A while ago a video made the rounds in which a guy goes around, insulting a bunch of scantily dressed women and, upon receiving a less than favorable response, pepper sprays them, supposedly in self-defense. On an aside, I came across the video first with the attached claim that this incel goes around harassing prostitutes. Only later on did I realize that those are simply regular women after a night out. This “based incel warrior” reminded me of some of the people I met in the PUA community.
As you see in the video above, this guy is completely oblivious to the fact that he is acting like a complete social retard. He accosts a bunch of random women for no good reasons, and he keeps going. I do not think that this guy behaves like this all the time. Instead, it is more likely that he puts on a strange persona that does not give a fuck, and he just pursues some bizarre goal.
The reason why I think this guy simply put on a different persona is that I bumped into such people back in the PUA days. This was when there were “lairs” where random guys met up and went out together. As you can imagine, those were not always the most stable personalities. Some hyped themselves up that they would now solve their issues with women and approach no matter what. Some set themselves goals of approaching at least a certain number of women, and this meant approaching them indiscriminately, one after another. A small minority thought that they would progress faster by doing “challenge sets” where they hit on women who were with a boyfriend, or even on women who were out on a double date, i.e. two guys and two girls. I probably do not have to spell out that all of this is quite ludicrous.
Back then, I found it quite baffling how those people can talk themselves into acting like total social retards. Later on, I encountered the concept “fake it ’til you make it”, and this was probably the underlying idea. They wanted to be a different person but as they lacked reference experiences, they made some baseless assumptions about how a tough guy is supposed to act, and entered one weird social interaction after another. Yet, the negative feedback only seemed to encourage them to keep going. Abstractly speaking, they had a hypothesis that was impossible to falsify, i.e. if a woman, for whatever reason, reacted positively, their approach worked but if their approach did not work then this meant that they had to try harder.
Probably, the root cause of this problem is that those guys grew up both without male role models and in an utterly broken society. Perhaps, they are so isolated that they cannot even observe people act normally. Surely, the atomization of society, with the current stage of people living in a romantic union with their smart phones, does not help either. In all honesty, though, can we really blame men who end up acting like social retards? After all, such behavior is simply a symptom of a sick society. We could try to fix the root cause, but this is not aligned with the goals of the social engineers shaping society.