As an addendum to my article Destructive Relationship I am going to discuss the problem of young men and their susceptibility for outside influence, with a particular focus on women. In the aforementioned article I describe how women can ruin a guy’s life. Now, let us look at why this happens. The problems of young… Continue reading Young Men are Easy Targets for Destructive Women
A question I have been asked quite a few times over the years is how to leverage financial success into getting girls. This question often came from geeks how suddenly found themselves making a fair bit of money, for instance as software engineers, as well as guys who became rich, sometimes accidentally, for instance due… Continue reading How to Use Money to Get Girls
I have spent countless hours in clubs and bars. Yet, I am basically a teetotaler. I may have drunk between one and two liters of red wine in all my life, two or three bottles of beer, and I may have taken a puff of a joint once, but my memory is a bit hazy… Continue reading Clubs, Drugs, and Alcohol
I was asked to write about my views on assortative mating, and also expand on the following aspects: Furthermore, does genetics and/or upbringing influences the choices we make in assortative mating with regards to future and/or current mate suitors, and the type of mating strategy we choose to pursue (short-term or long-term)? Is there such… Continue reading Notes on Assortative Mating
We had a discussion about Andrew Huberman on the Open Thread #348, in which we also explored this guy’s SMV. I elaborated on my view in that thread already, but I there is an interesting aspect related to age and financial success, which is why I decided to expand on my views a bit. For… Continue reading Andrew Huberman’s SMV
Sometimes, guys ask me for advice on how to pick a girlfriend. No, not in the abstract but when they have a chick at hand and want to get some objective feedback from a third party. These are either guys who have been reasonably successful with women but also guys who just so happened to… Continue reading Once a Bitch, Always a Bitch
I do not think that anybody seriously questions that your level of success with women is primarily a question of looks, status, and money. This is the well-known LMS formula. Obviously, for a one-night stand, money and, perhaps, status are not the primary factors. If you are a broke Chad with very few future prospects,… Continue reading Picking Up Women and the Question of Social Rank
The other day I went to a somewhat exclusive recruiting event. It was almost eerie because almost all of the 15 guys in attendance where white. This does not happen by accident in tech. Instead, it takes effort and determination. The event took place at a five-star hotel and the company hosting us even booked… Continue reading Cougars and Gold-Diggers at the Luxury Hotel
One of the obsessions of the former pickup community was to develop a “game plan” that would work for any woman, regardless of age, personality, social class, or personal circumstances. Partly, this was motivated due to marketing as it is a lot simpler to attempt to sell yet another DVD course that promises to hold… Continue reading Dealing with Fast and Slow Life-History Strategies
In the current Open Thread there is a discussion about women who get duped by players, yet fail to take any responsibility for it. AlekNovy wrote, Apparently it doesn’t count as a mistake and it doesn’t say anything about her if she got played, because apparently there is just no way to know if a… Continue reading Women Who Fall For Players
Alek Novy left an interesting comment on female behavior some of you probably have observed as well. He uses the term “hallucinated rejection”, which is quite fitting. One of the things that irks me most about women is “hallucinated rejection”. I don’t know if there is a name for it, so that’s what I came… Continue reading Guest Post: Hallucinated Rejections (by Alek Novy)
In my article on the movie Cruel Intentions I mentioned that there is the temptation of the sons of well-off but not rich families to not develop any real ambition in life. Instead, they try to coast through life. This works well for a few years, but, as I pointed out, anyone not enjoying inter-generational… Continue reading The Dangers of Chads Living the Stacy Lifestyle
Pickernanny just posted a detailed and highly accurate post on the correlation between porn-like sex and dealing with a cluster B-type woman, which I have decided to repost as an article to give it greater visibility. In light of Cheeky_James recent arrival and skimming through the conversations, and reflecting on some of my past encounters… Continue reading Guest Post: Reflecting on Cluster B-Type Women (By Pickernanny)
It is not at all uncontroversial to say that women tend to be big spenders. Despite their virtue signaling regarding supposedly man-made climate warming, they collectively prop up the fashion industry, which wrecks the planet like almost no other industry. They are also big on spending money on cosmetics, trinkets, and all kinds of bullshit… Continue reading Wasting Money is Female Status Signaling
I already mentioned that I hardly noticed any attractive women on my last trip. As I was staying in a typical hotel for business travelers, and could only depart on Friday, I also got the chance to make yet another observation, due to tourists flocking in on Thursday evening. Instead of mostly lone business travelers… Continue reading When the Mother is Slimmer than the Daughter
A lot of Chads, when ramming their rock-hard schlong into the tight pussy of a real-life slut with the proportions of a hentai chick have been told that they can cum inside them. “Cum in me!”, the woman lying under them begs. She may even proactively try to pull the condom off. If you cannot… Continue reading The “I Can’t Get Pregnant” Lie
