I think it’s safe to assume that most guys would not make empty promises to a woman to get her into bed and, most importantly, not try to pump-and-dump a woman who is only interested in having a serious relationship. After all, those women make you jump through a lot of hoops and if you’re not willing to consider commitment, you’ll bail because it just does not make a lot of sense to invest a lot of time and money into a woman you are not really interested in. Yet, you will want to get your sexual needs met somehow, which means that you still need women for casual sex.
The other day it struck me that there is an excellent comparison between women for casual sex and today’s smartphone games. Many smartphone games come in two varieties: a supposedly free one that does not cost any money but which offers a sup-par experience. You get ads shoved in your face and there are other hurdles to make sure you have a bad experience, like disabling certain features or limiting how often you can do certain things within an arbitrary time frame. Gee, this sounds awfully familiar already! In contrast, the premium version of the same game provides a different value proposition: you put down a chunk of money and in contrast, all the “nag screens” (yes, that’s really the term used in this industry) and limitations go away. Some games ask you for a one-time fee, but the current standard seems to be that you pay a chunk of money in exchange for an improved user experience for a certain amount of time, be it a few days or a week.
When it comes to casual sex with women, you likewise have a “freemium” and a “pro” version. The former is supposedly free, at least they don’t charge you for sex directly. Yet, they normally make you jump through a lot of hoops. In addition, the value proposition isn’t clear. Sure, those women dangle the option of sex in front of you, but you don’t always know what you need to do to get it because her rules may change at any moment. A supposedly easy girl who was playing with your cock in the club already may turn into a prude the moment she sees your fancy car because her eyes turn into dollar signs and she thinks that she can milk you for some serious cash. In any case, choosing the freemium version of women for casual sex means that you will spend a sometimes significant amount of time to get sex. With smartphone games, this is often by design: the user experience of the freemium version is shockingly bad, in order to encourage you to buy the pro version: Wait 12 hours to play another round of a time-wasting game or spend $9.99 to play as much as you want for one week. I’m not quite sure what the gameplan of those women is. Maybe they think that their arbitrary bullshit will increase the likelihood that you stick around to become her boyfriend. That’s the only plausible explanation I can think of.
In contrast, with the pro version, you know the price upfront. There is no bullshit because you know what you get. Sure, you may need to negotiate her services and some pros may try to scam you, but I’d say the value proposition is clear. With a pro, you pay for X and you get X. In contrast, with the freemium version, you may want X, but you do not know how much time and money it will cost you to get it and she can change her mind at any point. She may even decide to file a false rape accusation because she learned that you make $250k a year as a Software Engineer working at Google, improving online censorship algorithms, but have no interest in dating her. Given how poorly some women behave, you wonder why there aren’t more men who bang prostitutes instead. Well, you can bet that feminist lawmakers are well-aware of this problem, which is why prostitution is outlawed in some countries.
Even for guys who are very successful with women, the problem that the value proposition of regular women is unclear does not go away. The whoremongers I know make a lot more money than the average guy. They are not some ugly hermits either. Every single one of them could get laid the regular way as well, even though it would take some more effort than others. They are normally also very aware of it. Sometimes, this plays out quite wonderfully. A friend of mine told me an anecdote of a chick he met online who played hard to get. She didn’t seem to want to commit to a dinner date and he saw right through her bullshit. As he was tired of her playing games, he banged a prostitute instead. Funnily enough, the other chick sent him several messages while he was busy fucking. Then he just deleted that Tinder match. I think he should have told her that he banged a pro, but he was just fed up with her and couldn’t even be bothered to take a rise out of her.
Successful men look at the value of their time, know what they want, and pay for it. Quite frankly, when I was busy picking up women, one of the reasons I did not consider fucking pros was that I was too stingy to do so. Ironically, had I done that and just paid for it, I would probably have ended my whoring phase sooner which would have been much cheaper in the long run. Well, I still had fun and I don’t really regret it. Purely in financial terms, though, it wasn’t a good decision. As you can see, not paying for something can be much more expensive in the long run.
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