A topic I’ve been discussing quite a bit with my girlfriend recently is how Asian culture affects men much more negatively than women. After all, a submissive woman is desirable, while a submissive man is not. In this post, my submissive Asian cutie describes two of her cucked friends. I will follow this up with a post in which I elaborate on my view on Chinese culture and its effects. I find her post interesting as it describes two complete cucks. Yet, their behavior does not raise much of an eyebrow in their country.
I would like to share some of my observations on the relationships of two of my male friends from home whom I know quite well. These friends of mine are a few years older than men and between 25 and 26 years old. What has intrigued me to write this post is that as Aaron and I have come to learn more about the problems in their relationships, we and especially him are increasingly taken aback by their dutiful willingness to put up with girls who are evidently a bad deal. I suspect that certain aspects of Asian culture and the way of life at home have cultivated such a mindset, but I probably would never have noted this without Aaron opening my eyes to perspectives from the wider manosphere. This is a significant aspect of the “cultural exchange” that we have from our interracial relationship, because without his dissing of them as “cucked”, I might not have seen their situation in such a stark light, and by extension probed deeper into my culture.
I’ll focus on the stories of two friends whom I’ll call Clark Kent and Light Saber.
In my opinion, Clark Kent has an impressive sexual market value. The only thing that may be setting him back is his choice of degree in the social sciences, but as he is about to graduate from an elite university, albeit with poor grades, this compensates for it somewhat. He has a long list of other things going for him, however. He’s taller than the average man back home, is good looking, is buff, athletic and works out, has an impressive family background and family home (his father is the CFO of a large and wealthy corporation), and exhibits many personal qualities such as self-discipline, a strong work ethic, trustworthiness, etc. [I have to add that for someone with his background he has achieved precious little. Even calling him an abysmal failure wouldn’t be much of a stretch. He is the son of a 1%er, or more like a 0.1%er, and has superstar academics in his wider family, names you most certainly will have encountered if you are in their field. I would describe him as a weak-willed slacker devoid of ambition. For instance, he once turned down a spot in the national team of the sport he is pursuing, which would likely have led to him attending the Olympic games, just so that he could spend more time with his girlfriend. — Aaron]
Yet, Clark Kent doesn’t seem to realise his attractiveness and has a scarcity mindset when it comes to girls. He’s currently in a relationship with a rather unattractive 27-year-old who’s had perhaps five sexual partners before him, wants to go to graduate school in a bullshit subject, and who more importantly has not had sex with him for months. She’s his first girlfriend and they got it on initially, but their lack of a sex life now is eating away at him inside, especially since he has higher than average testosterone levels, at least for Asian standards. Her excuse is that she has a low sex drive, and my dutiful friend thinks he has to suck it up, try to work on it, and hope the problem can be resolved over time. Out of the fear of rejection he’s stopped initiating sex. Previous boyfriends of hers have left her because she didn’t put out enough, and as she’s afraid that my friend will too, he tells me that he won’t do this to her. They’ve since even discussed marriage and moving in together. They are thinking of buying a place, but of course Clark Kent will have to foot the bill.
My next friend, Light Saber, presents an even more sensationalist case. He’s dating a 24-year-old who comes with drama and a bag of problems: she’s extremely needy and unreasonable, demands for her way and his pandering, and whines frequently about anything imaginable. Aaron and I are her mere acquaintances, but she’s already shared with us about her use of anti-depressants. Furthermore, she enjoys modelling for free and still goes out to meet new guys. [She lets guys take highly sexual pictures of her. I would bet money that she’s fucking her photographers. — Aaron] I simply can’t understand why Light Saber puts up with her crap, but it baffles me because he goes much further beyond that.
As he identifies as a male feminist and believes in the ails of the patriarchy, he’s adopted these ludicrously permissive views towards his girlfriend. He doesn’t put his foot down when she meets other guys and says it’s fine for her to sleep around as long as she doesn’t catch feelings, because “it’s her body and she can do whatever she wants with it”. He sticks with her in spite of her drama because he loves her, they do actively have sex, and to a lesser extent because he thinks he cannot do better. [You should be more blunt, honey! Light Saber’s girlfriend actively pursues other guys and fucks them. I suspect she only mentions a fraction of the guys she has sex with to him. On a side note, her Instagram account is chock-full of suggestive if not downright provocative pictures. — Aaron]
While a sample size of n = 2 is hardly representative, I have pondered if Clark Kent and Light Saber’s sense of duty could possibly be rooted in Asian culture, in particular the gender roles expected of men (to provide and anchor), and also “Asian values” of obedience and the unquestioning of authority. I’m not sure if this connection sounds like too much of a stretch; after all what my friends are doing doesn’t seem too unlike that of “blue pill betas” of the West. On a final note, I’ve tried to gently suggest to these friends that they could certainly do better. They listen but I’m not getting through to them, and I’m generally not getting the sense that manosphere perspectives or the “red pill” resonate much, if at all, with my countrymen.
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