I just returned from a weekend trip to Berlin, staying with a good friend of mine. As he’s been having an active social life for decades, we bumped into friends, acquaintances, and women he’s fucked everywhere we went. What then struck me that some of those women don’t seem to have developed much at all. They have visible wrinkles under their eyes which not even makeup can cover up properly anymore. Yet, in their early 30s, they live like they did in their mid-20s, which was not too dissimilar from their lifestyle in their late teens. A surprising number of them still share an apartment with a bunch of strangers in run-down buildings and eke out a living with menial part-time jobs.
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One of the women my buddy bumped into asked him if he’d like to hang out with her and a bunch of friends. They were not quite sure what to do and only had made vague plans, but if he was free, he’d be welcome to join. They’d find something to do to while their time away. Thus, she’d just repeat whatever she did more or less every weekend for decades. That may be her plateau.
Later that day, I asked my friend if he sensed the same underlying sadness when he sees older women behave this way, to which he remarked that while my perspective is valid, it is not as if those older, unattached women have any other choice. He rightly pointed out that if they did pursue a steady career with standard working hours, their chances of meeting someone would be even lower due to the time commitment of the 40+ hour working week plus commuting. Similarly, if they did not maintain a large circle of friends, they would meet fewer people. Further, he soberly diagnosed that while he does not quite agree with my opinion that women should start having kids in their early 20s, the social reality in Berlin, and much of the Western world, is that there is nary a woman who would even consider having kids before the age of 30s; the underclass, of course,
As we then further discussed, the alienating happy-go-lucky attitude those worn out women display is little more than a facade. He knows far too many of them who desperately try to find a partner. What he has observed is that the insight that their fertility window is closing hits many of them like a brick in their mid-30s and they then frantically meet guys or even try to get pregnant on one-night stands. I am no longer friends with any women, so I have not observed this change as such a sudden phenomenon, even though I am well aware of the behaviors it leads to. In any case, if they do get pregnant and don’t have a partner lined up, Daddy Government is happy to step in. For these women, getting knocked up by Chad is thus a win-win. He most likely does not stick around anyway, but regardless of what he does, a baby will bring in money for those women.
The same kind of underlying panic I just addressed also happens in Asian culture, the main difference being that it starts a good ten years sooner. I recently read an interview with Naomi Wu, who has the biggest silicon implants in all of China (how about you finally leak a sex tape, Naomi?). In it, she states that she’s 24, yet does not have children, which she finds disconcerting. You may know that single women from the age of 27 are labeled as “leftover women” in China and perceived as too old and unattractive to find a partner. Otherwise, they would have paired up. If you consider that Asian women, who tend to age much more gracefully than Western ones, tend to panic in their 20s if they are unattached then it is almost comical that the latter party it up in their late 20s and early 30s, firmly believing that finding a partner and having children can wait.
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