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AlekNovy, you around?
You’ve talked quite a bit about Skincare in the past. May I ask if you happen to use any specific soap product?
I’ve definitely been neglectful with using lotion, it gets inconvenient but I get that’s on me and I really should care more. I’ve been using Kojic Papaya Soap(recommended by my sister) however. Its definitely doing a good job at smoothening my skin. There might be more ideal options though, which you might know about hence I ask.
This is probably a good place to post this.
I’m getting a bit sick of my job again.
There’s been the discussion here I’m sure re “do what u love “ Vs. “ learn many marketable skills” (if I recall). Whereby marketable skills trumped working in a passions or following dreams.
how do I figure out my next career move ?
Are those Personality surveys n stuff any good for that. Any of you guys done a successful career change and love it?
I think the only way I’ll care about a job is to run my own business tbh .
Or do a part time gig doing what I really love .. (creative endeavours like music / art etc)
But there’s no money in that. Can figure out my next career move atm.
Should I just “leap and the net will appear”?
Network more…?
There is a good chance that you will get tired of any job you are ever going to have. Even if you run your own business there will be aspects you dislike, perhaps chasing after your clients because they do not pay their bill or dealing with government bureaucrats when you apply for a project.
Ain’t that the harsh truth.
“If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life.”
Another quote, but this time, its sadly not totally true. I find fulfillment in training Martial Arts for example, and I might even want to compete in MMA one day just for the experience, but would I ever want a career as a professional fighter? (putting aside of question if I even have what it takes to begin with) Definitely not. Those guys train/work like DOGS, and pay pretty steep prices in terms of their health down the line.
Muhammad Ali has talked before about how he hated every minute of training, but gritted his teeth through it all to achieve greatness. According to Wikipedia, he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s in 1984 which only worsened throughout the years till his death in 2016.
I can already imagine it, and it would suck all the life, love, and fulfillment out of the activity. I don’t have to be the best or most badass fighter in the world (and it only makes sense to pursue this if that is what you want the most. UFC Fighters get paid like peanuts. Hopefully in the future, they will make as much as world class boxers.) to be more trouble than I’m worth, and that is enough for me.
There’s been more than a few reports out of there of folks successfully making a living out of their passion, only for that passion to turn into something they dread because of all the complications that come with trying to make a living out of it. You can take a break from a hobby whenever you want, but not from something you need to do to put food on the table.
I’ve developed the theory (feel free to take it with a grain of salt, its not something I have personal experience with. I’m just getting the idea out there) that, the best compromise you can probably hope for is to make a living (or a business) out of something you LIKE, but not something you LOVE. (unless you truly have no other choice. Life do be like that)
This way, you at least don’t end up with the kind of work you hate/are indifferent to (especially if manage to make a living out of something that works towards a pursuit that has personal meaning to you) without tainting what you look forward to when work is over.
This is all assuming life gives you a choice in the matter of course.
@Sleazy.
This is somewhat true.
I think the key is in the ‘passion’ for a particular area though. Something that holds almost endless fascination somehow. And probably something from childhood & teen years according to these career change advice gurus.
Perhaps the fascination and thirst for more knowledge would trump the grind elements of the job perhaps. 🤷🏻♂️
To me it’s having 3 jobs this past year. A steady part time a job with leave & benefits 3 days pw, a better paying casual job 2 days pw with penalty rates for shifts and a hobby weekender job or passive income stream type thing. That way I have a mix of work and different tasks to keep me from boredom. But the con of this is shift work and working odd hours.
A salaried 5 days per week office computer based corporate job I don’t think I can go back to again.
It doesn’t pay enough for the stress and bullshit.
And I could never “switch off” from thinking about work in the evenings and weekends.
Upcoming meetings, upcoming projects, KPI reports, budgets , forecasts. planning , variances, corporate values, bullshit HR etc etc
It’s the cumulative stress of planning and analysis jobs that got me in the end.
I put the hard work in .. but it’s all a big game at the higher level in the end. Mgt have their own agenda anyway.
Aaron,
Out of curiosity, are you into good old American Country Music?
I know virtually nothing about this genre but feel free to recommend a few artist or records.
I was never a huge fan of Country, but this guy appeals to almost everybody.
Chris, did u ever listen to 91X? Not sure if the signal reached you, but he was a country singer who even apealed to punk rock fans:
https://youtu.be/AeZRYhLDLeU?si=kmf9FlEGGl_W1JCQ
Aaron,
Country music is a genre that you will either love or hate. I grew up listening to county music as a kid. Country music focuses on themes like marital discord, alcohol abuse, love, breakups, family, alienation from work – blue collar jobs, life in rural America, conservative values etc.
