This is another post on speculative thinking based on evolutionary psychology. It was inspired by a comment made by GoodLookingAndSleazy on an Open Thread. He wrote:
It’s funny when girls say that “personality is everything.” WTF do they even mean? Confidence? Sense of humor? Being nice? Cocky? The only thing universal and consistent about what women want in a man is looks. And that itself is pretty uniform. It’s mostly the dudes facial structure. Men like different traits in women. Ass men, breast men etc.
The observation that women want one particular kind of guy while men have somewhat varying preferences has been made in black-pill circles and is commonly stressed there. It is quite obvious why there is only one archetype of man that is sexually desired and the closer to it you are, the more you can get laid. It is the tall, dark, stranger. Height overrides even a pretty face. (This is where I disagree with GoodLookingAndSleazy.) In other words, a tall guy with an average face will do better than a short guy with an attractive face. This taps into basic genetic programming as tall men are simply physically more imposing. In fact, you, dear male reader, are also aware of this because you yourself tend to treat taller men better than shorter men. An obvious example is deference in everyday situations. Let me give you one example: I am a pretty tall guy (6’3″/190cm) and I have worked under managers who were shorter than me. This occasionally led to incidents where we would bump into each other in the hallway, and I would get out of this way because he’s my boss, but he would do so as well because I’m the taller guy.
Height correlates with all kinds of positive attributes. Taller people are, up to a certain height, healthier. They also tend to be more intelligent. Generally, they are seen as natural leaders. This may be hard to accept for some, but I notice this in real life over and over, i.e. a taller guy is a more obvious choice for a promotion or for election. For instance, look up the height of guys like John Kerry or Donald Trump, for example. Then look up the height of your typical vice president. Trump’s VP Mike Pence is significantly shorter. It is inconceivable that Pence would have run for president, with Trump as the VP candidate because the optics would have not have been great. There is now enough data available to conclude that the taller presidential candidate is more likely to win the election.
However, when it comes to women, men assess them based on sexual preferences. It would be interesting to speculate why there are leg men, ass men, or boob men. I have a hunch that leg men tend to be shorter men. Note that leg men want tall, slender women with long, slender legs. My anecdotal evidence tells me that short men are much more attracted to tall women than tall men, probably in an attempt to positively influence the genetics of their children. Yet, tall women are objectively less attractive because their proportions are unfavorable compared to short women. This is why the biggest porn stars tend to be short and petite. Madison Ivy is below 5′, for instance. On a petite woman, a nice set of tits looks spectacularly big. A tall one, on the other hand, would need impossibly large implants to get a similar effect. I’d say that this is only a poor approximation anyway because she can’t make her bones shrink so you end up with a somewhat unwieldy woman in the bedroom whereas a petit one you can throw around on the bed to your heart’s content. (Yup, women are into this!)
I am not so sure why there is a difference between ass men and boob men. Obviously, connoisseurs of the female form don’t view these categories in either-or terms. I think only very rarely would a guy go for the woman with the biggest rack, and ignore that she is 150 lbs. overweight. I have come across speculations online that a focus on the female’s behind is a sign of a more primitive society. I even recall one video on YouTube in which the presenter made the possibly tongue-in-cheek argument that the recent focus on big butts in US popular culture is a consequence of broad cultural decline. Part of me thinks that this idea is not entirely unreasonable because big butts are not just a consequence of exercise, or butt implants, but also simply of being fat. With obesity being a mainstream occurrence in the United States, it could well be that the focus on the ass is just an adaptation to the environment. If women get fatter and fatter, which makes her boobs comparatively smaller, then any male trapped in such circumstances is basically forced to look at her ass instead. Also, when the majority of people around you are overweight and there are flabby big asses everywhere you look, then a woman with a nice firm butt stands out much more, and so does a woman with a big firm butt.
In any case, a woman can appeal to men in different ways. Some plain Jane could get boob implants to appeal to boob men or do squats in the gym to shape her ass, with the goal of reeling in an ass man. If she was born tall, she could slim herself down and do cardio to get nice long legs, in addition to running tight-ass game. In any case, no matter with what genetics a woman was born with, she has plenty of options. Of course, some women have more options than others. On the other hand, as a guy, you better be born tall with a nice frame, i.e. wide clavicles. Your can work on your looks, but, compared to women, you have less to work with. Then again, you have other ways to get laid, for instance by focussing on your career and running provider game. You can furthermore directly trade money for access to attractive women and bang every hot hooker or escort you see. A woman does not really have that option.
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