One of the most important insights about women is that their basic behavior will not change if her environment changes. To put it simply, a woman who is supportive when you are poor and striving will not become less supportive if you achieve some success in your career. This also works in the negative: a woman who is bitching when you are struggling will not change her ways after you have turned your life around. Similarly, a woman who loves spending money will love spending money no matter how much money there is to be spent. It is a big mistake to get involved with a woman who cannot control her personal finances. As this is an important topic, I will look at it in more detail.

I recall from my student days that there were guys talking about how much their girlfriends cost them. I am talking about guys of normal means. Their girlfriends, who were also attending university, wanted to eat out frequently and some even had ideas about shopping trips to other cities, which is quite bizarre as the days of restricted regional availability of products is almost completely gone, so much so that it is irrelevant for the average person. I recall one guy saying that he is looking forward to finally having a proper job and making decent money as he wanted the tension, if not fights, over money and how to spend it to go away.

Unfortunately, a woman’s attitude towards money will not change. If she feels entitled to you financing her every whim, it is irrelevant if you barely get by or make solid six figures. To her, your money is hers to spend. Of course, she will easily find ways to utilize your money. In her student days she may have been fine with eating out at a chain restaurant. However, the moment there is even just the prospect of more money, she will upgrade her lifestyle. The good news of having gotten a job offer she will take as an excuse to go to a nice restaurant to “celebrate”, if not to take a short trip with you that vaporizes half your first paycheck before you have even earned it. If you never want to save up a decent nest egg, getting involved with this kind of woman is one way of achieving that.

If you are fighting over money with your woman, it is more or less irrelevant how much money there is. Of course, I assume that your finances are stable. Should you go into debt because of a gambling habit or a drug addiction, your wife or girlfriend is probably quite justified to complain about that. In most other situations, the root of the conflict is probably that she wants to spend more money that you are comfortable with. Such a woman will always want more than she, and you, can really afford. I have seen an incredible sense of entitlement in some women regarding money, including adult women throwing a fit if you tell them that you are not going to casually drop a few hundred euros on a dress or shoes for her. Even if you can afford this easily, you are a lot better off with someone else.