I used to not pursue women until I was in my late 20s, which was by choice. I simply viewed them as an unpleasant distraction as well as a time and money sink. Instead, I was much happier going my own way and pursuing other interests. In the long run, this all worked out splendidly for me. When I finally decided to go after women, I did not have the impression that I had been missing out on much. Besides, had I pursued women in my late teens or early 20s, I would most likely not have done nearly as well with them, the main reason being that I didn’t have my own place. Also, I grew up in an exceedingly conservative area, so in the worst case, I would have gotten tied down to some average woman early in life. Thankfully, I did not step through those gates of hell.
Living in London and Berlin later, I suddenly had access to an enormous pool of women, and one that was far superior to any I had seen before, not just quantitatively. That I was a few years older did not seem to matter to the many women in their teens and early 20s I hooked up with. My experience is in no way unique. It boils down to there always being a new batch of 18-year-olds. Thus, you get older, but your attractiveness to the opposite sex does not dwindle all that quickly, meaning that you will have a fairly long time window to pursue them.
This reality hit me again when I went to an open-air music event with a friend of mine in Berlin last week. There were a few women there who reminded me a lot of women I’ve been with, due to physical features, mannerisms, or sense of fashion. I got older, yet there were younger version of women I knew all around me. Two had an almost uncanny resemblance. Funnily enough, I also bumped into a woman I knew back in the days. Now she’s in her mid-30s and a mere shadow of her former self. I could not even bring myself to say hi to her.
If you are fretting about all the women you missed out hooking up with, don’t despair! There are still out there. You’ll just get the latest version, then. You’ll get women of a similar caliber, i.e. your ‘league’, for a very long time. That is beautifully illustrated by a friend of mine who is nearing 40, but in very good shape, physically and professionally. He does not want to settle down yet, and he has high standards. Without any
All of this may sound a bit abstract to you, so let me conclude with a comparison. Let’s say you like mainstream video games, i.e. sports games, first-person shooters, and open-world
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Whenever I look at my two younger brothers and guys that I grew up with who all settled down straight out of highschool, I thank the heavens that I was too awkward to get laid until around my mid twenties.
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I am 23 and this post resonates with me.
I know I am not supposed to settle but almost did with a relationship lasting 2 years with a depressed girl. Now 1 year later after breaking up with her my career has been growing, physically I am in much better shape and mentally/emotionally I am in a much better place. I notice a lot of peers turn to drinking, going out frequently and attempting to get laid as the first thing after break-ups rather than focusing on building a foundation for their life and then reaping the fruits.
Since getting my shit together in first half-year post break up, I fucked 5 new girls over the next half-year (up until recently) and was casually seeing some of them and I realise that most girls are uninteresting, have no ambition and are a huge time sink that could be better spent on career and achieving my goals. Especially the 20-22 year old “I am a feminist and I am oppressed” Scandinavian stereotype is horrible company to keeå.
I know for a fact that I have a nice career track, that I will only become more physically attractive over the next years and I have not even hit my peak yet.
So why bother settling down with anyone when my options will be 10x better in the future?
since you are 23 the post isnt for you lol.
Love the content you put.
I feel like this article is written about me . I am sure my best years are still ahead of me. I am 27 and never had any serious relationship. But with comparison to some men and most women my age I am going better and better 😉
This blog entry in 14 seconds 🙂
i am 29 and still too awkward to get laid lol,
i just cant bring myself to spend energy on this especially since my lms is low. i have very low stress
chicks are incredibly annoying to deal with.
“low stress threshold ” and gym is increasing my stress so i probably will remain incel for life. lmao
I’m 28 and feel the same as you do.
I never actually really TRIED to get women despite my SMV being quite low ( I’m 5’4, pretty good looking altough feminine face) and submissive personnality.
I still see some signs of interests from women at work but I do not really act on them. I have a hard time socializing PERIOD whether it be with men or women.
Maybe I have aspergers or just naturally shy and introverted.
I feel like I am very repressed emotionally.
But as you are I have literally zero stress.
The best thing I ever did in my life was “Do Nothing” meditation. I went from neurotic wreck to stone cold monk. I’m also on a NOFAP streak of 3 months and hoping it will motivate me to get out more. All it had done so far is making me QUITE the horn dog.
I’ve read Sleazy’s books and seen how he basically just go for women in clubs. I am touchy with older women, no problem hugging them and shit because I look endearing to them but I don’t think I could simply go and hug hot women.
Lately I’m wondering whether I should get my first girlfriend( women that don’t interest me have shown interest) or just go bang hookers.
As I said before I am very short and submissive/needy so the SMV is very low.
Anyways I feel like if I don’t do something NOW I will never do it. Like am I an incel or just a late bloomer? I never actually tried or cared with women but now I feel like I need to do so.
Just build your life. Get wealthy and strong and fucking powerful. And keep doing that meditation. Read and learn and open yourself to the world. Create something. Empower others. Try new shit.
Then when you are 35-40 you will have no issues attracting them because you will have become such a compelling character. Or you can go to Bangkok once a year and blow off some steam.
Look into shadow work.
It seems there is a lot going on that you are not aware of.
Great post and I agree. Even though my background is a little bit different, as I was desperate to get late on my early 20’s and though that I have missed the most important experiences in life when I didn’t get laid in my late teen’s and spent these years playing World of Warcraft.
When I actually started to get success with women and started to get laid regularly, I realized that’s pussy is way too overrated. It took though some amount of experience with women to get this enlightenment and not putting pussy on pedestal anymore (ironically this mindset grants more success with women).
For guys who think they have missed something important by not getting laid at the young age and can’t get over it, just go pickup women and get laid until you realize that it’s not a big deal. It will recover that anxiety feeling of “missing the party”.
Thanks for this article!
Best Regards,
Brad