At first I wanted to title this article, “Pickup is a Subversive Act”, but the issue with the Pickup or Seduction Community is that those guys hardly ever get laid. Trying to have sex with women does not subvert society. However, being successful at picking up women, in common parlance: pumping and dumping, is a subversive act, and in this article I’ll explain why.
We are all familiar with the 80/20 rule in dating: the top 20% of guys have sex with 80% o the women. The exact numbers are irrelevant as it’s just a rule of thumb. However, it cannot be denied that women are much more selective regarding sex than men. The average man would be quite willing to have sex with a wide range of women. Heck, even Chad sometimes bangs a 5/10 just for the convenience. There is a similar phenomenon with women as well where they basically have a one-night stand with the first guy who approaches them that meets the bar they have set for themselves. That bar is comparatively high, though. Being a mere 5/10 in her eyes won’t be good enough.
Men are happy to just pump and dump. You pull some slut home from the club, blow your load, and then you’re on your merry way again. This is not how it works with women. The number of women who happily get pumped and dumped is minuscule. There is even research out there that shows that a high number of non-serious sexual encounters positively correlates with self-esteem in the case of men, but it correlates negatively with self-esteem in the case of women. It’s obvious why: guys conquer women whereas the women were only used and discarded.
In the sexual market place, the man has to play the active part. If you don’t approach, you may be a Giga-Chad but have no sexual experience to speak of. Yet, once an attractive guy approaches a woman, his chances are reasonably good. Sure, even good-looking guys have to go through a few women to find someone to take home, but the odds are really not that bad. At this point, the guy does not think beyond plowing her. In contrast, the woman thinks way beyond that. For her, a one-night stand is the potential start of a relationship. In fact, based on her experience, that may very well be the only way she knows of how to start a sexual relationship. Sure, most guys have just pumped and dumped her, but the occasional dude who stuck around for a bit entered her life as a one-night stand as well.
When a woman has a one-night stand with you, it’s normally a lot more than just a one-night stand. The Chads among you have certainly experienced that almost all women will want to see you again, and not just because you’ve given them the best dicking they have ever had. At the very least, she will want you to stick around for a few more weeks to keep her entertained while she keeps looking for a provider boyfriend. However, to me it seems that more or less all it takes for a woman to want to seriously date you after a one-night stand is learning that you have a decent job. This was my biggest surprise when I briefly reentered the dating scene after my first marriage dissolved: every single woman, upon learning what I do for a living, wanted to keep seeing me. Cheating girlfriends or wives assured me that if I was serious or interested or would be open to considering commitment they would “take care” of their current relationship. Others asked me right away if I was looking for a girlfriend or if they could be my girlfriend.
For a woman, a one-night stand is a gamble. They engage in sex in the hope of getting you to commit to them. Of course, she may not have it all planned out when you take her home, but if she wasn’t at least potentially interested in seeing you again, she would not bother with you. The hope is always there, even if you turn out to not meet all her criteria. After all, some women have an impossibly long laundry list of boxes you need to tick.
At this point, it should be quite clear why (successfully) picking up women is a subversive act. The reason is that it undermines, at an individual level, female mating strategy. If you never had any interest beyond having some fun with her for one night, she wasted time and energy, and got some further emotional damage as a consequence as she only ended up feeling used once again.
Women who have a lot of sex with a lot of men tend to not be particularly happy. The older they get, the more jaded they become. Some are genuinely toxic. It is not surprising why they ended up this way. Just put yourself in her position: she had high hopes, or at the very least some hope, that the guy she’s going home with would be her next boyfriend. Yet, she only got disappointed over and over again. Once she realizes that she’s indeed getting older and the hottest guys are increasingly out of reach, her best hope will be swallowing happy pills and getting a cat.
There is also an aspect of seduction undermining society as a whole. As you know, a woman who wants to have sex with you does not necessarily insist on using a condom. The majority of women you bang you could bang without a condom. Some will tell you bullshit stories about them being on the pill or even that they are sterile and can’t get pregnant. I heard that one from a chick in her early 20s. “It’s okay, Chad, you can cum in me!”, they tempt you. Their hope is that if you knock them up, even if it’s during a one-night stand, you’ll surely stick around. The epidemic of single mothers also shows that this gamble does not work out so well in reality. We shouldn’t blame Chad for undermining society, though, because women are the gatekeepers of sex. If they weren’t so willing to forego contraception, there wouldn’t be so many children growing up in fatherless homes.
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