In a recent article, I showed why the supposed superior social skills of women are nothing but a fantasy. Once their looks are gone, their manipulative powers disappear. Subsequently, I thought about male charisma. I remembered that when I was much younger, I sometimes met guys, peers and superiors alike, whom I perceived to be rather charismatic. They were the center of attention. yet, as I got older, I seem to meet fewer and fewer charismatic people. It’s not that the issue is that my peer group has deteriorated. Quite the opposite is the case.
Instead, as I gained more experience, I simply realized that plenty of goals people strive for are not really worthwhile. Also, I have become quite skeptical. I can honestly say that I have hardly ever met anyone who left an impression on me. As a case in point, I used to admire academics. Yet, after I spent some time at university, I realized that they are, mostly, a bunch of losers who can’t make it in the real world. This is even true in STEM fields. There is an utterly staggering amount of corruption, such as professors from a particular country only accepting
Then there is the problem of the private sphere. As a young, impressionable lad, you may see some guy with a nice, big car, a couple of kids, and an attractive wife, and think that he’s made it. Then you learn that the kids are misbehaved, his wife is cheating on him, and his car wasn’t bought with cash. I also met the occasional fake alpha who talked a big game but who was completely under the thumb of his wife who held all the strings. Also, there are supposedly successful guys who get bankrolled by their family. They would not openly talk about this, though. The consequence of such encounters was that I don’t make any assumptions about other people. As a general rule, very few people achieve success in life because of their great charisma and hard work. Oftentimes, they just got a big leg up; this may mean being able to do a few unpaid internships on their father’s dime, which allowed them to break into their chosen industry, while plenty of other people who may be more intelligent or more hard-working did not have that opportunity.
What I also learned is that whenever you take on any kind of leadership role, you seem to automatically gain charisma, albeit only temporarily. For instance, if you give a talk at a conference or a meet-up, it may well happen that a gaggle of people from the audience will seek you out during the break to talk to you. An outsider observing this may think that this is due to
I am not quite sure where charisma even comes into play. I think it’s only something you ascribe to others, and oftentimes, it is not warranted. Some loud-mouth Chad who drinks a lot and bangs a ton of Stacies may have the admiration of some beta males, but anybody who has done the same is just not very impressed by it. Similarly, once you’ve achieved what you want to get out of life, you’ll probably care a lot less about others and some supposedly charismatic leader may not evoke any reaction at all in you.
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