On the note of how your typical woman behaves in the workplace, which I wrote about a few times before, I’d like to add a further thought. Occasionally, women I have dated asked me if I like my colleagues, or if I like my boss. I think that kind of question is completely inconceivable and the most honest answer to it is, “I don’t know. I haven’t even thought about it.” To me, and to any man who focuses on his work, a job is a job. Sure, personality plays some role, but it is a fairly irrelevant one if your work can be objectively measured. How many hours do you bill per week on average? How many new customers did you acquire? How much profit did you make?
To me, personality differences come into play when I look at work rendered. If I see sloppy work by colleagues, I deduce that they are not of much use and can’t be trusted with anything important. On the other hand, if the work is up to par, I don’t care much about the person who did it. They could be at the opposite end in terms of his political views, which is the case with some of my co-workers, and I would not care. Why should I? I am not going to talk about politics at work anyway, and I prefer to spend my spare time without a bunch of guys I just so happen to work alongside in the same building during the day.
On the other hand, with women I notice a lot of concern about how they are perceived by others. This is not based on their work but, I presume, themselves. The problem with this is that sloppy work can’t be excused and it shouldn’t. Besides, I find chatty girls in the office completely annoying. Sadly, you can’t tell them to shut up, so you pretend you are busy and ignore them. In this day and age you sometimes need to tolerate diversity hires, so you either put them in a team whose work is completely irrelevant, or give them tasks that are of very low priority and which can be done by someone else quickly if the need arises. You could euphemistically call refer to this as one of the costs of doing business.
Some men could probably also benefit if they focused on their work first, instead of trying to be friends with their colleagues. Go to work, do your job, go home. On that note, I had a few job interviews where there was a “social component”. After a day of interviews, they take you out to a pub or a restaurant, and then you get to play the entertainer, and they judge you on how “likable” you are. Who gives a damn? Well, I don’t, and that is why I don’t work at a place like that. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you can’t get along with your colleagues. Instead, the issue is that you shouldn’t mix your private life and your job. Many women do that, and plenty of guys as well. Tell me that at your company you’re “like a big family” or that “we’re all friends”, and I’m likely to just walk out because the productivity in a place that is dominated by office politics is abysmally low.
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