On my other blog, Pickernanny made the following statement about nurses [comments section]:
By the way, you might not be surprised by how raunchy some of the young female nurses I work with can be. Openly talking about their sex lives, the guys they would fuck in the building or have fucked, discussing penises etc.
I was not at all surprised by this. In fact, nurses seem to generally have a reputation for having loose morals. One of the most common sentences I’ve heard from guys who are good with women is that nurses are, um, very outgoing in the bedroom and require little in terms of persuasion to get there. (You can probably think of more concise ways of phrasing this.) While you can pick up the occasional nurse in a club, privileged access is afforded to doctors. I’ve met a few young doctors in my life, or medical students, and they all had stories to tell of nurses literally forcing themselves on them.
The anecdotal evidence seems pretty damning, but let’s give nurses a fair trial as I think that their reputation is not entirely justified. The first observation is that nursing is a heavily female-dominated profession. Thus, the fact that they openly discuss their sex lives is related to them being in an all-female environment. It has little to do with their being specific nurse-traits that make them behave in this particular way. If you have ever experienced this yourself, for instance on a birthday party of a female acquaintance in which there were 90% women around, or in a women-dominated office environment, you have probably learned that some women shamelessly discuss intimate details of their private lives. Partly, this is due to them trying to one-up each other by boasting about having gotten laid by Tyrone last weekend, but sometimes, they also want to signal their sexual availability to Chad in cubicle #00432 who has a habit of grabbing coffee in the kitchen at 10:00, so that’s where the hens congregate and tell each other lewd stories about their sexual exploits. All of this is just a more tame version of female behavior on a “girls’ night out” or a bachelorette party.
All it takes to get the average modern woman to talk openly about sex is a bit of alcohol and the presence of other women. That’s also when they will pull out their phones, showing off dick picks. Yes, I know that the official narrative is that women hate getting dick picks and that it’s sexual harassment, but in reality a lot of women engage in a proxy dick-measuring context by showing off pictures of relevant penises to their girlfriends. Your fuck buddy is boasting about your big dick when she’s hanging out with her besties, too. It’s part of standard female behavior. This is much more common in the West, it seems. I have it on good authority that in various Asian cultures it is a taboo among women to discuss sex or show a particular interest in the topic, to begin with.
Another aspect makes nurses an interesting topic of study: There used to be a time where a young, attractive woman had a good chance to marry a high-status man if she managed to break into those circles, even if only in an ancillary role. Big Dick CEOs married hot secretaries who barely finished high school, and Dr. Chad put a ring on Nurse Stacy, and lived happily ever after. This may have worked well until the late 80s or early 90s, but today, the name of the game is assortative mating. Dr. Chad may not even bang Stacy in the supply room anymore because he’s afraid of getting #metoo-ed. Even if that wasn’t a problem, he wouldn’t marry her because he probably wants a woman who is closer to him in terms of socio-economic status. Nurses who entered the profession in the last decade or so may still have had high hopes of seducing doctors, popping out a few kids, and retiring at the age of 24. Only once they have been burned, after realizing that this ship has sailed, will later generations have learned the lesson.
Time lag in societal trends is a big issue. It seems to take well over a decade before there is widespread knowledge of how the environment has changed. You still have absurd numbers of students in Law School, even though that path is a lot less lucrative nowadays, for instance. It’s just like how some people bought Bitcoin at the very peak. They read about X doing great, so they think that this will now be true forever and they get burned. To draw the connection to nurses: medicine used to be male-dominated profession. However, today women have either achieved parity or they even outnumber men in this field. This is largely due to changed admissions standards. I recall reading about how Western universities give female applicants a leg up over their male competitors. Anyway, the upshot is that today’s nurses are competing over a much lower supply of doctors, and those doctors may no longer have any interest in getting involved with nurses, both at the level of one-night stands or affairs, due to #metoo, as well as for long-term relationships, due to assortative mating. Also, men have less of an interest in getting married anyway these days.
In summary, the reputation of nurses seems to have less to do with those women being different in any way from other women. Instead, they behave in a less-restrained manner simply because they work in a female-dominated environment. The stereotype of nurses trying to seduce doctors exists for a reason, but the world has changed. In some sense, those nurses had been preparing for a world that no longer exists because Dr. Chad is not going to risk his career for some shallow sexual encounters with one of his nurses. Thus, there is now an oversupply of sexually active women who don’t have enough men among them to go around. Nurses arguably deserve the reputation they have, just like everyone else. Yet, we should cut them a bit of slack because the issue is not that nurses are particularly naughty. Instead, chances are that you are giving regular women too much credit. Put them in an all-female environment, and they’ll probably behave in a disreputable manner in no time.
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