In the hey-days of the pickup industry, I got the occasionally genuinely bizarre request, e.g. guys who were relatively old virgins telling me that they want not just to have sex with women but they had very specific ideas about having multiple fuck buddies around. One told me about a very particular practice he was familiar with from his extensive studies of pornography, and he wanted to experience this in real life. It seems PUA marketing worked well on those people. While I certainly cannot blame any straight guy to want to have sex with women, seeing that it is a biological urge, it is a bit less obvious why someone would earnestly want to purse a goal that goes well beyond that.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to dream big. Yet, there is a big difference between an ambitious high school athlete wanting to be an Olympian, however remote a goal this may be, and someone who never went for a jog in his life fantasizing about running a marathon, let alone winning a major one. The same is true with guys who have avoided women all their life, for whatever reason, and suddenly get the idea in their head that it would be great to see multiple women at once. Even if they could get to this point, without any of the intermediate steps, they have no idea what this even entails, which is why I cannot take such requests seriously.
A couple of years ago someone messaged me on LinkedIn, a young guy about to enroll in an engineering degree. I think he just messaged a few people for advice, perhaps only due to geographic proximity. The brief exchange started pleasantly enough. He told me that he wanted some professional advice about his chosen career in software engineering. He followed this up with a few questions, all of which could easily be answered via an online search, which made me wonder if he was just following the blueprint of a course on networking. Instead of answering his dumb questions, I asked him if he has written any code in his life yet, anything at all. Well, it turned out that he had not, and from that point onward I simply ignored him. He got the idea in his head that he wanted to be a software engineer and expected to learn everything he needed at university. However, in my view, anyone with a serious interest in this field picks up programming by himself before starting a degree program, and not uncommonly such people mainly attend university only to get the credential.
No matter what you want to do or aspire to, surely it is a good idea to get a taste of it beforehand. Otherwise, chances are that you are only going to get disappointed. This is a feeling quite common among video game aficionados if they get caught in the industry’s hype cycle, but a string of high-profile busts surely helped cure a large part of the current crop of gamers from this ailment. Any hardcore virgin who barely interacts with women, for instance, should perhaps just spend a bit more time with the fair sex. I would not be surprised if this somewhat lowered his motivations in that regard.
When I was a bit younger, I thought that it would be great to one day afford a Porsche. Back then I quite liked the iconic design of the 911 but also the more recently introduced 718. Nowadays, I don’t even find the design of the 911 that appealing anymore, but some variants of the 718 Cayman I still really like. Anyway, as it so happened, I got the chance to sit in a high-powered 911 GT once and, to be quite frank, I did not particularly enjoy the experience. I get that this car appeals to people who want the sports car feeling but I find sitting in a nice Audi, VW, BMW, or Mercedes Benz a lot more pleasant. A brief ride in a Porsche cured me from entertaining unrealistic notions of that kind of car, just like banging a hooker would bring a virgin back to reality and make him stop idealizing sex, or even women in general. Quite simply, anything you taste may turn out to be not nearly as great as you imagined it to be, and before making any grandiose plans, get at least a morsel of experience in it. This may save you a lot of time, money, and energy.