A while ago I wrote an article about why wasting money is female status signalling. True to the old adage that time is money, wasting time is also female status signalling. With both, the underlying issue is that women engage in some kind of competition for resource depletion in order to undermine their competition. This may sound utterly bizarre, but I think the basic principle is that the most well-off women are keen on spending excess money in order to make other women deplete their resources. Thus, the alpha female in this example will look even better in comparison.
Female competition works much differently than male competition, and if you have not interacted with many women, you may be completely oblivious to it. There are well-known phenomena such as women encouraging others to slut it up, getting tattoos, or cutting their hair. In particular, older, married women can be seen giving horribly bad advice to younger women who could easily outcompete them in the sexual marketplace. They do not want their boyfriend or husband to fall for some young thot, and the best way to prevent that is, in addition from preventing their partner from ever meeting those women, is to make them look less attractive. This is not some kind of schizo thinking. You will find that some women have complete disdain for their supposed friend, but they spend time with them so that they can influence them and lead them towards making poor life decisions.
Women love to waste time. They think nothing of spending one or two hours chatting to one of their besties, and doing this every single day. Some women spend basically their entire spare time, and a good chunk of their working hours, on the phone, talking, texting, or clitting around on social media and dating apps. They also love to meet up their supposed friends for brunch or lunch or dinner. On top, they see great value in going on shopping sprees; among the wealthy in Europe, this means flying to Milan, Paris or London for a day — I met such women during my time in London. It is absolutely laughable.
All of the aforementioned activities are wholly frivolous. They are social events first and foremost, and those women want to be seen squandering their time. It is not as if they have particularly interesting conversation. Female conversations tend to center around the most mundane crap you can imagine. Similarly, it probably takes a particular kind of retardation to really think that you need to fly to a different city to buy expensive clothes, in particular if Daddy’s little thot is already living in London.
There is a clear status hierarchy among women: those women who have the busiest social lives, which is facilitated by having a lot of spare time, normally enjoy the highest status among their peers. This does not apply to women who prefer more solitary activities, like reading books, of course. In addition, there is a harsh social hierarchy among women that does not really exist among men. Upper-class women do not want to be seen with upper-middle-class women, for instance. In contrast, men are a lot more relaxed about this. For instance, I have had lunch with a small number of multimillionaires, some were coaching clients but most were work-related encounters, or supposedly informal meetings as part of a hiring process. This was never about any kind of status signaling. Obviously, I am nowhere near their level, but for one reason or another, those guys were interested in talking to me and those were very focused conversations. I do not think that women would do that. To them, there is a need for repeated interactions, i.e. biweekly lunches with the same group of people, and they use subtle methods to filter out women who are of a lower status. This can mean picking restaurants of a certain price category, or asking for commitments that Jane Doe who needs to work shifts will not be able to meet because the supposedly casual lunch meeting would not be done in 45 minutes. Instead, it would go on as long as possible, almost as if they want to see who will have to leave first.
The most extreme case I am aware of involves three women I know from my university days. After graduation, they occasionally posted pictures of meet-ups on social media, gushing over their besties. Their ritual was to semi-spontaneously meet up in different cities all over the globe for a weekend of shopping and partying. As you can imagine, this is only possible for women who do not really need to work because their family bankrolls them. Even if some chick pulls down solid six figures, she cannot engage in such antics as she will likely need to recover from a grueling 50-hour workweek. That group of women seemed to eventually have disbanded as they got hitched, which leads to the interesting phenomenon that women in relationships do not want to be friends with women who are single. Similarly, women with children prefer to be friends with other mothers.
Obviously, women who are not in a position that is as privileged as her peers will not be able to keep up the charade for long. Some chose to spend their time and money recklessly, just to keep up appearances, but this kind of behavior sooner or later catches up with them. In recent months, we have even seen women getting laid off from cushy non-tech jobs at tech companies because they were not doing any work — in the past, this was A-OK, thanks to endless money printing. Any rational man could have told those women that it was not a good idea for them to post videos of themselves doing virtually no work all day, besides “vibing” with their colleagues and drinking wine on tap at the Twitter HQ. However, this is not how those women viewed it. For them, not doing anything productive with their time symbolized extremely high status among their peers, and this is why they could not resist the temptation to broadcast to the world that they are getting paid six figures at some Big Tech corporation despite only working about two hours a week. By doing that, they signaled to the world that they are almost at the level of women who do not need to work at all.
If you were really interested in a chick, yet she expected a lot of time from you via in person or over the phone, how would you go about setting healthy boundaries in this case? I’ve had chicks that were super aloof and cold, and others that seemingly want to consume your entire being.
There are plenty of such women around. Tell her that you have things to do or that you are tired from work. There should be no need for her to talk to you on the phone every day for an hour or more.
I knew a chick that wanted to facetime all the time. She’d call me when she was at her girlfriend’s sitting in the living room with her and just chatting. She’d just want me on the phone for no reason, just to be there—even if I wasn’t included in the interaction. It was insane, but it corroborates your article perfectly. Just how women will attempt to waste a people’s time for the sake of doing it.
This woman wanted you to be there so that she can control you and knows what you are up to. Otherwise, in her little rodent-sized brain, you could be out banging three chicks an afternoon behind her back. On a related note, my ex-wife at one point picked up the habit of wanting to talk to me on the way back from work, every single day. It did not take me long to figure out why. As it turned out, the hospital she worked at was in a somewhat remote area and she had to not only cross a huge parking lot but also walk through a sketchy neighborhood. She was all for mass immigration, so she did not dare to admit that she was simply scared to be in these areas after dark. In Sweden the sun sets pretty early, so this situation must really have freaked her out.
