As has become obvious even to those who used to fully buy into the promises of the pick-up industry, “game” does not exist. If she is not attracted to you, then approaching her from a 45-degree angle from behind or asking her if she flosses before or after brushing is not going to get her wet for you. I’m not making this up. PUAs really did promote such nonsense.
The concept of “game” does not make any sense because you can assess someone’s attractiveness by looking at them. She does not need to talk to you to know whether she wants you to put your penis in her. However, it is certainly possible that you wreck your chances of getting laid if you act like a weirdo. However, even in such cases she will cut you more slack the more attracted she is to you.
While “game” is not real, “anti-game” certainly is. By this I mean anything you do that makes you waste your chances with women. In “game”, the assumption is that you can move her from “disinterest” to “fuck me harder!”. A PUA will only hear these words if he forgets turning the volume on his laptop down while watching porn, though. In contrast, with “anti-game” you take her from “I wonder if he fucks well” to “what was I thinking?”
It is easy to diagnose anti-game. Just keep in mind that women are very selective with regards to whom they talk to, make out with, go on a date with, or bend over for. There is obviously some attrition, meaning that not every girl who looks at you with big eyes and an eager, inviting smile is going to end up riding you. However, if there is a sudden drop-off in this pipeline, it is most certainly due to anti-game.
Let me give you an example of what I just said. Consider a guy who likes going to clubs. He ends up making out with a few girls a night. It happens so regularly that it strikes him as normal. Yet, he almost always goes home empty-handed. None of his friends gets responses like that, but he nonetheless thinks that making out with girls doesn’t mean anything. Here’s a problem: girls don’t randomly make out with guys. The reason this dude does not get his dick wet on a regular basis is due to anti-game. Maybe he makes out with girls for hours until they lose interest. Maybe he says something stupid to her girlfriends. Whatever it may be, there must be something in his behavior that leads to him hitting a brick wall after making out with random girls.
Then there are guys who get a lot of girls to go on dates with. They have one date after another but a success rate of just a few percent. It’s the same story. Those guys will tell you that girls aren’t really interested in sex or that it’s nice to just talk to a woman (lol) to excuse their lack of success. However, agai, women don’t just go on dates with any random dude. There has to be a significant level of interest to get her to take a few hours out of her day to meet up with you. Yes, it’s a few hours: selecting clothes, dressing, putting on makeup, fretting about pointless crap, getting to the place where you meet, the actual date, etc. The exception is if you pay for expensive dinner dates. In that case, she may do it just to save some money and for the experience.
There are even guys who take girls home on a semi-frequent basis and end up making out for a few hours with them or getting a blowjob. The girl does that to get things finally started, and some girls quite happily take that kind of initiative, but the guy believes that this was it already and maybe next time they’ll have P-in-V sex. Yet, this is not what is going on. Instead, the girl is dying to get fucked, but the dude is too passive. If she ends up at your place, then having sex with you is basically a sure thing. If it is not, then you can thank your top-notch anti-game for it.
In casual dating, there is a clear pipeline from “hello” to sex. If you make it past “hello” and get at least a modicum of interest, but at one point your success rate of getting from one step to the next drops down a cliff, you have your culprit. It’s anti-game. The positive message, though, is that it is normally quite easy to fix it. In contrast, a guy who does not get any interest from girls at all is in a much more difficult spot.
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