The other day I published a long article about my pickup history and how my interactions with women changed from my 20s to 30s. In my case, it is also important to add that I am older than I look. Even in my mid-30s, women thought I was in my 20s. Of course, time will… Continue reading Picking Up Women as a Somewhat Older Guy
The topic of this post, which is based on a comment left by Maou, had been on my backlog for over a year, but a few days ago I received an email by someone else, asking about it and if I would be interested in responding to that comment as part of an article request.… Continue reading Reflections on a Possibly Wasted Decade Spent on Picking up Women
A topic that has come up occasionally, both on my blog and also in some of my consultations sessions is the connection between sexual experience and success in picking up women. Sexual experience as well as maturity do help you. However, we should not delude ourselves and think that we men will age like fine… Continue reading How I picked up Women in my late 20s versus my mid 30s (with a Summary of my Adult Life)
I occasionally have clients who need to take meds at fixed times. As you can imagine, this is potentially disruptive as you need to plan your life around that. Diabetics who need to inject themselves with insulin tend to have bigger issues than people that only need to swallow some pills every day or a… Continue reading Pickup and Having to Take Meds
Most of the women I encounter in my professional life are far from attractive, and not because they are past their college days. Instead, the issue is that I have been working fully remotely for a while so I don’t even get to see the ditzy and generally more attractive “office hostesses” and receptionists who… Continue reading The Rollercoaster of Neurotic Women
I recently had a conversation with a client about club game and whether I still think that, post-Covid, Berlin would be the best place for it. I think that this is still the case, primarily because you can party for days on end. Some clubs open their doors on Thursday at midnight and close on… Continue reading With Anti-Game, Even the Easiest Girls are Hard to Get
We have talked repeatedly about the idea that your level of success with women is primarily determined by your looks, with money and status also having an impact. Of course, this is a bit of an oversimplification as there is another big L, namely location. You will do a lot better if you live in… Continue reading The Relative Importance of Looks, Money, and Status, and a Strangely Fitting Analogy
I remember that even years ago we had discussions on my forum about the accelerating decline of clubs. There were many more clubs closing than opening. Largely, this development was driven by online dating. Before the mass adoption of smart phones and the subsequent rise of dating apps, women needed to dress up and go… Continue reading Do Clubs Have a Future?
If you’ve been with your fair share of women, you have probably encountered the phenomenon that some girls put on quite an act before you get to bone them. They pretend that they are good girls and need to be extensively wined and dined. They are pretend to be prudes so you may get a… Continue reading Fake Shy Girls
n one of the recent Open Threads, GoodLookingAndSleazy left a comment that questioned the validity of game: Former porn star Jenna Jameson told Howard Stern how she made out with Bruce Willis at an LA club one night. He just came up to her, grabbed her and kissed her. Then he took off. She loved… Continue reading The “Who are you?” Effect
Martin left a great comment on the fate of a friend of his. Surely, many of you have heard variations of it or know of men in your wider social circle who went through something similar. However, as too many men have had their life ruined at the hand’s of scheming women, you can’t share… Continue reading Open Post: The Female Long Game
A common phenomenon is that when guys want to rack up lays and manage to do so, they go through a phase in which their standards may be a bit lower. This does not necessarily apply to a woman’s physical appearance, however. Instead, you could notice several red flags and still want to bang her.… Continue reading You Can’t Afford to Uncritically Pursue Women
Recently, one of my clients asked me what the one thing is that he work on to get better at pulling women. For context, this guy is maxed out: great job, swanky apartment in a great location, in excellent physical shape, and he still has plenty of good years left. He does get laid a… Continue reading Once You’ve Maxed Out Your Foundations, Time is Your Limiting Factor
One of the most evergreen topics when discussing seduction is the question of how you can know that she is into you. As we all know, unlike in Hollywood movies, women rarely make the first move, or at least nothing any guy would easily interpret as such. It is even rarer that she would bluntly… Continue reading You Need to Make a Move
Sometimes, guys pursue a woman not because they are sexually interested in her, but for various other reasons. A big one is validation. If you haven’t gotten laid in months, then the attention as well as the prospect of having sex with a woman you don’t find particularly attractive may be preferable to consuming online… Continue reading Quickly Decide if You Want to Have Sex With Her
(No, I’m not talking about killing her. Guys, seriously!) One of my clients recently shared a very interesting story from his dating life with me. In short, he showed up on a date. The woman’s behavior could be described as disinterested to hostile, and after a while, he got up, wished her a good day,… Continue reading The Power of Ending a Bad Date
A few concepts old-school PUAs introduced are valid, such as “one-itis”, i.e. obsessing about a particular girl. In this particular scene, though, this meant PUAs obsessing about more or less any girl who gave them any kind of attention at all. You had guys report about “catching one-itis” basically every time they went out. In… Continue reading Getting Prematurely Attached to That One Girl
