I occasionally listen to Aaron Clarey’s YouTube videos when I need an excuse for playing a few rounds of Tetris. I tend to agree with most of what he says, but on a few rare occasions he makes statements that only make me shake my head. In particular, a lot of what he has to share on dating seems rather questionable. In one of his videos on picking a girlfriend, he made such a statement. A clueless guy wrote him an email, asking for advice. One of Aaron Clarey’s suggestions was to “pick a diamond in the rough”, and polish it. By this he meant to go for a woman that has been overlooked because she was fat. Aaron Clarey then went into hard-core mental masturbation mode, talking about how you could slim her down and shape her, pun intended.
In fantasy land, it may indeed be possible to pick up a fattie, make her your girlfriend and turn her into your ideal woman. In fantasy land, I deadlift 1000 lbs. The first big mistake is the assumption that fat women might have more pleasant personalities. The misguided belief is that they are just like hot women, just fatter. This is complete hogwash. It is not the case that you will get a fat girl, make her starve herself, and then get a slim cutie with a pleasant personality. No, not at all! In my experience, women who take better care of themselves are all-around more pleasant people. Beautiful people tend to be nicer, they tend to be smarter, and they tend to be healthier. With a fat chick, you are getting the worst possible combination: poor looks, a shitty personality, and poor health. Besides, can you even imagine fucking a fat chick?
We have to ask ourselves how women end up getting fat. Whatever the reason is, it’s not a good one. Maybe she hates herself and needs to stuff her face as a means of finding comfort. Maybe she never bothered to learn about nutrition. Or maybe she just does not care. After all, it’s not as if you get fat and don’t notice it. No, fat women know that they are fat, and instead of putting the damn fork down, they demand that we throw out billions of years of evolutionary preferences and start finding fatties attractive so that their oh-so fragile egos do not get hurt.
Furthermore, there is a rather devious psychological mechanism in play that will likely keep a fat woman from slimming down. It boils down to some guy picking her, so she knows that she was good enough for him. Of course, she may have to have settled for a loser due to a lack of options, but that loser is in no position to tell her to slim down. But even if he did: the assumption was that if you turn a fattie into a slim cutie, you end up with a hot girl. More likely, though, a fattie-turned-hottie quickly realizes that she can now get men of a higher caliber. She thus would not tolerate her loser of a boyfriend any longer and quickly trade up.
Of course, all of this neglects the immense effort it takes to lose weight. Chicks manage to fatten up really quickly, but losing that weight is an immense struggle. We are talking about multiple years. Thus, even if Joe Loser would get his fat girlfriend to slim down — by the time she gets slim, she will be a lot closer to wall-hitting age. Thus, in all seriousness, why would any guy with at least half a brain ever pick a fattie?