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I have had this situation come up a few times. I join some group/niche and some of the hottest chicks are the head of the organization or high status within it. For example: dance teacher at a dance studio, organizer of an event, head or highly ranked in some organization.
So I always feel hesitant to hit on them because in case we hook and it goes bad, it could close some doors for me. But I don’t know if I’m being overcautious. (I am an anxious person and sometimes it’s hard to judge when I’m being overly cautious).
Maybe not that big a deal and I’m overthinking it.
Have you had this type of situation arise? What are your thoughts?
“What are your thoughts?”
If the activity and venue itself is something you highly value and not just something you do for casual fun/socializing, then yeah, probably better to refrain. unless they outright hit on you first (or showing super, super strong signals. like you know she’d gladly accept a discreet casual arrangement with you), in which case, its probably a good idea to accept if the feeling is mutual. (there may be an expectation of exclusivity though..) Women do not react to rejection very well in my experience, so things may turn sour anyway if you don’t shoot your shot.
Lets see what the others have to say…