I think we all agree here that height is a hugely important factor for getting girls. It may even be the most important component of your looks that determines your overall level of success, or your potential maximum. Of course, this argument is based on the assumption that we keep all other factors equal. This means that, for instance, of two guys of the same socio-economic status and the same level of facial attractiveness, the taller guy will do better. We also exclude outliers like being freakishly tall, i.e. 6’6″ or more. In that case, your height may indeed hurt you and you better make millions playing in the NBA to offset the disadvantages of your height.
Sometimes you hear people claim that height doesn’t matter because they know someone who is short and does better than someone else who is tall. Such comments were particularly frequent during the heydays of the seduction industry. The claim was normally phrased as there being “that one guy” who is short, ugly, and broke and nonetheless gets top-notch pussy. This is of course total bullshit, but even if it was true, it didn’t matter because it’s better to assume that you are not an extremely rare outlier. This is the basis of our entire reality, by the way: many physical laws are statistical in nature. More often than not, any constant you have encountered in physics in high school is, in fact, a random variable with an underlying distribution. We didn’t build modern physics by assuming outlier values and ignoring the big chunk of data in the middle of the distribution.
It is very easy to refute the claim that there is, or may exist somewhere, a short guy who gets more women than a taller guy with a similar background. You can clearly see that said short guy is cherry-picked. The person making the argument didn’t just pick any random short guy. What may not be immediately obvious, though, is that the tall guy in this comparison is likewise cherry-picked. We know, from observation and lived experience, that taller guys do, in general, better with women than shorter guys. This does not mean that shorter guys can’t get laid but instead that they may need to work harder to compensate for their lack of height, say by doing well in their job and making more money. Yet, a taller guy making the same effort would still do better.
If we picked a random tall guy to compare with some random short dude, we would arguably find that he does better with women than a cherry-picked short guy who allegedly does well with the ladies. Where the height-doesn’t-matter argument fully breaks down, however, is when we properly widen the scope: we first pick a random shorty guy and a random tall guy, and compare those two. Then we do this over and over and over. Just think of all tall guys you know, and all short guys. Don’t, on average, the tall guys do a lot better with women? Furthermore, for every short guy who is allegedly a “slayer” you’ll probably easily find a tall guy who bangs many more women and with much greater ease.
If you make a general observation, such as that tall guys do better with women, then it does not help to present one short guy who occasionally gets laid. It’s utterly useless as an argument. You would only refute the original claim if we could observe, in the real world, that women consistently go for shorter guys. This is absolutely not the case. In fact, it has become a meme that women want their guys to be at least six feet tall.
Lastly, if it was the case that women wanted shorter men, nobody would show up and say, “Aaron, you’re wrong because my midget friend got laid once two years ago.” If it really was the case that women wanted short men, we would have tall men congregating online, talking about “leg shortening procedures” and cursing their tall fathers, wishing they would have been born short instead. Is this happening? Of course not. I sometimes can only shake my head because I can’t even fathom how guys can be so deluded. Then again, they may need to delude themselves because they can’t face the cold, hard truth.
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