I obviously do not need to tell you that female beauty peaks early and that they all hit the wall in their mid-30s, give or take a few years. However, what is perhaps not so easy to visualize is how rapid this process is and how much different women look who are not even that much older. I had one such encounter recently, which illustrated this point very well.
A few week ago I went to see a doctor. As most doctors, this one had an all-female staff. In front of me was a woman in her early 40s. Being a boomer in spirit, she ran into an issue with her computer, which she could not resolve. Thus, she had to ask one of her colleagues for help. That woman was a still pretty attractive blonde, probably in her early 30s. She did not wear a ring on her ring finger, so presumably she was unmarried and not engaged either.
The danger of the early-30s woman is that there are a lot of men who pursue them, in particular if they are still quite attractive. This woman surely has plenty of suitors. However, you need to be able to look a few years ahead. At 32 or 33 she may still look pretty okay, but a mere seven or eight years later, that will be gone. Menopausal women, for obvious reasons, lack all sex appeal. Nature intended them to be grandmothers at that point, not sex objects for young men. Put a woman in her early 30s right next to one in her early 40s who looks a bit similar, and you will not be able to deny how big the difference is, regardless of how well the woman in her 40s managed to retain her looks.
A man marrying a woman in her early to mid-30s essentially acquires a rapidly depreciating asset, but he may not be aware of this and instead just consider how she looks in the present. Yet, these men get at best a few short years of mildly good looks out of such a woman, and afterwards they have to support them for decades. Of course, there are other issues such as the narrowing fertility window. Once they get baby rabies, which they all seem to do in their mid-30s, the men involved with these women are not going to have such a great time either.
If you want to marry, better go for someone much younger. Not only will she retain her looks for a lot longer, you will also have a lot more time, being able to space out the birth of your children a bit, for instance. In contrast, older women want to rush you through all stages. Even on the first date, they may tell you that they want to have children and that they cannot wait any longer, which is a great way to kill the interest of most men as this is simply not an appropriate statement to make when you know virtually nothing of the other person.
Thanks to feminism, there’s no shortage of 19yos with daddy issues looking for older men. Epic own goal.
Whoop! Amen to THAT brother!
Now I just gotta find them.
I don’t disagree what Aaron said, however, I do wish to add something. While it is true that if a man marries a 33-year old, he will soon get a rapidly aging woman, nevertheless, if the woman is attractive, he could in theory have gotten good genes, as in, beauty for his children, at a discounted price. A woman in her 30s tends to be a bit desperate and is likely to lower her standards or make compromises. When the same woman is still young, in her early 20s, she will be such hot stuff that she will be out of his reach. At 33, she no longer is in such great demand. Yet her genes remain the same. His offspring would be equally beautiful regardless of when she got pregnant. Yes, there might be some issues with egg quality but at early 30s, it’s not that bad yet.
I’ve found the opposite to be true. It’s much easier for me to get 23 year olds than 33 year olds. Like I actually want to date 33 year olds but they make it so difficult.
It’s the 23 year olds who give a discount, not the 33 year olds.
This is a similar fallacy to the one where guys think plain Janes are easier to pick up .. but it’s a fallacy. More beautiful girls tend to make seduction easier. Especially since every other guy is under the wrong impression that plain Janes should be easy so they get hit on more, not less, because everyone thinks they’re at a discount. There was even a name for this fallacy I just don’t remember it.
Interesting thoughts, Jessica! I never even thought of that before.
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That’s a very unusual experience, Alek. Older women are usually easier to pick up than younger women. I don’t know why your experience is so atypical, though. Maybe the circles you move in, or something?
It’s interesting, because when feminist extremists see a man with a much younger woman, they’ll often comment like “He couldn’t get a woman his own age!” and I’ve chuckled at that, because of their belief that it’s easier to get a young girl than one closer in age.
(I’m not calling you a feminist. I just find it interesting that you guys ended up with the same viewpoint of what girls are easier to get, though it’s quite obvious that your reasoning behind it is quite different.)
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You touch on two myths in your post, that are almost opposite. One is the myth that attractive women can barely leave the house because of being hit on, as if men were just lining up to have a go at her. The other one is the myth that average women get hit on more than attractive women.
Maybe it has to do with most people meeting through friends. I’ve heard older women are super easy in social circle, and two of my easiest bangs were older women in social circle.
However most of the chicks I meet aren’t though friends, and in that context older chicks are a nightmare. They make it really hard and put up a ton of barriers. Whereas younger women if attracted let you bang in no time.
As for the relation to what feminists say. As usual, it’s a distortion.
Older single women tend to be the bitter leftovers. They’re the women who kept trying to bang one dude out of their league after another only to be pump and dumped.
So when they’re 30+ and single they tend to overcompensate for being so easy in their 20s and they make swing to the other extreme.
So feminists reinterpret this bitterness as supposed selectivity and being wise “unlike younger chicks”. They’re not wise. They’re still sluts at heart which is why they have to put up all these false exaggerated constraints.
One other exception I think is when you’re a much younger man. Like an 18 year old good looking dude slumming it with MILF’s. The reason apparently is because for women, dating much younger men is considered a status downgrade. Hence, when they go into it, they (generally speaking) don’t intend or expect anything serious or long term. (maybe FWB long term) That cougar energy right there!
Reminds me of that 29 year old chick that threw herself at me back when I was 18 in early college:
https://blog.aaronsleazy.com/index.php/2022/06/02/sticky-open-thread-222/
Then again, because of my weight, I definitely looked much older than I really was. She might not have actually realized I was much younger. (I also don’t think women do this with men they just want to bang. she probably wanted to nab me into a relationship with how she was behaving.)
Its a shame I didn’t find her attractive (She made it so obvious that even clueless gameless early college me could have closed it), but I’m proud to know at least I was never rude to her. In a sense, I suppose I’ve got her to thank for initiating me to looking into this rabbit hole and eventually discovering the things I do now.
This is an excellent comment, Jessica! I just published a separate article with my thoughts on this topic.