Not too long ago I publicly declared that I have a man-crush on Jordan Peterson. In response, a commenter posted a video clip with Peterson’s take on MGTOW (I’ll have more to say about that kind of comment in a different post). Here is the clip:
There is a really great sentence in it: “Maybe, if you made the right sacrifices, you wouldn’t have so much trouble with women.” He also points out that if you don’t do well with women, it’s not the women’s fault, it’s yours. I agree with that position. However, he also makes a statement I fully disagree with. At the very end of that short clip, he simply refers to men going their own way as “pathetic weasels”. On a side note, Aaron Clarey seems to make the same mistake when he refers to MGTOW as “virgin-TOW”.
In my view, there are two disjoint groups in the MGTOW community. One are losers who “graduated” from the PUA scene and use MGTOW to justify their lack of success with women. To them, all women are whores and not worthy of them, neglecting the fact that they themselves are fucking failures and that there are very good reasons why they never got laid. This is the “virgin-TOW” fraction. These are also the men who are pathetic weasels.
However, there is another part of MGTOW that may very well be a small minority: men who are attractive to women but who do not want to be exposed to the risks of getting involved with Western women. For some men it’s probably more than enough to see their friends getting decimated on the battle field of love: some were tricked into marriage, others cheated on, many ended up in divorce court and had to start their life over at 40. Having older friends can be very educational because they may make mistakes you should probably avoid. A good friend of mine is currently going through divorce. It’s pretty tough.
For guys who deliberately avoid women because they are aware that society looks down on men and views them as disposable, “pathetic weasel” is one of the worst labels you could find. Personally, I find it admirable if someone manages to “ghost”, minimize the influence of the government on his life, and maximizes his personal happiness without women. I certainly don’t want to claim that women aren’t worth your time or effort but, man, there are so many incredibly shitty women out there. You’re literally looking for diamonds in the rough. I can understand if a guy simply grows out of wanting to have a girlfriend after dating a few crazies. If you opt out of dating because you don’t like the odds, you simply decided, after sampling the goods, that you’d rather not buy.