My girlfriend recently told me that one of her female colleagues quit her job in her probation period, after less than one month. Apparently, she went out in a less than classy way, sitting in her cubicle and suffering through a “nervous breakdown” and shedding a copious amount of tears. I don’t intend to mock that poor woman. Yet, I could not help but think back at the years I have been spending in the corporate world. Not once have I seen a guy breaking down. I have certainly met my fair share of incompetent dickheads of the male persuasion. They may not have been cut out for the job, but they “took it like a man” when that was the case. Wait, that was not entirely correct. I once had the displeasure of working with an incredibly effeminate but non-gay man who threw a tantrum in a meeting once. I’d say those are extreme outliers, but with testosterone levels dropping in the West, we may encounter more of that in the future.
With women who couldn’t perform at work, this normally played out a lot differently than when men suffer that fate. When women can’t take it, they don’t just resign and leave. No, instead they want some more attention. The absolute worst I ever experienced was some chick crying at her desk, which drew all the other hens towards her who comforted her for hours. It was a welcome excuse to spend most of the day not working, I presume. Another popular move is to sabotage others. They can’t do the work, but they seem to think that they will keep their job if they throw someone else under the bus. I don’t have the impression that bosses and HR are as strict with women as they are with men. However, this means that a woman who can’t perform at work only has to keep up appearances, and her problem will be solved for her by others. Most commonly, the solution is to promote her to middle management. The most incompetent woman I ever came across was promoted to management basically straight out of university, after having been hired into an engineering role at BigCorp. She couldn’t perform on her job at all, and instead of letting her go during the probation period, she was made manager four months in. The company in question is one of the largest in the world who can seemingly afford that — until they can’t.
The underlying problem seems to be that women just can’t deal with stress very well. Some possibly can, but most cannot. It’s as if they completely shut down once there is a bit of time pressure or if there are more rigid standards than she may have been exposed to in high school or at university. The solution to that problem is to de-stress their work life. They just take copious amounts of sick days, a cool two-hour lunch break, and head home early. Often have I thought that any guy pulling bullshit like that would find himself out on his ass by the end of the week. That is not the case if you’re a diversity hire who needs to be coddled. The price, though, is that nobody will take them seriously, so better don’t get too envious when you come across them. Of course, I am not talking about “all women”, but there are a lot more women like that than men.
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