Recently, blog reader Dude posted a link to a video in which a follower of PUA doctrine reveals that he was put into a psychiatric ward after a cold approach. Here is the video:
I assume that the information presented is true. Also, I do not want to make fun of this guy, even though you might chuckle a bit when he awkwardly retells his story. Yet, there is a much more serious issue at play here. If you are unattractive or at best moderately attractive, in addition to having mental problems like this young gentleman above, your attempts at interacting with the fair sex are not going to be appreciated very much. The guy above comes across as pretty weird. If this is acting, it could not be any more convincing. Quite frankly, you feel sad for this guy when you listen to this video. He cannot organize his thoughts clearly, and seems to not understand that, for instance, burping on camera is not a good look. He just rambles for a few minutes, does not go into any great depths, and cuts off the video. Such guys really exist, and society does not react well to them.
A fundamental problem of cold approaching women is, of course, that it is pretty bizarre. When women are interested in you, they will make it either clear to you by giving off obvious signals, like smiling at you or flicking their hair, or they do something supposedly ambiguous like hovering around you and avoiding eye contact. In such situations, you can certainly talk to them. This does not mean that you will get laid because plenty of women love getting attention from a man they find attractive, even if they themselves are not sexually available. Of course, there are also cheating whores out there.
In contrast, you cold approach a woman, you start the interaction off on the wrong foot. You are facing an uphill battle because if she has not given you any kind of indication that she is potentially interested in you then the chances are quite high that she really is not. This is why some guys report approaching 1,000 women just to get one date. Of course, men who are that maladapted to society most likely do not even notice when a woman might be into them, so their anti-game leads to them wrecking plenty of perfectly good opportunities.
I furthermore argue that if some PUA cold approaches a woman and it leads to the police being called then they need to learn a lot about basic human behavior. For instance, if a woman has a look of disgust on her face when some weirdo PUA approaches her, the only plausible action that guy could take is to bail, instead of, for instance, following her and “spitting game”. In London I once witnessed a PUA who approached a woman on the street. She quickly looked away and ignored him. He then kept following her, talking louder and louder, and sped up as she increased her pace. Picturing this scene, you can probably understand if such behavior is considered harassment. Clearly, this woman did not “play hard to get” but instead wanted to get away as she felt uncomfortable. I can even understand that some women experience a genuine feeling of panic when some unattractive guy literally chases her down the street.
I do not know the details that led to the PUA above spending some time in a psychiatric ward, following an unsuccessful cold approach, but I would be very surprised if his behavior was not far, far outside the norm of the socially acceptable. There is also a non-zero chance that he was not the first PUA who ended up for observation in a psychiatric ward.