When I want to have a good laugh, I stop by Reddit and check out the “marriages” and the “relationships” board. You wouldn’t believe what you find on there. Here is one of my favorites: How do I tell my wife that one income isn’t going to work?
My wife had been out of work, by choice to raise her daughter and go to school for 3 years before we were married. When we got married she was aware of my immature financial decisions, which lead to a bankruptcy and foreclosure. She sold her car to help pay for this bankruptcy and to help get us back on our feet. Of course, I hated to have her do that but she felt it was the right thing to do. We were able to get an apartment and get back on our feet, and at this time she was pregnant with our son.
OK, so the guy has been financially reckless. He also thinks he owes his wife perennial gratitude. He does not specify how much they got for the car, but it probably wasn’t a lot, seeing, as he will later reveal, that he doesn’t make a lot of money.
During this time I have worked for the same company for 11 years and continue to pursue opportunities within my place of work to help provide for my family better. Over the years I have gotten raises and wage increases, while my wife takes care of the kids at home.
I love this part because he makes it sounds as if he’s pulling down six figures and everything is working great for them.
We have had to take out several pay-day loans for emergencies to compensate for her ex’s lack of motivation to financially support his daughter through Child Support.
The rabbit hole deepens. It amuses me when people only gradually reveal how fucked up their lives are. That guy was in a completely untenable situation a decade ago, but now it’s due to her (where did that come from?) wife’s ex lover, whose kid that loser has to provide for. Pay-day loan spells low-class trash. But, hey, breeding is fun, amirite? Financial responsibility is so 1950s.
We have had no choice but to rely on this as this is the only additional source of income besides my work. When one thing goes wrong, another follows suit. We have had several arguments about finances and continues to raise conflict today.
No, you’ve had a choice. Don’t marry a single mom. Don’t make babies if you can’t provide for them. Don’t let your wife stay at home if you can’t afford it. Whom are you kidding, you’re not raising the next Richard Feynman!
We have had a separation in an attempt to cool our heads (well my head) and I happened to bring up her not working, which she wasn’t happy about. Her argument is that money isn’t everything and that I should step it up and find a better paying job.
Hahaha! Money only isn’t everything, if it’s about your money. I recall girls telling me I should buy a car, an apartment, or spend $10k for a trip around the world, but money isn’t everything, right, bitches?
Reddit, where do I go next? How do I explain to my wife that one income nowadays isn’t going to cut it?
Does she know mathematics at the level of a six-year old? That should be enough!
Now it gets really funny:
Edit: I want to add that I make $17 an hour and support a family of four on my own. As I mentioned the only additional income we get is Child Support for her daughter. Of course, she made it clear to me that she wanted to stay home and care for the kids until she can continue her school. This was well before shit hit the fan with cost of living in my area. She has been out of work for nearly 9 years and wants to wait until our son starts school (he is 2).
He’s been chasing promotions for over a decade and only makes $17 an hour, yet he wants to have kids? His wife has been unemployed for about as long and still hasn’t finished “school”, in which she is probably pursuing some bullshit degree anyway.
Bottom line: don’t marry a single mom. Don’t have kids if you can’t afford them. Don’t marry a lazy woman. He also complains about cost of living in his area. Well, how about moving into a cheaper place?