Recently one of my readers remarked that “game” just as the more romantic notion of wooing a woman are relatively recent phenomena. In particular, the idea that you would need “game” is highly artificial. Of course, game is b.s. as your success with women primarily depends on looks for short-term hookups and money as well as looks, albeit possibly to a lower extent, for long-term relationships. The example given was that to a Roman, the mere thought that you would need “game” to get a woman would be completely incomprehensible. Needless to say Roman society was much more masculine than today’s effeminate society.
I find Roman society deeply fascinating. In fact, it was one of the main motivators for carrying me through my studies of Latin in high school. It was intellectually satisfying on its own, but this language being the key to a better understanding of the Roman culture provided some extra motivation. The Romans knew three kinds of marriage, by the way. There could be a formal ceremony, which somewhat comparable to religious marriage. Alternatively, you could simply buy a wife. Lastly, they also knew what we nowadays call “common-law marriage”. If you cohabitated with a woman in Ancient Rome, you were eventually considered married. Obviously, these three kinds of marriage were not seen as equivalent. Also, a man of a certain standing would not just purchase his wife but instead aim to get married to a woman from a good family.
Some historians claim that the fact that the Romans did not allow polygamy was a driving force behind them building their vast empire. There is probably some truth to it. More or less every man got a wife but for variety, there were whores aplenty who would satisfy your sexual needs for a few unciae. Thus, there was a clear social contract: To get a good woman, you needed to impress her father. Failing to do so, there were still other ways. This was more or less also the norm in much of Western Europe until quite recently. Today, though, the only option seems to be cohabitation with a loose woman as only in good families is the father consulted by the daughter regarding the choice of husband. (Article continues below.)
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Whenever society knows stable paths towards marriage and family formation, there is neither an abundance of incels nor of spinsters. With the destruction of society, primarily by the forceful removal of the father from the family home and by pushing women into the workforce, mainstream media and radical leftist teachers now raise our children for the very most part. Thus, you end up with enormous masses of people who are simply adrift intellectually, professionally, and spiritually. You can say all you want that our previous way of organizing society was limiting the freedom of men and women. The alternative is simply too unappealing. We now have countless women who think “freedom” means to fuck a bunch of randos until their mid-30s and “keeping their options open”. Yet, because we now longer effectively control female sexuality, society has been falling apart.
On the one hand, you have women who hold out for an alpha Chad who never comes, and on the other you have a bunch of men who are not deemed sexually attractive enough. For some reason, this did not keep our forebears from procreating. We simply matched the most beautiful women with the most successful men, and so on. Today, women of average looks believe they are 10s because nobody tells them otherwise. Instead of settling down with a guy of a comparable level of desirability, they don’t settle down at all. Once they realize that they have forty years of TV dinners left, it is too late. This is the big tragedy of “women’s liberation”: Most women will only realize that they were the victims of a cruel joke when it is too late to change their ways.
Only because we have this large number of women who are unwilling to settle down did we ever end up with “game”. Of course, before there was “game” there was simply rampant promiscuity. Back in the 1970s, Chad railed all the Stacies. More and more men felt being left out from banging the increasing numbers of seemingly sexually available co-eds, and eventually these men hit a critical mass that could be commercially exploited by pick-up gurus who told them that the problem is not that they lack in the looks department but that they are simply missing “game”. If they only acted like 6’3″ Chad, they surely would get laid like 6’3″ Chad.
In contrast, had we kept marrying off women young, and to men of a comparable standing, we would never have had a large number of women who happily sleep around. There would have been no promiscuity of which only ever the more attractive men benefitted. Similarly, as a consequence there could not have been game buffoonery. Yet, without the misguided teachings of pick-up gurus, the black pill community would not have sprung up either. The number of men who fell for PUAs and never had any success grew too large to be ignored for a new batch of unscrupulous fraudsters. Thus, we now have black pill and red pill gurus addressing them. None of this kind of nonsense would have happened had we just kept running society smoothly.
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