I would guess that most of my readers are in their 20s and 30s. However, there are outliers on both ends. The oldest guy who ever contacted me was in his 60s. We also get the occasional teenager showing up. This year I also had a few clients in their early twenties who told me that they have been reading my blog for years. One guy told me that he’s been an avid reader of my material for six years. He had not even turned 20 yet.
I don’t necessarily think that my material appeals to men of essentially all ages. Instead, I think this wide spread in age among my readers is due to the Internet being a relatively recent phenomenon. It’s only for about ten years that people have been online every day, everywhere, thanks to the smartphone revolution. Before that, you had to be relatively tech-savvy but also inquisitive. Yet, even if you were a very curious person, you just could not find everything online. Plenty of material was only accessible on online forums or, earlier, in newsgroups, which were not straightforward to access. People didn’t just post memes all day long either because this wasn’t easily possible with standard tools.
Nowadays, online forums and newsgroups are dead. Social media has won. While this has lead, in my opinion, to a decline of quality exchanges online, it has made some material a lot more accessible. Today, a forum like Reddit’s r/MGTOW is just a few swipes on your smartphone away. Guys post memes and videos, and the message spreads. Of course, the message that women are not angels could have spread a lot sooner, but a cultural shift has also taken place, with third-wave feminism becoming completely unhinged. It is a battlefield out there and countless men have been destroyed: financially ruined in family court, driven out of their profession, or turned into a pariah by society.
Even just a decade ago, if you thought that women weren’t as fantastic as they were cracked up to be and that they can have a very negative effect on your life, you wouldn’t quite know where to turn to. Very rarely would men discuss this issue privately. Just get yourself a bipolar girlfriend and try talking about it with a supposed friend of yours. Chances are that he will question your manhood if you hint at her being “difficult.” If you have been suffering under a crazy mother or sister, a lying grandmother, or an aunt who wanted to cheat you out of money, you may think that maybe you were just unlucky. After all, people go to great lengths to put on a facade, so your buddy’s mother may be as batshit crazy as your mother, but whenever you are over for a visit, she’s the most pleasant middle-aged woman you could imagine.
The benefit of anonymous online communication is that we do not have to care about what others think of us. Instead, we can freely speak our mind and compare notes. Within a few short years we have now reached a critical mass and men can now gather online and share their stories. The next generation, however, does not have to make the same mistakes. They can learn from the mistakes of their elders.
Only for the last few years has it been easily possible to find like-minded people online. None of this was possible even ten or fifteen years ago. This applies to every guy, to the 15-year-old who gets treated poorly by his first girlfriend to the 65-year-old who just got divorced by his wife of 40 years. Because all those age groups have gained access to online communication at the same time we now have this great diversity of ages.
There has been a big societal shift regarding the perceived necessity of having to be in a relationship as well. When I was in my 20s, men were routinely shamed for not having a girlfriend. Today that hardly works anymore. Men who do not want to commit to a woman do so proudly. Teenage boys, however, will not have to learn as slowly as the older generation. If they get to the point that dealing with women can be rather frustrating, they will easily find non-mainstream explanations online for why this is the case. They are getting red-pilled at a rapid pace.
The societal consequences will be far-reaching. Apps like Tinder turbocharged hookup culture. Yet, now your 19-year-old guy who does not belong to the top 20% of men does not need to spend a decade getting financially exploited by women before some single mom emotionally blackmails him into marrying her. It is a boon that women celebrate their sexual liberation so openly. They even claim they are proud to be sluts. Tattoos, drugs, and alcohol are musts and, so they think, no longer negative in any way. Yet, the observant guy in the bottom 80%, as well as the good-looking guys who can think a bit critically, can no longer deny reality as it hits them in the face, hard, day after day.
What I think will happen is that the number of men who drop out of dating will accelerate. Guys who would otherwise have been happy to invite women to expensive restaurants or be their little errand boy instead follow their own goals. It will be an acceleration because the cat is out of the bag. You can no longer tell guys that his girlfriend is an angel and that he needs to take care of her. Instead, he will want to know about her sexual history, STDs, student loans and other debts, as well as mental health issues.
Imagine you knew about the problems women can add to your life before you started dating. You would just not be very enthusiastic about it. In contrast, ten years ago guys happily threw away years of their life trying to make things work with their girlfriend. Ten years ago, Joe Cuck would think that his single-mom girlfriend is a bit emotional and needs more time to open up to him and trust him. Today, Joe Cuck can read about “Cluster B” personality disorders online and read horror stories of guys who got falsely accused of rape or domestic violence by such “emotional” women after ending the relationship.
The increasing numbers of women who enter their 30s without a boyfriend, wondering where all the good men are, already show that too many men are opting out. If this wasn’t an issue, we would not hear about such stories at all. Instead, “where are all the good men” has become a meme. Women have it a lot harder than they used to have it. Once today’s teenage boys and young men are in their 30s, those women will have it even harder.
Men of all ages are getting red-pilled at the same time. Given that the Internet has now reached wide penetration in society, I think the women-are-wonderful effect has only about ten years left or so. All it takes is for the remaining boomers to die off because those are the last generation who is both active online in noticeable numbers and still feels largely compelled to keep up the societal narrative. I could imagine a return to a time where women keep their legs together, based on the fact that women of all ages also use the Internet and are aware that good men are becoming rare. The born-again virgin phenomenon as well as the plethora of “trad thots” around further support this hypothesis.
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