In our ongoing debate with the only female reader of my blog who is willing to out herself, she recently dropped the following remarkable statement (source):
I have a large friend who found her fiance from that site, and I remember her being bombarded with messages from guys when she first signed on. I’d say about 50 in a two day period. Not sure if that’s the male experience or not.
The context is that we’re, obviously, claiming that you should much rather want to be a fat man than a fat woman because as a fat man you can at least make money and tip the scales, while a fat woman is just generally unattractive, disregarding the minuscule number of sickos who find morbidly obese women attractive.
There is a lot to get out of Ash’s comment. The first observation is her passive-aggressive conclusion. In her comments, she loves presenting herself as level-headed, but now female nature breaks through! For women, that kind of emotional arguing is very typical. Of course men don’t get as many messages as women. This leads to the second issue.
The second issue is that, when it comes to dating, the guy just has to do all the work. The girl only has to stand there, waiting for guys to come on to them. Girls even think that hovering around a guy means they’re throwing themselves at him. They also tend to get pretty frustrated whenever their awkward signaling of sexual availability doesn’t get interpreted correctly, or just by the wrong guy. In that case, it’s of course sexual harassment. In the context of online dating, a woman normally only has to put up a profile and wait for the messages to pour in. Men focus on younger and more attractive women, but online dating is the pits anyway, so you can expect the kind of man who’s going online to meet women to even go after the kind of woman who has to go online to find a man.
There are indeed guys who are, at least for some period in their life, willing to bang more or less anything. I observed this a few times among people in STEM fields who got no female attention for two to three decades. Suddenly, they can afford an apartment in a popular part of town and a nice car, and all the women Chad and Tyrone no longer want to fuck because have gotten too old for them line up. When Tinder came out, a friend of mine, a programmer, told me about a piece of code he wrote that allowed him to “swipe right” on any woman in their database. He found a way to talk to their server directly, without having to physically swipe. (Tinder eventually closed this loophole.) In the end, he got quite a few dates, mostly with women in their late 30s to mid-40s who just had dropped off the radar of younger guys, and who basically did all the work, such as trying to get him drunk and almost dragging him home. After the novelty had worn off, he got grossed out by it, though, and the last thing I know of him is that he’s, without being aware of the MGTOW movement, going his own way because he, “can’t get women when they are young and attractive and those old hags aren’t worth it.” I suggested to him to bang a bunch of young and attractive whores in Eastern Europe, which probably helped him come to this conclusion.
While women get spared the negative emotion of rejection, they also have the problem that they can only select from those men who chose to approach them. This leads to the third problem with Ash’s statement. Now, let’s be real for a second: what kind of guy goes after “large” women? You know this as well as I: guys who can’t get healthy women. Preferring fat women for a long-term relationship makes absolutely no sense. Obesity carries huge health implications, so why would you want to burden yourself with that? Then there is the issue that kids model their behavior after their parents. Fat mothers will have fat children. Thus, they will have a pretty shitty life. Let’s just hope, for the sake of the health of the species, that they don’t manage to procreate. Then again, maybe there will always be some fattie left who will just fuck anybody, and some simp of a guy who is happy about female attention no matter what. The underclass is happily procreating, after all. (Then again, they may view sex as a job as it leads to government money in the form of child benefits.)
For shorter hookups, fatties may have their reputation going for them. According to popular mythology, they are good at giving head. I’m not quite sure if this doesn’t just come from a misunderstood joke along whose lines fat girls just like putting things into their mouth. There may be some novelty in getting blown by a fattie, but if you’re a healthy male, you will feel more attracted to slim women, and you’ll certainly feel more aroused putting your cock in their mouth. I think it’s safe to say that men are only interested in brief encounter with fat women, if at all. Thus, a fat woman on a dating site may drown in messages from men. I don’t even want to dispute that. But those messages will be from broke losers, chubby chasers, Jose who used to bang tight pussy back home but now needs a visa to be able to stay in the country, and Tyrone who is not really into fat white chicks but knows that he can do absolutely anything with them because they have no self-esteem.
On the other hand, if you take a fat man, put him in a nice suit and upload pictures in front of his new Porsche, he’ll get enough money-hungry sluts willing to fuck him. Of course, those whores would rather fuck a buff billionaire, but as long as he’s not showing up, a fat millionaire will certainly do. For a rich guy, looks don’t really matter. This reminds me of a former client of mine, a very well-off guy who could have afforded to lose a few pounds. He wasn’t morbidly obese by a long shot, but he carried quite some extra weight around due to his predilection for great food and high-end liquors. He basically paid me to hang out with him and to pick my brain. We began the evening with a nice meal at a good restaurant. After he was done with the main course, he said to me, “You’re probably waiting for a good opportunity to tell me that I should work out. I actually work out. I’m fat because I love food!” While I laughed, he added, “…and to be honest, getting women is already not a problem for me.”
That guy banged some spectacularly good-looking women, and he had no delusions about what they saw in him. I don’t want to encourage you to pack on the pounds. However, for guys weight is just one of many factors a woman will consider. For men, though, the weight of a woman is a major factor, and arguably one she will find impossible to compensate for.
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