In the current Open Thread there is a discussion about women who get duped by players, yet fail to take any responsibility for it. AlekNovy wrote,
Apparently it doesn’t count as a mistake and it doesn’t say anything about her if she got played, because apparently there is just no way to know if a dude is a fukboi because apparently he acted like a sweet nice guy until the moment he nutted in her, and then flipped. My response is in terms of that “argument”. Falling for fukbois over and over is like constantly sending money to the Nigerian prince scam in your email.
This is completely correct. Of course, there is the question why some women engage in this kind of behavior at all. In the end, it simply boils down to a combination of poor impulse control, limitless arrogance, and wishful thinking. Guys normally look down on women you can fuck quickly. The sole exception may be guys who barely ever get laid. If they end up in bed with some slut, almost as if by complete chance, they refer to it as “getting lucky” and are mightily proud of it. In contrast, if you have banged a lot of women, then you do not really care about them at all. You do not look back fondly. It is more of an indifference. In fact, if you bang enough women, you will not even be able to remember them. They are just there and then they are gone, and that is it. After post-nut clarity has set in, you may even detest yourself for your actions. Here, I should perhaps point out that I am not referring to drunk hookups with some fattie but women you really wanted to bang. However, if you are not a complete moron, you will realize that she used you as much as you have used her. She wants your attention, and quite likely more than that, but you are simply only the next guy going through her highly questionable mate-selection process.
The main reason for women hooking up with random guys, and the conditio sine qua non, is poor impulse control. Even if they deliberately put themselves in a position where there are a lot of guys and she could get intimate with them, it is still the case that a more modest woman, if she were to end up in such a situation, would not take any steps towards having sex with a random dude. Women with poor impulse control, on the other hand, go out, drink, go wild on the dance floor, and “have fun”. All it takes is them getting horny and bumping into a guy who knows how to deal with such women, and she will end up with yet another dick in her. To illustrate this a bit more graphically, imagine some chick dances wildly on the dance floor. You approach her. She likes what she is seeing, gets wet, and the guy shoves two fingers up her pussy. This makes her very horny, so when he drags her off the dancefloor, she follows willingly. Minutes later, she is taking his dick in the bathroom stall, despite knowing absolutely nothing about the guy, not even his name. Obviously, guys who have not yet passed the 400-level course Ultra-Fast Pulls may take a bit longer, but the outcome is the same, regardless of whether it takes ten minutes or one to two hours: she just did what felt right to her at the moment, and getting dicked down also happened to feel like just the right move to her.
Limitless arrogance, which seems to be related to female solipsism, is another problem of those women. Even when they wrap their arms around a guy they know or are very certain of being a player, they delude themselves into thinking that she is not like all the other girls. You have to understand that all those other women were just walking cum-rags, but she, Random Slut #136, will provide a really unique experience to the guy who will therefore happily take on whatever role she desires, be it on-call “fuckboi” or boyfriend. She is special, unlike all the other women he has ever met in his entire life! A wonderful example is provided by Leonardo DiCaprio. He dumps all his girlfriends the latest the day they turn 25, yet he has absolutely no shortage of women lining up to soon get discarded. These are women who could get other rich, successful guys who may be interested in a long-term relationship, but this does not matter because they are convinced that they will get him to commit, unlike those supermodels he dated.
Lastly, there is the aspect of wishful thinking where women who have a history of getting pumped-and-dumped believe that the next guy will be different. These women have no idea of how to get a guy to commit but they are well-aware that providing easy access to their pussy gets them male attention. Thus, they think that they just have to fuck a guy quickly to immediately transform him into their boyfriend if they want, and even if this does not happen, she just keeps fucking random guys, because even if the last 63 guys had no interest beyond nutting in her, the next guy will be different. Granted, these women likely had the occasional guy stick around, which is why this strategy seems plausible for them. They only have to figure out how to make it more consistent. This is similar to gambling addicts who just can’t stop losing money, hoping for the next win that will make up for all their losses, and then some.
AlekNovy also made the relevant comment that guys lose interest basically the moment they are done. This is not an exaggeration. I think it also important to add that guys not necessarily pretend that they are really interested in a woman. Oftentimes, the women simply project their own desire onto them. You can be really aloof, bang a chick, then head out, and she will be puzzled why you are such an ass. Heck, you can even tell her that you only want to fuck her, and they will giggle, perhaps playfully slap your chest, and tell you that you are really naughty. Say to her that you are going to fuck her and then leave right away, like a total psychopath (don’t say this part out loud!), and chances that this will jeopardize your pickup are extremely low. In fact, quite often this is an added turn-on for them. It is as if they live in a complete fantasy world.
Let me conclude this article with a fitting anecdote. After I was done with some random chick at a random club, she got all chipper, telling me how much fun this was. Then she said that I can now buy her a drink. This sounded like a joke, but she was serious. She really thought I would now head to the bar and drink cocktails with her, all on my dime. However, why would I have done this? I had gotten what I wanted, knew absolutely nothing about this woman, and was in no mood to chat with her. Besides, I do not think there are a lot of guys out there who would be in the mood for a lengthy conversation after they have had sex with a random chick. I simply left the place as I was more interested in going to bed.