Some weeks ago, someone left a very insightful comment on how many Western women view marriage and children under my post Tucker Carlson vs Crazy Feminist. Let me quote it in full:
It just hit me. There is female predisposition for marriage/divorce in the exact same manner as pregnancy/children. Are you ready for it?
Women don’t want to BE married, they want to GET married so they can be the center of attention and get cash and prizes, and after all, all their friends are GETTING married. Afterwards, they really have no use for hubby.
Women don’t want to BE mothers, they want to GET pregnant for the feel good hormones, the attention, and the cash and prizes, and after all, all their friends are GETTING pregnant. Afterwards, they really have no use for the children.
Im going to go throw up now.
I agree with this view. What many (most?) Western women do not seem to understand is that the goal is not to get married. The goal is having a stable and fulfilling marriage. Saying “I will” (and not meaning it) is easy, being a good wife is a lot more difficult, and impossible for your typical spoiled Western brat of a woman. Likewise, the goal is not to get pregnant. Instead, it’s just the start of having and raising children. It’s about the long haul. Getting knocked up is nothing compared to the challenges of being a good mother. The former is really easy for women, the latter is impossible for most of them.
However, an attention-crazed woman may not view it the exact same way. They notice how all their pregnant friends are in the middle of attention. She may even feel left ignored. Here in the West, pregnant women may get months off work on top, which is an additional reason to feel oh-so special, disregarding the fact that in other cultures (Islam) women are used for little more than popping out one kid after another, which is a behavior the moronic Western political elite subsidizes with taxpayers’ money. It leads to cultural diversity, so it’s all good, though.
Again: what are nine months of pregnancy compared to the task of raising a child? Being a good parent is hard work. Further, if you are a shitty person, chances that you will be a good mother or father are nil. Successful parents raise successful kids. Smart parents have smart kids. What do dumb parents with a poor or non-existent work ethic produce? Another generation of welfare recipients.
With marriage, the initial motivation may well be similar: women go gaga consuming “marriage porn”. They salivate at the thought of some schmuck paying upwards of $50k just for her. Marriage is her day, and her day alone. If you are a narcissist, which many Western women are, then marriage is exactly what you want. Some women even stage “solo marriages”. Here is an article in the leftist rag The Guardian: It’s finally time to say ‘I don’t’ to the solo wedding craze. Even they think it’s a little bit too much.
This reminds me of an article I read some time ago, which I sadly didn’t manage to dig up again, on disappointed career women. It had an interview with a young lawyer who always wanted to work in law, but didn’t have any idea what she was getting into, and claimed she wasn’t even aware that she had to show up for work every day. It’s the same thing: acing an interview and getting the job is just the start. Then you’ll have to do a good job. If you get a job, you can post on Facebook and watch the “likes” of your friends come in. But post “Another day at work” day after day, and people just won’t care, for obvious reasons. But, hey, pursing long-term goals is so old-fashioned. After all, we’re not living in the 1950s anymore.