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An old friend of mine who is a divorce attorney shared this wisdom years ago. “Men are in love. Women are in business.” I have never forgotten this.
A question for Aaron. In your estimate, what percentage of girls who have casual sex are genuinely only trying to have fun and nothing more.
My impression is that they always want something more than sex, and are using sex as a way to get it and failing.
The reason I got to thinking about this is because you see all these podcasts which chicks bragging about being with 20-30-40 guys…
And I’m thinking, so she basically got rejected 30-40 times. Where she wanted more than just sex, but the dude was like smash and run. Yet they tell if like it was no big deal.
I’m very confused by this. Are they reframing their failures as “fun” to not feel bad, od are just a percentage of sluts genuinely just into fun.
I think that almost all women want something more than sex. I have been with sluts who had nervous breakdowns, revealing, in a moment of weakness, that they do not know why none of the guys who sleeps with them sticks around. The very small number of women who bang guys for “fun” either have serious psychological problems or are lying to themselves in order to protect their ego.
They want to have their cake and eat it too. Deep down,they probably want to marry their charming dream prince,but still get to bang Chad and Tyrone from time to time.(BUT…hubby stays completely loyal to them,he doesn’t get to sleep around!)
That’s not how life works. Nobody who isn’t a total loser is going to accept a raw deal like that. But I can imagine that’s the ideal arrangement they want. The only way they’re going to get that is to marry a total cuck far below their looksmatch,which they obviously don’t want to do.
That’s my impression. It’s a reframing. Like “I didn’t get rejected 30 times, I only wanted sex myself tehehehehe, I got laid 30 times weeeeee”
I’m not sure if these Fresh and Fit type of podcasts that have a bunch of chicks on them have any educational value. They make their content intentionally outrageous in order to generate views. Most women normally hide their body count. Hosts are probably cherry picking wackos or giving chicks some money to say weird stuff that will generate views.
PsycHacks has a nice video on this topic:
I think there are some women who do think they can sleep with someone without any feelings “just like guys”.
However, once they sleep with a guy multiple times, they directly get attached. Think of it as a drug. They take it and they get hooked.
Now some guys think that automatically implies that if a guy sleeps with a women than she directly get attached. But this is not necessarily the case if she sleeps with another guy. So instead of getting hooked with you she gets hooked to the other (better) drug.
Aaron,
“The very small number of women who bang guys for “fun” either have serious psychological problems or are lying to themselves in order to protect their ego.”
I’ve met quite a few sluts who started whoring around later in life because they supposedly felt they were missing out in life by not jumping into the carrousel cock. Some of them don’t even regret it and take pride in the carrousel cock. I know one particular slut who supposedly stop jumping from one dick to another because now she wants to settle down and find a husband. This slut is now 33 years old, has one kid, she’s fat, and she’s not attractive. Lets just say she’s not even average looking more likely ugly. She’s quite delusional and somehow believes she will meet prince charming because she had been working on herself, what ever this means, because she has taking therapy sessions and constantly practices her love-language with her daily affirmations.
Good point/clarification. That makes a lot of sense.
Yes, I can see how a chick can prevent herself from catching feels by just banging the next guy before it kicks in for the previous guy.
Though I don’t think it’s related to how many times you’ve banged. I think banging even once is enough if you’re the only guy she’s banging and there’s nobody else in the picture.
So, I think it’s more about whether you’re the only guy she’s banging, how many times you’ve banged. Though I might be wrong. Aaron would probably be more qualified to opine on this.
I’ve thought about this subject some more, since I’m inundated with seeing claims online that well women enjoy casual sex too… So thought of something else.
What about travelling to bang random dudes she’ll never see again? I can’t explain this as easily. Women specifically spend a ton of money so they can travel around, bang random cock away from home without anyone knowing, and come back. They know full well it’s not going to turn into a relationship if she is leaving in 3 days.
Only possible explanation I have is perhaps subconscious delusion. Kind of like how we discussed why they walk around as if though they’re auditioning for a porno. It doesn’t make sense, unless you assume lottery thinking.
My perception is they have the delusional idea they’ll strike the lottery, like some rich celebrity will see her, stop the limo and invite her in, or some modelling scout for a billionaire will invite her to his harem or something like that.
Perhaps going around and cock travelling has that same kind of delusional fantasy of striking the lottery. Like one of these guys will be so enamored with her pussy that he will fall in love in one day and pay for her to move countries and be with him, or some crap like that.
Delusion is a good explanation. I bumped into a few such women on my trips to St. Tropez. There were women around who were in their early to mid-30s and not particularly good-looking, traveling alone but hoping that some multi-millionaire would take a liking to them. It was truly pathetic.
Yes, I think most sluts basically fall in love and get their heart broken over, and over. And over. I almost feel sorry for them. It’s swept under the rug as “having fun.” It’s toxicity promoted by feminists. Destroying young women who have daddy issues.
I’ve heard that often they don’t even enjoy sex. They never climax etc. Because they are either drunk off they’re ass or “outside of their body.”
Sorry, didn’t hit the reply button.
Oh yeah Alec, that’s definitely what I meant. It’s more of an individual ego thing that doesn’t translate to the dating world. Just that bit of insecurity that all lifters carry with us to help drive us.
Whoops. Little off today. I meant to post that under my thread about height and muscles.
Hey guys, do you think that the one saving grace for short guys is that if they weight train they’re muscles pop more? That’s my impression. Even midgets can look buffed out with a little exercise, but I guess I just answered my own question. They are midgets.
Tall, long limbed guys can pack on as much muscle as a short guy in the arms and it’s not as pronounced. Look at Michael Phelps. Nothing but horse power, but his wing spand makes his arms look not as strong as they are. At the end of the day height rules I guess. And chicks can tell if a tall, long limbed dude is muscular.
Yeah, it’s easier for shorter guys to have more impressive looking muscles. Taller guys have to do a lot more work to look impressively muscular.
Taller guys do have more work cut out for them to pack on enough muscle to look great,but I’d say it certainly doesn’t outweigh the advantages of being tall in and of itself. (unless you are very genetically unfortunate in the muscle department,but I feel like true cases like these are rare)
Not that I think you ever alluded to that.
I know short guys (1.70m) who got super muscular… was still unsuccessful with women. Meanwhile, the tall guy (1.90m) who was super skinny got lots of women.
However, I think being 1.80m and muscular is better than 1.90m and skinny.
@onetimeposter
Oh I don’t think any doubts that, or was suggesting that short guys can beat tall guys by getting muscular. I think GLS was only pointing out this phenomenon in isolation, like it’s interesting how short guys can get more impressive looking muscles.
Of course, that doesn’t mean anything in practical terms, since the tall guy who doesn’t work out will still bang tons more bitches.
“Saving grace” was probably an overstatement. It’s only a feather in their cap that effects nothing but male egos.
@AlekNovy
Yes my reply wasn’t clear. It was directed to Maou’s statement “ but I’d say it certainly doesn’t outweigh the advantages of being tall in and of itself”, which I mostly agree with.
To what do you guys attribute male connection with dogs? My entire life dogs have been drawn to me. I don’t even know why because I I don’t like them that much lol. I should get one and see where it goes actually. Horses are fascinating animals as well of which I have found some connection.