A question I have been asked quite a few times over the years is how to leverage financial success into getting girls. This question often came from geeks how suddenly found themselves making a fair bit of money, for instance as software engineers, as well as guys who became rich, sometimes accidentally, for instance due to buying BTC at the right time. I spoke to outliers who told me that they are worth over ten million dollars. Obviously, these guys were not interested in paying for whores directly. They did not want to be only milked for their money, but they felt they were at a point in their life where they should perhaps settle down. This is the point where I normally talk with them about this problem first, but normally they have made up their mind, and if they want to find a girlfriend or a wife, then so be it.

I quipped about these guys not wanting to pay for whores directly. However, for guys who lack experience paying for a few whores is a great way to gain a better understanding of women. In the end, all women trade looks for resources. Whores are simply much more upfront about it. A whore will spread her legs for $200 or so. In contrast, a girl you have to woo in order for her to spread her legs takes your time and money. This is a cynical view. Nonetheless, you bring resources to the table and she has her youth and beauty. Obviously, there has to be chemistry, but if you are broke, it normally does not matter how much the two of you like each other. She is not going to move in with you.

Guys who study hard, and work hard to get that promotion are not always the kind of guy who gets laid a lot. Of course there are high-T men who fuck a lot, drink a lot, and work really hard, but these guys normally know how to use money in order to get girls, and this applies both to the infamous $30k millionaire as well as the high-income earner in the banking industry. For the average guy who followed the blue-pill script into his 30s, on the other hand, it is not obvious how to do that.

In my recent post on the ideal female dating strategy, which is a companion piece to this article, I pointed out that women need to put themselves in front of the most eligible men, while keeping into account that they compete with other women against these men. It makes no sense for some 6/10 to blow half a year’s earnings just so that she can afford to vacation in a luxury destination. There are much prettier girls there and the rich men there will not even notice a merely average-looking woman.

As a guy, you should also think about the kind of woman you want to attract. By and large, you will find more attractive women, and more of them, in bigger cities. The reason is simple: some women want to use their looks to get ahead in life and because the best men they could get in their small home town do not meet their standards, they move to NYC or LA. Plenty of these women are completely deluded but quite a few are not. You can of course get lucky and find a local woman who is attractive, modest, and wants a guy just like you but you may need to move elsewhere to get access to a bigger dating pool.

Your willingness to move may not be high but it is certainly worth considering. Oftentimes, this also leads to getting higher-paid work so it can even pay off financially. This is one way of using your money to attract female attention. Then you need a place to live. I would strongly advise you not to put up a facade and overspend because you are setting a baseline of expectations for the women you are going to meet. If they learn that you live in an apartment in a luxury residential tower that was designed by a world-renowned architect, then she will want at least this, and if you can barely afford your studio apartment in this building, you will struggle severely to get a bigger place.

Once the questions regarding city and housing have been tackled, you look at your car and your clothes. Again, my advice is not to overspend. Sadly, there is a correlation that more attractive women are more status-conscious, so they expect you to have a certain lifestyle. I recall that women I briefly dated told me that I should get a car or find a nicer place. They concretely told me what they expected, i.e. “at least a used Mercedes”, and a bigger place in this or that part of the city. Not doing that did not exactly prolong these relationships but as I was not looking for anything serious back then this was not really a problem. Yet, if you do want a girlfriend, then having a decent-enough car goes a long way. Again, stay within your budget, and even if you can afford a supercar maybe think twice because there is a big difference between getting a gold-digging whore as a girlfriend or a girl who simply wants a guy who has his life together and who does not know, nor does she need to know, how much money you really have.

Next on the list are clothes. Make sure your clothes fit well and the colors work for you. You can buy expensive brands if you want. Again, don’t overdo it! If you are going above a solid upper-middle-class brand like Ralph Lauren you are probably overspending. Even among the really rich you see this brand. Just look at your budget and see what makes sense to you, and keep in mind that you are setting a baseline for you girlfriend and that she may expect that you buy her comparable clothes. Maybe also check what dresses cost because if you are pretending to be easily able to afford the typical US upper-middle-class clothing brands, she may want you to buy her such shoes and dresses regularly.

There is more you can do with your money. If you are not in good shape, get a personal trainer. While you do not need a personal trainer to work on your body, probably having someone else you pay and set a schedule for you helps you keep up your motivation. Besides, if you are a fattie then probably you do have a hard time making it to the gym. Obviously, you can find a lot of well-off men who could lose a few pounds. They still get laid but most definitely they would have more and better sex, and with hotter women, if they slimmed down a little.

You may also want to consider cosmetic surgery or other procedures to improve your looks. It is already extremely common among women to get cosmetic surgery, and it will help you, too. On a side note, breast implants among women are incredibly popular. In Europe women often go up one cup size or so, meaning that you see less of the cliched US-style huge fake tits. Oftentimes men seem to even be oblivious to the fact that their chick has gotten fake tits. As a guy, you probably do not want to get pec implants but perhaps a nose job, hair transplant, or jawline contouring can boost you from a 6/10 to an 8/10. Lastly, if your teeth are wonky, get braces. I used to have an overbite and less than straight teeth. In my teens I could have gotten braces for free but my mother was against it, so I had to get it as an adult. It took longer and it was obviously more expensive, and some issues could not be fully fixed. Nonetheless, the result was a night-and-day difference. If you have not had braces in the past then your teeth most likely are no perfectly straight. With money, you can fix this, and if you pay a bit more you can get a procedure like Invisalign, i.e. virtually invisible braces. It is definitely worth it.

As you can see, there is a lot you can do if you have money but do not have a girl. You may now ask yourself how to actually get girls. This is basically unchanged but once you have worked on your appearance and living situation, a lot more women should notice you, for better or worse. You still have to approach them, of course. Be mindful what you are getting into, though. You may just get what you wanted but the outcome could very well be unlike what you expected. Of course, you can always course-correct later and go back to being a hermit or dating casually again. Yet, even the latter should be a lot easier after you have upgraded yourself and become a more desirable you, in the eyes of the typical woman.