I was recently asked about the effect methylphenidate (MPH) has on meditation. I did not need to to an experiment as I have done that already. I am fairly experienced with meditation and, as many of you may be aware of, even wrote a book on this topic. My baseline experience, without MPH, is that… Continue reading Meditation and Methylphenidate
I recently wrote a few blog posts on the middle and upper class distinction recently (cf. income differentials, status trap, elite socialization). In this article, I want to tie together some of my observations. Thinking more about middle/upper-class issues, I came to the conclusion that the defining characteristic of the middle class is adherence to… Continue reading Rule-Following vs. Rule-Defining as the Quintessential Middle/Upper Class Distinction
It may seem that in my recent guest post about comparing the 10 year costs of pay sex with the long-time costs of a standard German middle-class marriage and divorce, I had wanted to express the idea that dealing with real-life women in a sexual or relationship-oriented context was more or less unfeasible, and that… Continue reading Hope in the Existence of Good Women, and the Beauty of It (Guest post by Lucretius Carus)
In addition to my sexual exploits with women in real life I also have a parallel track of sexual pay-to-play, i.e. “pay sex”, i.e. prostitution, going on. This parallel psychosexual arrangement (with some overlaps of occasional “A/B testing” between real life and the pay sex world) has been going on for some twenty years now.… Continue reading Pay Sex vs. Standard Marriage – a Ten-Year Empirical Evaluation (Guest Post by Lucretius Carus)
Obviously, you all know about “sour grapes”, i.e. someone claiming that something they failed to achieve or cannot afford it not all that great anyway. This goes back to a fable by Aesop. Recently, though, I came across a pattern that goes beyond that. The context is that there is someone in my extended family… Continue reading Higher-Order Sour Grapes: When Everything that is Inferior is Actually Better
I grow a bit of food in the garden. This year, our raspberries did very well. During summer and autumn we harvested a lot of these berries. Of course, as the weather got colder, the yield declined. However, I was not aware that these plants just keep producing berries until nature puts a stop to… Continue reading What Plucking Frozen Raspberries Taught me About the Will to Survive
I have occasionally encountered people who seem to view life, in particular their working life, as a period to just suffer through. Older colleagues may tell you that they have “only eight years left”, with the implication that their life starts once they enter retirement. This view I have even encountered among much younger people.… Continue reading 250 Months Remaining
The other day a friend of mine sent me a video that discusses the significance of radiant and muted Christmas lighting in the movie Eyes Wide Shut, a movie I wrote about three years ago. The hypothesis presented in that video seems plausible, but that is not the point. Instead, my mind got stuck on… Continue reading Middle-Class Income Differentials Are Almost Inconsequential
Occasionally, I come across people who seem quite dissatisfied with their life, yet are not willing to change it. Nonetheless, they cling onto some romantic notion about drastically turning their life around even though chances of doing so are small to non-existent. I have met people who had taken a wrong turn at some point… Continue reading How Often Can You Start Over?
Lucretius Carus left a great comment on my article, How to Use Money to Get Girls, in which he details the understanding of the Ancient Greeks on “love”. In contrast, modern languages do not have the same level of differentiation, leading to a lot of misunderstanding if not downright confusion. I warmly recommend reading his… Continue reading The Many Facets of Love (Guest Article By Lucretius Carus)
I have spoken to quite a few men who have sex with prostitutes, but perhaps it is more correct to say that quite a few such men have spoken to me as I hardly, if ever, bring up this topic myself. While the standard approach seems to be to get the hottest hooker in whatever… Continue reading Why Do Some Guys Prefer Ugly Prostitutes?
