My previous post on women who “forget” taking the pill was a specific example of a more general phenomenon, which some of you may be familiar with: women who want to suck you dry, but not in the good way.
Here is an example that is representative for the pattern. There was a girl I occasionally hung out with in Berlin, but on a platonic level. She was one of those girls who claimed to not fuck outside of relationships, so she would only become available once she had decided to dump her boyfriend. However, this only happened when the next guy was lined up already. In my case, the problem (?) was twofold. I was not interested in a relationship. Even worse was that my sexual interest in her had disappeared because I had known her for quite a while.
She was fairly outgoing, but not exactly slutty. At one point she realized that she was about to graduate, and then I noticed a rather peculiar change. Suddenly, she wanted to look “proper”. She wasn’t particularly amused when I asked her whether she was alright, as I was used to seeing her with her hair open, and wearing tight tops. I bumped into her again a few months later. The first thing she told me was that she was now “dating an engineer”. She had just graduated with some bullshit humanities degree. This seemed like convenient timing for her. I recalled her fawning over bad boys, but now the first thing she mentions about the guys she is seeing is that he is actually employable.
That wasn’t all, though. She was about to move in with him, despite only having known each other for a few weeks. I couldn’t help myself and cynically congratulated her for finally finding a way to make a living, which caused her to hit my biceps (hit like a girl), then apologizing and rubbing my arm. While that was going on, she said that she had met him “before he had any money”, i.e. before graduation, or before he received his first salary. This was an excellent example of chick logic, because it is quite obvious that it was just a matter of time before he would be able to draw a nice paycheck month after month.
But where am I going with this? Well, it’s quite simple. Even though I wouldn’t necessarily say that every woman who picks a guy because of his financial status does not care for him, it is certainly the case that women can be very calculating. This may mean picking a guy who makes a decent living because this would put them on easy street. They are probably not repulsed by those guys, but the main reason they chose their providers was presumably not “love”. In particular, when a woman boast about the status of her boyfriend or husband, I have my doubts about that.
Gold-digging, particularly when it is being done somewhat under the radar, constitutes fully acceptable behavior for women. If you are financially stable, in relation to her, you are a potential mark. Is there any outrage about that? Of course not. Yet, guys who pump and dump women, or who state that once a woman turns 35 she has to “check out”, are supposed to be despicable.