We have talked about the 80/20 split in male attractiveness on online dating platforms according to which women deem only 20% of men to be attractive, and 80% as unattractive. In contrast, when men rate women, the result is a bell curve with most women rated as around average, with outliers on both ends of… Continue reading If One Girl Has Had Sex With You, Many More Will
A recent discussion in The Open Thread #54 centered around the question of how to deal with rejection. Basically every guy who has ever approached a woman knows that getting turned down can really sting. In the worst case, a high number of rejections may even demotivate guys from approaching women altogether in the future.… Continue reading Dealing With Rejection Effectively
When browsing the black pill wiki incels.wiki, I came across an entry for the term “chadstruck“, which is their version of the term “lovestruck”. Of course, this is not a perfect equivalence as intense physical attraction has little to do with love and much more with lust. Yet, it may very well be the only… Continue reading Chadstruck: The Paramount Importance of Physical Attraction in Dating
Today I witnessed an interaction between a young man and a woman that perfectly illustrates anti-game. I was at the library to return some books. As I did so, a guy and a girl just got up from their table. It seems they just wrapped up working on an assignment. This being Sweden, they of… Continue reading A Great Example of Anti-Game
One of the most persistent half-truths in the seduction and red pill communities is that confidence gets you laid. “Just be confident, bro!,” you were told. However, just like it was with the ever-elusive quality of having a sense of humor, unattractive men didn’t seem to be able to develop enough confidence to bang top… Continue reading Anti-Game and The Problem of Lack of Confidence
A question that is on the mind of many men who are trying to bang more women is how they can know that she is interested in you. This is easy: you will (almost) never know until you approach her. While in movies, and porn, it is commonly the woman who does all the work,… Continue reading Do not Wait for Strong Signals!
Imagine you ask your boss if you could get a certain qualification, of course sponsored by the company. At first he is a bit skeptical yet mildly supportive, telling you that you should hit some milestones first or maybe just put in a few more years. You diligently do that. Later, you revisit this topic.… Continue reading Admitting That It Is Not Going to Happen
As has become obvious even to those who used to fully buy into the promises of the pick-up industry, “game” does not exist. If she is not attracted to you, then approaching her from a 45-degree angle from behind or asking her if she flosses before or after brushing is not going to get her… Continue reading Do you have Anti-Game?
Recently, a concern-trolling reader posted some rather insulting comment on here, which can be found in The Open Thread #48. Said reader, whom I suspect to be female, posted the following video. As you can see, it exploits people with disabilities. The viewer is supposed to feel sympathy for their plight. Despite their deformities and… Continue reading Your Personality is Irrelevant
Some time ago a Chinese music video went viral in which a girl group sang that in order to date a guy, he has to have a house and a car. This was good for a chuckle. Here is the video: As I remembered this, I did a bit of research on dating customs in… Continue reading Honest Chinese vs Dishonest Western Dating
Blog reader Yarara left an interesting comment on my post “How Women Turn Chads into Misogynists” that sparked some discussion. He wrote: I am not calling you wrong, but have you considered the possibility that you have some selection bias due to the female pool you predominantly tapped into (figuratively and literally). While my lay… Continue reading Are Women in Clubs of a Lower Quality?
The YouTube channel IncelTV hosts the following clip, which was shared with us by blog reader Lisbon. It contains scenes from a dating show called “Take me Out” that seems to be designed to boost the ego of women and shatter the ego of unattractive men. Have a look: As cruel as this TV show… Continue reading This TV Show Demonstrates how much Looks matters
In the comments section, we have been talking about the monetization of online dating and the perceived need to, for instance, “boost” your profile on Tinder to get more matches. A few years ago, Tinder was quite a gold mine for many. However, over time, even guys who used to do exceptionally well have noticed… Continue reading Tinder does not care whether you get laid
Recently one of my readers mentioned a resource I was not familiar with, incels.wiki. While I view the incel community with some skepticism due to its often evident defeatism, that does not mean that a lot of the knowledge gathered over there is without value. Quite the contrary, in fact. In particular, I would like… Continue reading Scientific Realism in Dating
Recently I was asked a rather peculiar question. The guy’s issue was that he seemed to only ever meet women who are in a relationship. Consequently, he was wondering what he should do and where he could find single women. Questions like this reveal that (honest) men are at a serious disadvantage in the dating… Continue reading You’ll rarely meet single women
I listened to Turd Flinging Monkey’s latest video earlier today. In it, he jokes that a model who is used to getting clothes, flights, and meals paid for might think that this is how people treat each other. He is certainly right that a young, attractive woman may easily form a warped view of the… Continue reading Young Women Aren’t Used to Paying for Anything
This is a guest post written by my wife. As a preamble, I’ll state that Asian women are generally viewed as desirable and the fatter and more toxic Western women become, the more white guys will lust after Asians. Yet, language and culture can be a problem. You probably have no interest in dating a… Continue reading Guest Post: Singaporean Women
