Alek Novy made a succinct comment on the ideal mating strategy for women. It is a warning for every professionally successful man who suddenly finds himself chased by women who previously would not have given him the time of day. He writes:
The ideal mating strategy for a woman isn’t to get an already successful guy. The ideal strategy for a woman is to get a guy who has the potential for success and catch him early.
Women who are able to recognize potential in a man get better outcomes than those who try to get men who have already achieved their potential. In that sense, an intelligent guy who hasn’t turned that intelligence into real-world success can be a great catch. He’s a discounted item that she can get at a discount and end up with a higher-level mate than otherwise.
Most women don’t do this though. Why? Because society (and biology) promotes instant-gratification among other things. You have 60 girls fighting over the guy who made it, while there’s no competition for the guy who’s about to make it. Women who manage to catch the latter while he’s still not experienced with women tend to “profit big” in the mating game.
I think Aaron has talked about guys like these in the past. They’ve been in a relationship with the same woman from before they made it in life, and don’t realize that they could have much much better than her. And such a woman will make sure the guy doesn’t know. Examples include things like high-earning engineers who never had a single girlfriend before their first girlfriend, and don’t realize they’re much more of a catch now, than they were before they got with her. She got them “at a discount”.
That’s why you’ll notice (at least I have)… a lot of experienced conniving women hunting for techy guys. Like she’ll bang dozens of chads, and then at then at least year of university throw herself at some dude with good grades/future in IT.
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