I recently rewatched Scorsese’s Raging Bull (1980), a biographical movie on the life of the boxer Jake LaMotta. He became a boxing champion, even though many people tried to prevent it, and then he lost it all, ending up as a washed up club owner, before somewhat turning his life around. The first time I… Continue reading Tragic Rise-and-Fall Stories are Shallow
Leftism is a loser mentality. People endorse leftist ideology for one reason alone: they realize that they cannot compete fairly and openly, so they want to band together and rub the productive members of society of their wealth, income, and even status. They vilify even the merely comfortable middle class. Of course, there is also… Continue reading When Leftists Encounter Meritocracy
One argument people make for having children is that without them, they would not leave a “legacy” behind. I think this is a fundamentally misguided idea. Children extend your genetic lineage but you will be forgotten within one or two generations. This is not necessarily a defeatist position, however. Instead of thinking in terms of… Continue reading Children Provide Continuation, Not Legacy
I have spent countless hours in clubs and bars. Yet, I am basically a teetotaler. I may have drunk between one and two liters of red wine in all my life, two or three bottles of beer, and I may have taken a puff of a joint once, but my memory is a bit hazy… Continue reading Clubs, Drugs, and Alcohol
In my last post, I wrote about the follow-up costs of a marriage proposal, without even taking into account the fiscal calamity of divorce, alimony and child support. In this post, I want to outline how easy single guys have it in comparison. Despite the recent cost-of-living increases, a single guy is in a pretty… Continue reading Single Guys Live Life on Easy Street
In a comment on my recent article An Evolutionary Explanation of the Perma-Horniness of Pregnant Women, I was asked the following: How do you explain that there are so many women with rape fantasies? Were women with rape fantasies more likely to survive? I think there is a pretty simple explanation. Form genetic studies, we… Continue reading An Evolutionary Explanation for the Existence of Female Rape Fantasies
Fashion has long stopped being merely utilitarian. Instead, it is at least as important if it makes us look good. This is particularly important for women. However, when you think about it briefly, you realize that spending a lot of money is downright misguided if the purpose is not to fit in with a crowd… Continue reading The Fashion Cope
I came across a draft of this post in my notes. I originally wrote it about five years ago but did not publish it as it seemed a bit too gloomy for my liking back then. I made some minor changes to it, but kept the tone. Looking at this text again, I see no… Continue reading Aging and the Growing Sense of Urgency
When the Russian special military operation started, the collective West was quick to denounce it. The hope was to get Russia to capitulate in response to economic sanctions. Some people were even fantasizing about breaking up Russia, just like it had been done to Germany or Korea in the not-too-distant past. As it turned out,… Continue reading Female Hysterics and the Destruction of Companies: The Example of the Boycott of the Russian Economy
I recently chanced upon Homer’s Odyssey, obviously in translation, at the library. I had read it in my youth or adolescence. Then I thought of one of the dumbest statements of the huckster Tony Robbins. In one of his clips, he asks his audience, “Who of you has ever watched a movie twice?” Quite a… Continue reading Male Life Lessons in Homer’s Odyssey
I recently watched Martin Scorsese’s Casino (1995), which is an excellent epic crime drama. It is about the rise and fall of a casino executive, and his dealings with the Italian mob. The story is interesting, the acting is great, and the movie is furthermore a visual spectacle. I do not want to spoil anything,… Continue reading Scorsese’s Casino (1995) and the Joe Pesci School of Leadership
A while ago I chanced upon a book I had read as an early adult, “Fabian” by the German author Erich Kästner. It was written at the time of the Weimar Republic, before the peaceful revolution of the National Socialist party happened. As any student of history is well aware of, Weimar Germany was a… Continue reading Our Provisional Lives
Even before I managed to be able to deal with women in an effective and more satisfying way (kudos to Sleazy for his work, by the way!) – and being the chauvinist, misogynist pig that I am –, I already held the opinion that men were greatly superior to women in almost all aspects. This of… Continue reading On the True Power and Beauty of Men (Guest Post by Lucretius Carus)
Recently, GoodLookingAndSleazy left a comment regarding male life expectancy, which I wanted to discuss in an article. Here is what he wrote: Guys, what do you think about male life longevity (or lack there of)? I first learned of it in a sociology class in high school. The teacher talked about stress, but this freshman… Continue reading Male Life Expectancy and Windows of Opportunity
I received the following article request in response to my article The Dangers of Chads Living the Stacy Lifestyle: I was wondering if you can write an article request on resilience as it relates to your article The Dangers of Chads Living the Stacy Lifestyle. It appears that men nowadays lack the resilience than previous… Continue reading Building Mental Resilience
The phenomenon that fewer men than ever before are in employment is not new. However, I was under the impression that this only affects men with comparatively limited prospects on the labor market. In many Western countries, there are perverse incentives so that you are, in a strictly material sense, much better off if you… Continue reading Men Checking Out of Work
I recently received the following article request: I was wondering if you can write about insecurities (…). What are the top common insecurities among men aside from being short and how can men overcome these insecurities. I get the impression that some men will never be able to overcome their personal insecurities, thus will find… Continue reading Male Insecurities
A while ago I had an interesting conversation with a guy in his late 40s. He essentially lives a bachelor’s lifestyle but he has been seeing a woman ten years younger than him for years and on some kind of permanent casual basis. He made it clear to her that he has no interest in… Continue reading The Bachelor With Too Much Money
I had a very interesting consultation session a few weeks ago. It centered on leaving the pickup scene behind at or perhaps slightly after your peak, and the risk of missing this window. As I have real-world friends who are in the corresponding age range, i.e. roughly their mid-30s to early 40s, this was a… Continue reading The Off-Ramp in Pickup
