Sometimes, guys pursue a woman not because they are sexually interested in her, but for various other reasons. A big one is validation. If you haven’t gotten laid in months, then the attention as well as the prospect of having sex with a woman you don’t find particularly attractive may be preferable to consuming online porn. While I would not recommend that course of action, I won’t blame you if you do. Society tells you that you need to have a woman, after all. Then there is the issue of curiosity: the dude just wants to know if he can have sex with that particular woman, and if he gets to that point, he may as well do it. This may sound odd to you, but just think back when you were a bit younger. Surely, you’ve had male friends who pushed you to pursue this or that girl. If you do end up having sex with her, you may only partly do so because you want to have sex with her. Another reason is that you may just brag in front of your bros that you indeed did bang that woman.
Another issue, and one that I have encountered quite frequently, among friends and clients alike, is that the guy is not really into a particular woman, goes through the motions anyway, and thinks he can convince himself in the end to have sex with her. This is not a clear-cut situation. Maybe you really like talking to that woman. You get along great — and then she’s lying naked in front of you and you’re wondering how you are going to get out of this. I was in such situations maybe two or three times myself at the beginning of my career as a seducer. I wanted to figure out how to get laid, and then I wanted to gain more sexual experience with more women. In one case, a woman tricked me with highly manipulative clothing: tight pants with some kind of front inlay that created the appearance of a flat stomach, some ass-shaping tights, and a push-up bra. I pretended that I had fallen asleep but didn’t dare to actually fall asleep because I was afraid she’d touch my private parts. I snuck out of her apartment in the morning. Another case was with a woman I thought was pretty cute, your typical Plain Jane. Yet, there was zero sexual energy. I did not feel sexually drawn to her at all so I just couldn’t bring myself to bone her.
Once you have gone through such situations a few times, you’ll probably wise up and avoid getting into a similar mess in the future. Yet, this is one of those cases where you could come to the rational conclusion that you shouldn’t bother with a particular woman beforehand. But tell that to a guy who does not get laid a lot, or to a guy who wants to get laid more often and thinks he should not be too quick to reject a woman. A friend of mine wanted to argue that this was no problem at all because he always has some Cialis with him, so if he can’t get hard, he just takes a boner pill. Instead, it’s probably better to listen to your body, but I digress.
There is one caveat, however: being the object of sexual desire is attractive. Take Plan Jane and Plain Lorraine: Plain Jain is timid and average looking. If you didn’t know any better, you’d think that she’s half dead already because she just isn’t really there. Yup, some people really are that dull. However, there is also Plain Lorraine who may be as average-to-dull looking. Yet, she has something else going: she really wants to suck your dick, make it rock-hard, bend over, and get fucked unconscious by you. Would you bang her? If you have never faced this situation, you may think that looks is looks is looks, but you’d be wrong. An average-looking woman who is totally into you and does everything to please you is most certainly worth your time. Furthermore, your body will tell you the exact same. Your dick will pick up on this and happily guide you through this interaction.
Obviously, the best case is banging a super-hot chick who is really into you. However, if your choice is between a hot girl who is only kind of into you, yet, for whatever reason, wants to fuck you versus your typical 7 who wants you so much that she’s pulling your cock our under the table in the restaurant and gives it a few good strokes, then the latter is probably the better option. Of course I am not talking about the long-term here, but merely about relatively instantaneous sexual gratification. Let your dick guide you. If it does not feel drawn towards some woman, then don’t tell yourself that you’ll get into it anyway once you start to undress her. It’s quite possible that you won’t.
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