One of the most evergreen topics when discussing seduction is the question of how you can know that she is into you. As we all know, unlike in Hollywood movies, women rarely make the first move, or at least nothing any guy would easily interpret as such. It is even rarer that she would bluntly come on to you. Instead, you have to approach her. Among humans, the female presents herself, and the male has to approach. The risk of rejection rests squarely on your shoulders.
Of course, there are subtle and not-so-subtle signals. Yet, what they all have in common is that they still provide plausible deniability for her. Only very rarely will a chick walk up to you, unbutton your pants, and whack your cock for a little bit. This can happen on a wild rave, but it is hardly the norm. However, even in those situations she likely didn’t just walk up to you. Instead, she probably was impatient because you didn’t escalate further already, after having made out with her for minutes already.
The only way for you to find out whether she is into you is to make a move. There are women who are really into you but who are so sensitive towards rejection that they put up an ice-cold front. Maybe you’re on a date and she just does not seem to warm up to you. Now, assuming you can read female signals at least reasonably well and know how to distinguish between neutral and borderline hostile behavior, you may want to make a bold move. If she’s neutral but consistently blocks your attempts of sexually escalating in a smooth way, then you can bring out bigger guns. For instance, you can just go for a make-out. Maybe that is exactly what she was waiting for, i.e. for this handsome, confident man to make a bold move. She thinks you’re a Chad who just takes what he wants. Don’t prove her wrong!
Making a bold move can be intimidating. Sure, if you are new to seduction, it can go wrong, but you will learn. However, if you are not willing to do so, you may lose girls who would otherwise be into you. Alternatively, consider this angle: if she’s not really budging and you feel as if you’re not making any progress — because you have not made much if any progress with her — then it is highly likely that she will lose interest anyway. Thus, a bold move like going for a make-out may be your only chance to save those interactions.
Granted, your bold move may fail. In that case, you’ve only accelerated the process because she was on the way out anyway. On the other hand, if she then suddenly warms up to you, hops on your lap and wraps her arms around you as she is wildly making out with you, you know that you did the right thing. You’ve salvaged your date. You have nothing to lose, so better be bold than timid.
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