Netflix recently released a three-part mini-series on Arnold Schwarzenegger, which, I assume, all of you are familiar with. This mini-series has three parts, covering distinct phases in Schwarzenegger’s life: body builder, movie icon, and politician. Looking for a catchy alliteration, these parts are called athlete, actor, and American, which perhaps rolls off the tongue more… Continue reading Arnold (2023)
I recently read the autobiography of Cliff Bleszinski, better known as “CliffyB” and the creator of the Gears of Wars franchise, which was huge in the late 2000s. The story of this guy’s life is relevant even for those among my readers who have no interest in video games, however, as this guy, despite having… Continue reading The Tragedy of CliffyB: A Cautionary Tale about Women, Success, and Money
I just returned from a doctor’s appointment of my wife, which I attended in case there are any language issues. The visit went about as bad as you could imagine. My wife has recurring back pains, nothing overly serious, but she wanted to get a prescription for physiotherapy. The actual appointment was almost like a… Continue reading Medicine is a Nasty Subscription Business
In the hey-days of the pickup industry, I got the occasionally genuinely bizarre request, e.g. guys who were relatively old virgins telling me that they want to not just have sex with women but they had very specific ideas about having multiple fuck buddies around. One told me about a very particular practice he was… Continue reading Getting a Taste of What You Think You Want
There is a very peculiar claim that is very popular among apparently all hucksters and grifters, namely the claim that you should not be too careful about spending your money because you can “always make money back”. In contrast, you need to be protective of your time because it is simply limited. This statement may… Continue reading You Can Neither Make Money Back nor Time
I mentioned before that I moved away from the degeneracy that is so widely celebrated in our big Western cities. Currently, I am renting an attached house in a village. We have a small garden, a tiny one, actually. Overall, this patch of grass amounts to perhaps 30 square meters in total. This is obviously… Continue reading The Joy of Gardening
The topic of this post, which is based on a comment left by Maou, had been on my backlog for over a year, but a few days ago I received an email by someone else, asking about it and if I would be interested in responding to that comment as part of an article request.… Continue reading Reflections on a Possibly Wasted Decade Spent on Picking up Women
I am in the perhaps rare situation that my wife is a homemaker, and one who enjoys cooking. This was completely normal as little as thirty years ago but when I mention this today, I get told that I need to be “more inclusive” in my language. This is not a joke. I once casually… Continue reading Following the Recipe
The term “schizo” is often used in a somewhat derogatory way, implying that someone has lost touch with reality, seeing connections that are not there. There is also the aspect that people are often quickly labelled as supposed schizos because they make connections that are very obvious to them yet completely unfathomable to run-of-the-mill mid-wits.… Continue reading Schizo Mindset, Winner Mindset
P Ray recently asked if he could write a guest post on the advantages of lady boys over regular women. You will find his detailed thoughts on the issue below. First, lets get a few obvious things out of the way. If you are looking for “the one” to father children then obviously this advice… Continue reading Guest Post: The Case for Lady Boys (by P Ray)
In my last article, I made the statement, “If money was taken care of, probably a fair number of men would be fine with just pursuing their hobbies.” There are some implications to this, which I am exploring further in this post. By and large, I think that men are happiest if they have some… Continue reading Work, then What?
Adaptability is one of the biggest strengths of men, and it is also arguably one of their biggest weaknesses. To put it simply, you can get used to more or less anything and before you know it, this environment will be your new normal. Anybody who has ever travelled to a poorer country probably knows… Continue reading Getting out of the Shit Tier
I received the following article request, which is related to my article on dealing with a failed relationship: What’s the best course of action when moving on after a failed relationship and dealing with the emotional pain? For example, I’ve heard people say, make some goals, take a trip, but all this sounds easier said… Continue reading Mental Resilience
I received the following article request: When a Chad is surrounded by other Chads, do those Chads ever pose a sexual threat? I posted this comment in one of your Open Threads. How should a Chad handle these situations? How does an aging Chad cope that his looks are fading and will no longer be… Continue reading Aspects of Chad Psychology
I used to think that all this talk in some corners of the Internet about the harmful influence of porn on society was exaggerated. After talking to men who told me about their genuine porn addiction, I changed my mind on that matter. One guy told me that he used to spend hours every day… Continue reading Another Argument in Favor of No-Fap
I recently spoke to a client who wanted to discuss the direction his life has been going. One issue we breached was having children. For context, this guy has not even reached his mid-20s but has enjoyed spectacular early success in his career. This year, he expects to pocket $200 to $220k, which probably comfortably… Continue reading If you Want Kids Later, You Can Have Them
Several times in my consultation sessions as well as among friends and acquaintances have I encountered guys being stuck between two worlds. On the one hand, they would like to keep dating (or sleeping) around, or pursuing their hobbies, or make more money, but on the other they also realize that they have been, abstractly… Continue reading The Indecision about Settling Down
A recurring theme on this blog, in particular in the Open Threads, is the discrepancy between reality and the make-believe world the mainstream is pushing. I notice this in my day-to-day life as well, with people acting not in accordance with reality but some kind of gobbledegook world that is so inconsistent that your head… Continue reading Smile Less!
In an extended exchange with one of my readers who seems rather impervious to reasoned argument, I was hit with the following statement: You are writing this like I’m not aware of all the theories which float around in far-right circles. It’s not like you are such a creative genius Aaron that you discovered this… Continue reading Dealing With Disrespect
One of the key phrases Looks Maximus uses is, “life-affirming experiences”. You may dismiss this as posturing, considering that he promotes a “whore-maxxing” lifestyle as the complete opposite of the life the traditional wage-slave lives. I am referring to the study hard, work hard, and at the very end, after a life of relative discomfort,… Continue reading The Wisdom of “Looks Maximus” (II): Life-Affirming Experiences
