Pickernanny just posted a detailed and highly accurate post on the correlation between porn-like sex and dealing with a cluster B-type woman, which I have decided to repost as an article to give it greater visibility.
In light of Cheeky_James recent arrival and skimming through the conversations, and reflecting on some of my past encounters with women I wanted to try and touch on a certain aspect that may or may not be related to a lot of what men with a higher than average (mine is certainly not huge—though above average) lay count experience.
I think when a guy sets out to bang a ton of women he inevitably comes into contact with a disproportionate amount of cluster B women by default. These are the types, in my belief, that tend to be the sluttiest. I’m not saying that the rules of hypergamy and modern cultural phenomenon don’t apply in these cases and that they’ll fuck any average Joe, but I find it incredibly unlikely that if you’re venturing about and banging a ton of women that you’re coming into contact with the most virtuous among them.
Borderlines in particular, with which I’ve certainly come into contact with on several occasions (I swear these types gravitate towards me as some sort of savior archetype), have a certain flare about them that makes them both incredibly alluring and simultaneously soul crushing. If you don’t stick around to witness the full extent of the play that they put on, i.e. you bang them and move on quickly, you can mitigate a lot of the more unpleasant aspects of their personalities. However, having witnessed how dysregulated they can (will) become it is quite harmful to your own psyche and can even bring out narcissistic tendencies within your own self whereas before these traits were largely either suppressed or even non-existent.
When they idealize you early on it’s as if they “love” you fully and unconditionally while elevating you to the heavens above, only to eventually become dysregulated, split, and devalue you so that you end up being cast down from the heavens into a fiery hell pit of anguish and self-loathing. One can become very jaded with just a handful of these encounters (perhaps even one). If you’re like me you want to keep the good times rolling with the more attractive ones, and sometimes you feel as though you can actually step into the role of the emotional regulator that they so crave and even help them. This is a massive undertaking and a essentially a full-time job. They’re constantly oscillating between idealization and devaluation, and fear of becoming fulling engulfed or enmeshed in their love object and then fears of abandonment, rejection and humiliation.
It’s with these types and cluster B women in general that the love and sex bombing is just awesome. It’s a dynamic that can become addictive to the average man. You meet this sweet wonderful angel, she inflates your ego, and then suddenly she’s fucking you five times a night and then showing up with toys, butt plugs, and sexy leather outfits a couple nights later.
I guess my conclusion is that I just wouldn’t be surprised at all if a lot of this “Chad-tier” sex is just Chad coming into contact with a lot of crazies. Should Chad ever find a good girl to settle down with then I somehow doubt that he’ll be able to recreate that same sexual dynamic as he did with all those cluster B women. I’m not saying that he will be sexually dissatisfied or anything, but it seems to be that the focus has shifted from getting as much porn-like sex as possible to seeing sex as more of a function for propagating his offspring and maintaining the relationship by that point.
Also, consider that mental illness seems to be at an all time high in the West in general, and it’s spreading like a disease faster and further. It just stands to reason that the vast majority of women that sleep around and without first carefully screening and selecting a man are probably at least somewhat mentally ill to begin with. Sometimes I wonder if I did find a solid and mentally stable girlfriend if she’d just be too “boring” for me.