A common phenomenon is that when guys want to rack up lays and manage to do so, they go through a phase in which their standards may be a bit lower. This does not necessarily apply to a woman’s physical appearance, however. Instead, you could notice several red flags and still want to bang her. After all, it is not easy to argue with a raging boner, in combination with your OCD that wants you to get a few more notches because more notches are better.
Yet, with increasing experience you tend to get a bit picker. Normally, those are bad experiences. One of the first women I ever pulled was, so I thought, in decent enough shape. Yet, when she got out of her figure-shaping garments (I had no idea those existed), I frantically tried to figure out how I get out of this. In the end, I pretended to be really sleepy, but I didn’t dare to fall asleep in her bed as the thought of her touching me was horrifying. I didn’t want to pay for an expensive cab either, so I had to make it through this ordeal, which lasted until the morning. This one bad experience was enough for me to raise the bar significantly. As a general rule, I think that if you are unsure whether you should bang a woman, don’t.
There is more to women than just their looks. No, really! While it is easy to forego banging a woman you are on the fence about, it is much harder when you are sitting next to an absolute stunner. There is a red flag popping up every other minute or so, but you just don’t seem to notice them. Then you bang her and she puts on the kind of performance your friends don’t want to believe. They tell you that you should keep your bullshit to yourself, but you just shrug it off. Yet, as you are looking forward to banging her again, reality slaps you hard in the face. Maybe she caused some drama in the meantime because her life is so boring. Some women have a tendency to create a situation that requires a man to bail her out. This could be anything. She could overspend, get in an argument with her roommate so that she has to stay over at your place, or have an argument with her best friend in public, which necessitates that you need to come and pick her up. One chick I knew habitually started fights with waitresses or store clerks, causing me to intervene. Looking back, I’m baffled that I ever put up with such nonsense.
Red flags are easy to ignore if you are young and horny, but as you gain more experience, you hopefully quickly learn. How many women you’ve pumped and dumped need to tell you that if you don’t become their boyfriend, they’ll run to the police and file a rape accusation? Going through this once is more than enough. There are many other manifestations of emotional instability. Women tend to be rather adept at covering them up, however. Some they can’t. A particularly telling one is if she infrequently gains and loses weight. More often than not, this means that she is slimming down when she has gotten bored of the guy she’s with. Yet, once she has lined up the next guy, she will invariably pack on some extra pounds again. This is just the tip of the iceberg. You can be quite certain that if you pursued such a woman when she is signaling her availability you’ll eventually get burned. With unstable women, it is never just one particular issue. There is always something else as well.
Unfortunately, while I could pontificate all day long about the dangers of emotionally unstable women, very few men will accept this if they have never dealt with such women in their personal life. Men tend to make too many excuses. A woman has to become a real burden for a man to make him learn this lesson. Yet, the inexperienced man tends to suffer silently. Worst off are men who were raised by abusive mothers as they seem to think that such behavior is normal. To grow, however, you need to learn to set standards, not just for yourself, but also for the people in your life. Given the intimate nature of sexual relationships, including mere one-night stands, you also need to have high standards for women as you otherwise will pay a heavy price for it.
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