It is about time for me to replace one of my laptops, and I have been sitting on this decisions for a few weeks. In this process, I thought to myself that if I was a stereotypical woman, I would just order a laptop and be done with it, and probably have gone through two to three laptops during the average lifetime of one of mine. Then I thought some more about this specific aspect of female thinking and realized that there is an underlying principle that is expressed in different ways, perhaps so that it is less obvious to the inattentive male what is happening. Obviously, I am not talking about all women but merely “some” women, but there are plenty of these around to assume that there is a pattern.

I have met quite a few women who had a very casual approach towards money. Budgeting was an activity they were either unaware of or thought they did not need to engage in. Instead, they simply spent their money on whatever they felt like and if they ran out of it towards the end of the month, the expected someone else to bail them out, either their parents or their boyfriend. Interestingly, these women were so convinced that others would bail them out that they engaged in risky spending behavior. I mentioned me sitting on the decision of which laptop to buy for weeks. I recall a woman who wanted a new laptop, so she just bought one on a whim, depleting all her funds. Her bank account was either zero or below zero afterwards, and she said she would just not buy any clothes for the rest of the month or eat less, and then she asked me if I could give her, not borrow, a thousand euros. I was speechless.

You really wonder what is going on in the mind of these women. They treat spending money like their love life, assuming that they can do whatever they want and believing that there would be no negative consequences, no matter what they did. They make the decision to spend money, and afterward they look for a way to justify it. There are three statements I recall hearing in this context:
– “I like X. What is wrong with that?”
– “I deserve this.”
– “Everything else has one, too!”

These are all blanket statements that some women perceive to have the properties of undoing the negative perceptions of a bad decision. Quite the contrary is the case, however. The “what is wrong with that?”-defense I have heard a lot. She likes to eat out at a nice restaurant because she likes it. What’s wrong with that, bigot? Similarly, she wants to buy more clothes than she would ever wear, often throwing out clothes without wearing them. Surely, she can have a bit of fun, so do not be so upright, you misogynist! Oh, and because “everyone” has the latest iPhone already, she needs to upgrade hers, too. After all, she wants to fit in.

There are various angles to the aforementioned blanket statements. The reasoning is of course quite idiotic. Just because she likes to spend money on something does not mean that she should do that, and it is also not clear why she would deserve something. Obviously, the mainstream tells them that they deserve anything they want, but that is not much of an argument. Of course, referring to the spending habits of others is downright ludicrous. The other person may be rich, in debt up to their eyeballs or perhaps not spend money on something else so that they can afford the new iPhone or some other status symbol.

I do not think that you should entertain the whims of such a woman. Being unable to control their spending or, worse, their impulses in general, is a huge red flag. You should stay clear of her. No matter what she wants or does, she will not take responsibility for it and instead insist that she should get anything she desires and do whatever she wants, and you should support her, financially or otherwise. Stay away from such women!