Some time ago I enrolled in a language course. Of course, you start at the bottom, so I found myself in a room full of people with different levels of ambition and abilities. I’m not there to make friends but to learn a language. However, during the break I don’t actively exclude myself. If people small talk, I sometimes join. During one of those breaks, something downright bizarre happened. Well, it wasn’t even that bizarre. I’d say it’s quite natural. It involves a woman from a developing country from Asia.
We just exchanged some basic information, who we are and what we do. When it’s her turn to say something, though, she lets us know that she is married and she got into this country on a temporary visa, saying that her only goal was to find a husband so that she could stay. Thus, she’s married but “not, like, married married”. That’s certainly a case of receiving too much information. Oh, and she was quick to add that she doesn’t have kids. I look at some of the other older guys and we simultaneously raise our eyebrows.
That wasn’t the end of it. After class, some guy mentioned that he’s about to move. Then she came in and asked, “How much did you pay for your place? How big is it? How many rooms?”
This felt surreal. Of course, women are after financial security. However, they normally at least pretend that they are “not like all the other guys”, and tell you that they want a man with a good sense of humor. Yet, struggling stand-up comedians don’t make her wet. To get to that point, you need to be funny and have money, and if you have a lot of money, everything you say will make her giggle.
When a woman is really open about her intentions and leaves no doubts that she is only interested in your money, you at least know what you are getting into. The bigger problem is that plenty of guys think that the women they are chasing after are not like that, that they are different. This works until the claws come out and they get shredded in family court.
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