I would advise not pursuing. If you give in to her, she’ll get bored with you very quickly. If you give her the attention she thinks she wants, she’ll start to think you’re the one who is needy, because women’s lack of empathy extends to their own emotions – they understand only how they’re feeling in the present moment.
I remember this girl at my old job who would spend both of her entire breaks on the phone to her boyfriend – as in, she would call him at the very start of her break and would not hang up until right before she went back to work. I left that job soon after, but I’m pretty sure that girl’s relationship didn’t last much longer.
Aaron: “Otherwise, in her little rodent-sized brain, you could be out banging three chicks an afternoon behind her back.”
This was funny to me. It also made me think about the topic of female solipsism again, or perhaps something related to it. That being the fact that some dude might be striking out 98/100, yet because this one chick spread her legs for him she assumes that most chicks also want to bang him. The reason having to do more with her arrogance rather than the guy’s actual SMV.
Aaron: “She was all for mass immigration, so she did not dare to admit that she was simply scared to be in these areas after dark.”
This would appear to be a rather special case.
Parker: “If you give her the attention she thinks she wants, she’ll start to think you’re the one who is needy, because women’s lack of empathy extends to their own emotions – they understand only how they’re feeling in the present moment.”
I feel like this is more of an issue when the guy is the one initiating most of the contact. I always find myself responding to texts/calls/facetiming and being the one to excuse myself first (to go play video games, prepare food or go to bed etc.).
“I always find myself responding to texts/calls/facetiming and being the one to excuse myself first…”
I wanted to add to this that this is the case once sex has already happened and assuming she enjoyed it (had an orgasm). With some chicks it was like pulling teeth to get them to fuck (even though they initially sparked the chase by acting like they really wanted it), yet once they’ve submitted you can ease off and not have to chase them anymore to continue the courtship or whatever.
I’ve also found this weird, but never brought it up until now. It’s weird how it always happens. Like you can get rejected by a bunch of chicks, get laid by one, and right after you have sex, the questioning starts, where she’s trying to learn about your harem, and how many different chicks you banged like this in the past week.
My theory/impression was a bit different though. Aside from solipsism, I think our sexual confidence is the reason chicks do this. They’re not used to guys being this sexually confident. I think that’s why they assume we banged a 100 other chicks this year, not just solipsism. Most guys take it slower. If you move fast and escalate fast, you’re in the top 0.1% in terms of that, even if you’re not in the top 0.1% of actual chicks laid.
My friends and I were recently discussing this, since we noticed quite a few examples. The recent one being this super super ultra-feminine girl (super-thin, humble, virginal-like and also nice)… then she started hanging out with a slut (an actual 4 with horrible genetics both in face and body). And then we noticed how she started convincing her to start boozing, partying and spend all her money (her every and last cent in earnings) in travelling and partying in different locations (I assume also convinced her to bang random dudes).
She fattened up, her energy changed into that of a frustrated slut. The transformation was astonishing. She literally turned from the kind of 10 a billionaire would marry, into a chick no longer as viable. So it became pretty obvious that the ugly sluts do this to the pretty girls on purpose.
In the meantime Alexander Grace also released a video on this:
https://youtu.be/8ly9UmtLbhU?si=CmPED9ULgmf-Adr8&t=297
It’s at 4 minutes and 57 seconds.
The point Alexander Grace makes is also valid, i.e. women dragging others down to their level. The angle in my article is a bit different, though, as it is about women trying to ruin other women but in ways that do not meaningfully affect their standing. In the hookup example, it would be women who pretend to be sluts who encourage other women to hook up with random guys or encouraging them to have sex with “rocket scientists” while they themselves refrain. I have also witnessed women encouraging others to drink more than was good for them while their own drinking was much more restrained, even going so far as them acting drunk even though they are almost sober. This is most remarkable when you pull such a woman away from her group and she suddenly changes and acts normal again. The most detestable examples I can think of involve women in their 30s trying to get women in their early 20s hooked on drugs but this seems to normally happen with the misery-loves-company motivation mentioned in that video.
I just recalled that I came across some amateur porn video years ago in which a couple of women and a few guys were having some kind of orgy, and one of the women barely did anything but encouraged the others to let loose. Thus, she could have the cake and eat it, too. She was still part of the fun but unlike her friends, she did not act like a total whore. Contrary to mainstream signaling, women are very concerned about how they are being perceived, so stories of them taking two or three dicks at some private party would seriously harm their reputation.
“The point Alexander Grace makes is also valid, i.e. women dragging others down to their level.”
To quote some borrowed wisdom:
– They don’t have friends, they have frenemies.
– They live under communism. The few smart ones meet a good man and get out. The others, of course, will do anything to prevent them escaping over the wall.
“I just recalled that I came across some amateur porn video years ago in which a couple of women and a few guys were having some kind of orgy, and one of the women barely did anything but encouraged the others to let loose.”
Years ago there was a pornwhore named Havoc something who played this role on a recurring basis for a mainstream porn site. She annoyed the fans because she was hot but never did any more than show her tits or maybe give a handjob. I looked her up a while back and, surprise, she’s now an e-thot, but presumably only because she’s no longer young, thin, or tat-free.