs of a shift in the mindset among zoomers, so we will have to see how their life trajectory unfolds. However, I do not think that the vast majority of women who are currently in their early 30s and still single will be able to turn their life around anymore. Ladies, I hope your wasted 20s were worth it.