This post is related to my recent post Turning 30, 40, and 50 is tough for women, but not necessarily for men, on which one of my few female readers commented that men get fat as they age, and that both men and women age. Of course they do! What is not generally true is that people necessarily get a lot fatter as they get older. You can stay in shape with a bit of effort. As I pointed out in my response to that reader, a big difference between men and women in terms of aging is due to the quality of their skin. The skin of women is not as strong and thick as the skin of men. Maybe just go to a beach and check out the aging women! Almost all of them have cellulite, which is a condition that is unheard of in men.
As men and women build up fat reserves in their body, their appearance changes much differently. A fat man is forming a gut almost like a cannonball. It just grows and grows and protrudes as a solid round shape. You can see fat men with pretty muscular legs and arms. They almost look like buff guys with a fat gut strapped on. In the gay scene, those guys are called “bears” and in big demand, no pun intended. On the other hand, the fattening of aging women is not nearly as aesthetically pleasing and there is no noticeable sexual interest in them either. As their skin isn’t as firm as a man’s they are developing a pear- or blob-like shape. Add to that that they store a lot more fat in their thighs, and you get those really unattractive stereotypical Walmart shopper body types.
Even when dressed, a fat man can look pretty good. Just put him in a suit. He’ll basically just have his gut sticking out. Of course, this is not true if we’re talking about the truly morbidly obese here. With a fat woman, this doesn’t work at all. What is she going to wear that would make her look good? This applies to both more formal and casual clothing. A fat man in a suit looks fine. A fat woman in a dress suit? Nah, I don’t think so. A fat man in a T-shirt with a fair amount of muscle mass looks like a force to behold. A fat woman, on the other hand, has pudgy arms. She has more fat, less muscle mass, and skin that’s no longer firm.
I’d say it is pretty easy to see who is better off, relatively speaking. Being fat isn’t great, but as a fat man you clearly have the edge over a fat woman. (Besides, a fat rich woman doesn’t get laid. A fat man with a thick wallet does.)
We men win this one hands-down.
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