Just a few decades ago, it was quite normal that women started having children in their early twenties. Yet, in the wake of women’s liberation, childbirth happens much later and much less often. Among university-educated Western women, there is now a sizeable minority, I think it is around 25%, who remain childless. The mass media certainly does a great job discouraging women from wanting to have children. How appealing is it to squeeze a fetus through your vagina when the alternative consists of standing around in a night club, hoping for Chad to swing by? Also, there is the promise of endless variety and the seeming prospect of landing an absolute top-notch partner on Tinder. In reality, those women may get Chad only for a quick romp in the bathroom stall, and most will only dream of that.
Instead of settling for a man who would be an adequate match, today’s women hold out for men who are almost impossible to get. I would argue that any woman in her 20s or 30s who is still not willing to settle down is delusional because if she could have gotten Chad, she would have gotten him already. Not willing to admit this to themselves, they keep dating. They often date men without having any serious interest in them. The issue is that they rather have someone than nobody at all. Yet, those guys they spend months or even one or two years with are more than just harmless placeholders. Those women simply waste their time with them.
Because the Giga-Chad those women want is just now showing up and those women are still holding out, their desire to have children is likewise only expressed in vague terms. They consequently say that they want to have children “someday”. Bizarrely enough, you can even hear women in their late 20s or early 30s say that. They only change their tune in their mid-30s when their biological urges to procreate become too strong to ignore. In fact, mother nature has it arranged so that those women become a lot less picky as they get older. Their internal state can be aptly described as one of sustained panic. At this point, you don’t need to be Chad. Quite the contrary, this is the golden opportunity of the Beta Buxxer! A hottie past her prime at 36 is more than eager to shack up with guys who are merely good enough, and often enough not even that.
Obviously, the previous observation does not apply to all women. Otherwise, we would not have such a pandemic of successful, go-getting, university-educated women who remain childless. In all those instances, however, those women will have spent decades with an unspecific desire to have children. They always only wanted to have children someday. I think if you only want to do something at some unspecified point in the future, you don’t really want to do it. I don’t want to trivialize the matter with the example I’m going to pick, but this reminded me quite of the issue with my backlog of videogames. I don’t have that much time to play games anymore, but I still have a small backlog. However, this is not a chronological backlog. I used to buy stashes of used games on eBay or discounted games on Steam, believing that I want to play them, in principle. However, years later I still haven’t played them, despite thinking that those would be worthwhile games.
If you really want to do something, you will make time to do it. How many guys do you know who told you that they want to write a book? If you want to write a book, then f*cking do it instead of sitting around and thinking about what it will be like to write a book. It’s like with the games I thought I wanted to play, yet never really found the time to. The last big games I played were GTA V, The Witcher III, and Dragon Quest XI. I basically play one big game every two years. In all those cases, they went to the top of my stack right away. Likewise, if a young woman really wanted to become a mother early, she would waste no time with men to fool around with. Instead, she’d try to lock down a guy as soon as possible and get on with it. This would be her main focus. She’d tell you that she wants two kids before the age of 30, or something along those lines. Childless women in their 30s will lose their inhibitions as well. They may tell you on the first date that they want to have kids. This is when their desire to have children becomes concrete instead of being vague and unspecific. Then the problem is whether they can still secure a good enough guy, or any guy at all who is willing to knock them up.
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