I briefly studied in Germany, where I had a professor who went off the script at the beginning of the first lecture of his course, talking about how he views men and women at university. He claimed that women are more intelligent than men despite having smaller brains, work more diligently, and do better as a result. Men can’t even compete. However, he also believed that women are less happy than men, but for
Of course, in general, men are more intelligent than women. We are stronger than them and we also have a genuine sense of justice as opposed to the so-called “care-based morality” of women that means that it’s fine to open our borders and let millions of illiterate “doctors and engineers” into the West because if you didn’t, you’d be mean and you can’t be mean. There is one aspect where that professor was right, though: men are generally happier than women, or at least they have the potential to be happier than them.
For men, the path to happiness consists of setting goals and reaching them. You attach meaning to some numbers, and your heart sings if you reach them. Competition makes it even better. This has many applications: GPA, salary, net worth, global rank in some video game, the number of women you’ve fucked, or your personal bests in the gym. There is no end to it. You do something and you set yourself a goal, which motivates you to reach it. Then you reach it, are happy about it, and set yourself another goal. This continues until you’re dead. Some philosopher, I think it was leftie Albert Camus, made fun of this cycle as he viewed it as the punishment of Sisyphus played out over and over. That is very short-sighted, however. There may be no ultimate meaning in you reaching your goals. However, your brain rewards you for the activity leading to it as well as for reaching your goal with a nice shot of dopamine. Lefties like tho short-cut this by consuming dopamine-releasing drugs, but that does not get them anywhere. They only feel even more empty and useless afterwards.
Basically every guy I know a bit better has some goals. Sometimes, it can be surprising. There was one dude I assumed to be a bit dumb; he has a fairly mundane job. I think a few things went wrong in his life, such as a poor choice of university major. Yet, I once learned that he visits Japan about once a year and is fluent in the language. He is in a dead-end office job, but at one point, he got bored with spending his spare time watching subbed Japanese animes and started learning the language to keep his mind from rotting. He took courses in the language, sought the company of Japanese exchange students to practice the language, and the last time I saw him, he was even dating a Japanese girl. He could just as well have vegged out in front of his screen all the time instead, but he didn’t.
The example just mentioned is probably quite unusual, but whenever I make an effort to talk to a guy, I learn that there is something they are interested in and care about, which provides them with a sense of meaning and achievement. On the other hand, how do women go through life? How about we start with your mother versus your father? In the case of my mom, I think the only activity you could classify as a genuine interest is tending to her garden, to make it look pretty. Meanwhile, my dad, while hardly an intellectual, has stockpiled books on history, primitive cultures (my mom suspects he got those books only to look at the naked breasts of women), and various kinds of animals. He went far beyond general interest. For instance, he has one book on the various subspecies of frogs in Central Europe, and several on
Certainly, your male friends all have some interests. It does not matter how high-brow or low-brow it is, but there is most likely something they find fascinating, for whatever reason. In contrast, look at what many young women are interested in: social media in all its forms. Period. The number of utterly shallow women I have met is astounding. This is not an issue of social class. I have met really dull women with advanced degrees who were bankrolled by their wealthy families. Even university is just something they often just do because they think they have to. Early in my seduction career, I sometimes probed when some girl told me about her degree program. I quickly dropped that as I learned that most never critically reflected on what they were taught. Plenty of those women attended selective if not highly selective universities, so don’t think that this is a matter of intelligence, attitude, or money. If anything, at the elite school I attended, the women were even less critical than women from more common walks of life.
Surely, you have encountered the problem that many women have nothing to talk about, yet talk an awful lot about it. They can fill hours running their mouth about other people, in
Now put yourself in the shoes of a woman who has no genuine interests, intellectual or otherwise. What is she going to do? There is shopping, watching Netflix, hooking up, and social media. All of this is mere consumption. They get the shopper’s high after receiving a new parcel, but within days or hours that
On the other hand, how does a guy deal with those distractions? Most likely, you don’t shop because you are bored. Instead, you buy something if you need it. That’s it. You watch a TV show if it interests you, but not to fill your time, and when you hook up, you can pump and dump without getting emotionally attached to some wet hole. Lastly, you don’t feel the same lure of social media because when you post a picture with the caption, “Bacon. Mmmmm!” people will ask you if you are retarded. A hot girl, in contrast, gets 800 likes and 200 comments for it. At 20, Stacy does not know yet that all this attention will go away within a few years’ time. There is a big black hole waiting for her at the end of that ride. For a guy, social media are a meaningless distraction from their real goals, which all have the potential to make them happy and feel fulfilled. Most guys have something better to do with their time; most women don’t.
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