A lot of people are unaware of the depth country music has. Many people associate country music with redneck people (white people) who are fundamentally Christians who are xenophobic.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Country_music
I honestly don’t know where to start, but there are so many great country music artists. I listen to old country genres and sub genres, western, and honky tonk. Modern day country music sucks as it lacks substance and it tends to be very pop.
Here is a list of some country singers.
Johnny Cash – Cocaine Blues
Rosanne Cash (Johnny Cash daughter) – Tennessee Flats
Nitty Gritty Dirt Band – Fishin in the Dark
Dwight Yoakam – Little Ways
Charlie Pride – Crystal Chandeliers
Bill Anderson – Po Folks
Tom T Hall – The Year that Clayton Delaney Died
Ray Price – Heartaches by the Number
Rodney Crowell – I couldn’t leave you if I tried
Porter Wagoner – Carroll County Accident
Ferlin Husky -Wings of a Dove
Hank Thompson – Oklahoma Hills.
Merle Haggard – Okie from Muskogee (Muskogee is a city in Oklahoma)
Alan Jackson – Chattahoochee
Billy Ray Cyrus – Achy Breaky Heart
Clink Black – A better man
Anita Carter – Lovin’ Him Was Easier
Moe Bandy – Picture in a Frame
Ricky Skaggs – Honey (Open That Door)
The O’Kanes -Imagine That
Bellamy Brothers – Old Hippie
Clint Black – Killin’ Time; A better Man
Hank Williams – Family Tradition
Shania Twain – Honey, I’m home
Sammy Kershaw – Yard Sale
Thanks for this comprehensive list. I recognize a few names. The themes you mention also feature heavily in the lyrics of some mainstream artists. I recall Bruce Springsteen’s Nebraska record. Even his most popular song, Born in the U.S.A., is about alienation from society.
@GoodLookingAndSleazy
No, I have not. The signal is not able to reach me.
If you are interested in listening to country music here are some few country radio stations you can listen in your cell phone or computer.
KZNQ QCountry 101.5; Santa Clarita, Cali
https://www.qcountryscv.com/
105.1 Go Country, San Bernardino, Cali
https://gocountry105.com/
KJAX 93.5 FM Jackson Hole, Wyoming
https://www.kjax.live/
96.1 & 102.1 The Wolf; Idaho Falls, Idaho
https://wolfidaho.com/
101.9 The Bull; Boise Idaho
https://boisebull.com/
102.3 The Coyote; La Verkin, Utah
https://coyote1023.fm/
99.9 KONY Country; St George Utah
https://999konycountry.com/
101.5 Country, Salt Lake City, Utah
https://hankfmutah.com/
104.3 Country, Salt Lake City, Utah
https://www.z104country.com/
I like country music. I think Blowin’ in the wind by Bob Dylan was influenced by country music.
This genre is what makes America unique.
Most topics of country music interests me, really!
Here’s another they used to play on 91X (San Diego). It’s Hank 3 (Hank Williams III). It always made me chuckle:
https://youtu.be/1ZyL0TWFeLE?si=4ZEH2OttiSUxmr5s
Here’s another funny one. From “The Man in Black” himself:
https://youtu.be/-Z1Ple-qYuU?si=A-OXccyNFeICTCEe
I like country music because it is kind of similar to Blues. They sing about rough edges of life, which should be the perennial topic for art.
If you listen to more songs, you will notice certain melodies are rockable, which means they can be turned into rock.
Country music and rock have more similarities than you think.
You’re right CQV. Rock-‘n’-roll is heavy influenced by Country, Jazz, and Gospel. Elvis and Jerry Lee Louis are good examples. Even rockabilly is more Country than rock-‘n’-roll IMO.
I recently watched the movie Monster Hunter, primarily because I was curious about Tony Jaa’s performance. Even though the movie is total crap, I found it quite engaging at times. Anyone enjoying King Kong or Godzilla movies probably finds plenty to like in the CGI battles against monsters in this movie. The art direction is quite good at times.
To briefly address the movie: there is no proper story. The movie does not really go anywhere. In that regard, it perhaps mirrors the gameplay loop of the Monster Hunter vidya franchise quite well. You need to be able to look past the ridiculous girl boss in this movie, played by an aged Milla Jovovich. Amusingly, that woman is the wife of the director. He puts her in basically all his movies.